Let's talk about lasting longer in bed. Do you struggle to go for longer than 10 minutes? Do you
find it difficult to fight the urge to release? Do you desire to last as long as you want and to
not ejaculate until both of you are ready for it? Would you like to learn simple, proven methods to
make love for much, much longer any time you want? Keep watching till the end to learn everything you
need to master your lasting power. My name is Helena Nista and I make videos that help you
have the best sex of your life. And today I'll be sharing with you my best, most effective methods
to last in bed as long as you want. I see a lot of men in my sex therapy practice and they come to me
with a variety of issues, doubts, questions and desires. But the number one problem that troubles
most of my clients is premature ejaculation. Premature ejaculation is an inability to last
in bed as long as both of you desire, meaning that you lack control over your ejaculation
and that you release before both of you are ready for it. This can typically cause distress to the
man and often also to his lover. So what can you do, starting immediately, to master the art
of lasting longer? Let's first tackle what not to do. Viagra and similar types of medication is just
a band-aid. It doesn't train your body to last longer, it doesn't help you long-term. You need
to keep taking it every time and many men report a number of side effects like dizziness, fatigue,
headaches, upset stomach, nausea, diarrhoea, memory problems, foggy brain, reduced creativity,
ringing in ears, etc., etc, etc. Need I say more? Secondly, numbing creams, gels and sprays. Again,
these are just a band-aid and you'll need to keep buying them and using them each time. Besides,
whatever you put on your cock before penetration will also get transferred to her vagina,
meaning that you'll be also numbing down her delicate bits and reducing her pleasure potential.
And you definitely don't want that! Thinking about grandma. No, just uh-uh. Simply put: no!
Don't do that, don't try to distract yourself. You'll just disconnect from her in the process
and trust me, she will pick up on that, she will feel that you're no longer with her and she won't
like it. So what to do? - you ask. Well, I've got some amazing information for you. But before
I share it, please make sure to like this video and leave me a comment: how long would you like
ideally to last? And if you're ready to go all the way and master the ancient ecstatic methods
of tantric lovers, check out my powerful online course for men Tantric Mastery. Tantric lovers are
known to last for hours - easily! And so can you. I've linked the course in the description below.
And now back to the video! First of all, set an intention. You would be surprised just how
powerful this one can be. When you commit to yourself that you're going to do whatever it
takes to last longer, it'll be much easier to stick to that commitment, instead of giving in
as soon as the urge to release arises. Women love it when a man is able to put his mind to something
and to stick with his decision. One of the most sure ways to last as long as you want is to pay
attention to your muscles - are they tense or are they relaxed. And I'm in particular talking
here about the muscles in and around your pelvic area. In order to reach an orgasm, you absolutely
need a level of muscle contraction. So as long as you're as relaxed as possible, you'll be able to
last longer than you normally do. This is a simple trick that you can use if you feel uncertain about
your lasting power. Putting on a condom means that you're effectively numbing down your penis
and that you're becoming less sensitive. Many men I speak to report that they can last with a condom
much longer than they do without. Switching positions during sex can
become your really great friend in a time of need. Every time you're changing positions,
make sure to withdraw from inside of her, relax your body and take a few deep breaths
before entering her again. This will calm you down and reduce your level of arousal,
creating more space between where you're at and ejaculation. Use foreplay wisely! Women typically
need much more time than men do to become fully aroused, sexually engorged and ready to orgasm.
So take your sweet time pleasuring her, giving her oral sex and stimulating her in a variety of ways.
You can even forbid her from touching you while you're doing that in order to reduce your own
arousal, again helping you last longer when you finally do penetrate her. When you're thrusting,
make sure to play with different speeds and to pace yourself. Keep in mind that the
faster you're moving, the more aroused you're becoming. So slow down, go slower, maybe even
become completely still from time to time and then go faster again. And then slow down again,
etc. This is not a race, you don't have to go like a jackhammer just because you're inside of her.
She'll love those moments of slow, sensual connection and they'll give you a chance to cool
down and to regain control. You can also attend to her in other ways in those moments when you need
to go slower. You can speak sexy things to her, you can caress her breasts, you can hold her tight
or you can look deeply into her eyes. She'll love it all! Here's a shocker: you can even withdraw
completely and pleasure her orally. Just because you're inside of her doesn't mean that you have to
keep thrusting until you ejaculate. You can become playful about it and keep switching things up.
She'll enjoy all the caresses and you'll get a chance to relax, calm down and reduce your
arousal. Edging is a wonderful tool to teach your body to last as long as you want - naturally.
This technique is responsible for thousands of my clients who learn to fully control their
erections. I have a full video on this topic so make sure to check it out here.
But in a nutshell, when you're edging during masturbation, you're bringing yourself up to the
edge of orgasm and then you're taking a break from self-stimulation, you're going to relax your body
and take deep breaths until your arousal reduces. Then once again you can bring yourself up to the
edge of a climax. Doing that a number of times per session will start to teach and condition
your body to last much, much longer. And finally, kegels. Kegel exercises are a great way to improve
your lasting power long term. In order to perform kegels, you first need to find and locate your
pelvic floor muscle. Imagine that you're in the toilet and that you're peeing. And now
imagine that you're going to stop the stream of urine. The muscle that you clench is your
pelvic floor muscle. If you're still not certain what I'm talking about, you can test this next
time you're actually in the toilet. In order to perform your kegel exercises, clench your pelvic
floor muscle for a few seconds and then release and relax it completely. This is one kegel.
Do at least 50 of those each day but don't do them in the toilet while you're peeing, you don't want
to be messing around with your bladder function. Instead, perform your kegels when you're driving,
watching TV, working on your computer, etc. A strong pelvic floor muscle will 100% improve
your sexual function. And now I'm curious how many of these methods have you actually heard of before
and you've tried for yourself. And which ones worked best for you. Please let me know in the
comments below! Please also make sure to like this video and if you're keen to learn more
advanced tools and techniques of extraordinary lovers, check out my online course Tantric
Mastery for Men. This program is absolutely full of my best, most effective techniques.
It'll also teach you everything you need to know to be the best lover you can be. You'll find a
link in the description below. Thank you so much for staying with me till the end. You're wonderful
and I truly appreciate that! And now it's time to go and practice. I'll see you next time!