Heya playa, are you trying to figure out the best way to video chat with your crush?
Don't worry I'm going to walk you through the steps that you need to know so that you can
video chat with them without it being awkward and so that you can eventually ask them out.
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My name is Josh and every single week I make videos sharing tips, ideas, and, stories teaching
you how to be your best self, and when it comes to video chatting your crush it's not as hard as
you may think it is. Sure you may be comfortable with texting them and that might be the primary
form of how you talk to them but if you were to start video chatting with them, I can guarantee
you'd have a much better chance of eventually going out on a date with them. So how do you do
it? How do you go from back and forth texting to actually video chatting? Well, I think you should
use a technique like this. Tell them through text that you want to tell them a really interesting
story. Something crazy happened to you but it's easier and quicker and better for you to tell it
over video chat. So, ask him if they have a few minutes just so you can tell them that story.
Essentially what you're doing is appealing to their intrigue and curiosity. If you were to just
flat out say "Hey do you want to jump on a video chat?" a million thoughts are going to run through
their mind. "Do I look good? Am I ready to get on camera? What are we going to talk about?". But if
you lead in with an interesting story already to tell them that's going to make them want
to video chat with you. And while the technique will get you in the door with them it really is
up to you now to have a fun story to tell so think about something that's happened to you recently.
Did something crazy happen? Did something funny happen? Did something happen in the past that you
think is worth sharing? Use that as your queue up point to kind of jump into the conversation with
them and to have something actually fun to share. Before you even start your video chat though
one thing you don't want to do is to have your camera facing the ceiling. I've seen
so many people have conversations with someone where they're aiming the camera at something
else so turn your camera towards your face. Look directly in it as you're talking to your crush.
If your camera is facing anything other than you that's going to convey a major lack of confidence.
They're going to feel like you just don't have what it takes to face them head-on.
Imagine if you were sitting with them there in person and you were just facing a different
direction as you talked to them. "So what exactly happened? You fell into a lake?".
"Yeah, it was totally crazy! I wasn't even looking forward when I was walking. Can you believe that?
Me! Someone who wasn't even looking forward!". With that out of the way,
you got all the basics covered. You have something to talk to your crush about and you're looking
confidently into the camera so that they know that you want to speak directly to them. But,
what do you do when the conversation starts to run dry and things get awkward and you run into that
moment where it's silent you don't know what to talk about? Here's where I think it's important
to keep the conversation short if it needs to be short. Far too often people feel like when they
jump into a video chat with their crush it needs to go on for a long extended amount of time but if
you feel like things are starting to dwindle down it's totally fine to kind of bring it to a close.
I'm a firm believer that its way better to plan a short conversation and have it run long than
to plan a long conversation and have it awkwardly run short. If you tell your crush that crazy story
over video chat and then they share a crazy story from their lives that is similar and that leads
to the two of you asking each other questions and just naturally having that conversation progress
that's probably an ideal scenario. But, a lot of times people will jump in tell their story
really really quickly, and then have nothing to talk about. They won't ask questions. They
won't share other stories. They'll just kind of awkwardly sit there and transition to things like
"Uh so what's going on in your life?" or "What else is new?". "Hey it's crazy what happened I
was walking, I was on my phone, I wasn't even looking and I walked right into the lake.
That's pretty much what happened." "Oh my god that's insane, I can't believe that happened!".
"So is that your room?". "Yeah yeah, it's my room." "Cool... uh nice ceiling fan?".
Honestly, though, I think the part that people find the most awkward about having a video chat
with their crush is the very beginning. Look you may have a good story plan, you may have good
follow-up questions, you might even look directly at your phone as you talk to them but it's that
startup that just feels weird and unnatural. You might start off with something awkward like
"Hey!", "How's it going?", "Hello" and then you kind of start to transition into the story.
Here's what you need to do instead. Jump right into telling your story. That awkwardness arises
in the beginning because you wait too long to get into the details of what you want to speak
to them about. Trust me on this, the sooner you could just start talking and opening up,
the easier it's going to be for them to feel that energy back from you. They're not going to feel
awkward and weird because they're going to feel like well this person is comfortable talking to me
so I'm comfortable listening and sharing and opening up to them too. "Hey what's up? How's
it going? How's everything with you?" "Nothing much, just you know." "Oh good good. Cool cool.
Yeah uh so yeah. I mean things are good with me too." "So you said you had a story you
wanted to share with me so...". "Oh yeah, the story! Oh my god let me tell you what happened.
It was it was really really cool." Is never gonna feel as comfortable as "Hey! Oh my god,
it's so crazy. So I was walking and I discovered this abandoned warehouse, right? Of course,
I had to go explore it right because that's what you do." Video chatting with your crush does not
need to be awkward. And when it comes to the end of the conversation when you feel like you want to
jump off, simply tell them "Hey thanks for jumping on. Let's talk again soon! This was a lot of fun."
Make sure to include that so they feel like this is something you enjoy doing and they can kind of
reflect on it too and feel like "Yeah, this is a person I want to talk to more and I'm definitely
going to do that." If you're still wondering what kind of follow-up questions you can ask
your crush, definitely check out my 20 icebreaker conversation starters guide linked up over here.
That's going to help walk you through different questions you can ask, different follow-up
questions, and just ways to get to know your crush a lot better. I also want to give a huge shout-out
to all my patrons and YouTube channel members. These are the people that help support the channel
every single month. Thank you guys and I really appreciate it. As always guys, love, and peace.