It's TLC Thursday and I'm Christal Fuentes, your Host and Coach. We love to
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your mind, while making your life a little easier.
Now do you find it hard to get along with some people in your workplace,
that no matter what you do some people just always seem to get underneath your skin?
That it often makes you dread going to work? Well today we are going to talk
about that, because the truth is sometimes we're going to have to be
around people we don't like and whining and complaining about it
will only make it worse. So I'm going to help you get over the resisting part, and
get you to become a master of your work relationships, because if you don't know
true success and fulfillment in life is about mastering the relationships around
you, even if they are the ones that are most difficult. So let's get straight
into it. Here are four types of people you'll
have to deal with within your workplace. Number one: "The Woe is Me" This person
loves to complain about everything. He or she truly believes life is out to get
them. They will be the ones severely complaining about why the grocery store
didn't use their dollar off coupon, or you know just complaining at work
because they got a work load that they shouldn't have gotten. How you deal with
the woe is me, is you just deal with them by not feeling their disdain for life.
When you cater to that behavior, they will always come to you to vent because
you then become their audience. The "Woe is Me" is all about the drama, and drama
needs an audience, so don't be their audience. Instead lead by example. Direct
the conversation to one that is more neutral, or by setting clear boundaries
with them. For example: "Suzy I'm so sorry your day isn't going well, but for the
time being I'd rather talk about things that will make our time worthwhile."
Number two: "The Clique Keeper" This person is the opposite of a team player, instead
he or she (mostly she) she creates their own clique, and you are
either in it or not. This person has stuck with the high-school model of how
relationships should be, and makes it very hard for you to feel good about
yourself if you aren't in their group. "You're wearing sweatpants it's Monday." "So?"
"So that's against the rules, and you sit with us."
"Whatever, those rules aren't real."
"They were real the day I wore a vest."
"Because that vest was disgusting."
"You can't sit with us!"
This group will be more than likely to be the
gossipers on the team, as gossip needs company and their group is perfect
company. How do you deal with a "clique keeper?" Play Switzerland, and be a neutral
party. You don't have to be a part of anyone's group. You doing you in the most
friendly and caring way possible will send a message that you are not one to
be pulled into a clique or gossip. People no matter what personality
will respect that and should they try to pull you in it, nonchalantly and politely
change the subject to direct them to something the team can work on together instead.
Number three: "The Grumpy Cat" This person is very unapproachable, and often
an energy sucker. If you have to work closely with them you probably find it
to be a drag, because you may feel there's nothing you can do to get them
out of their mood. But guess what? It's not your responsibility to change
anyone's mood. Your responsibility is to manage your own mood. So with that said,
don't take their behavior personally. You can always set boundaries when you need
to if they cross lines but like I said before when you focus on you and what
you can give to the team, it makes it hard for anyone to disrespect that
Number four: "The Opportunist" This person will show up as
a friend, but will take full advantage of opportunities even if it means throwing
you under the bus. Just when you thought you could confide in this person, he or
she is telling the boss everything you thought was a secret. This person may
also be the star of the team, and in doing so may dim others lights being
buddies with the boss. Now I don't want you to be guarded and feel like you
can't trust anyone because of this, but how you deal with an opportunist is like
this. First, don't say anything that could compromise your job.
Definitely don't let them dim your light, but also don't try to compete with them
because the most of the time an opportunist gets themselves into
compromising situations, and that's just not something you want to be dragged
into. Ok my lovelies, there you have it. Those are the four types of people that
you may be working with, and kinda how to deal with them. Remember the only
person you can ever control is yourself, so be sure to set clear boundaries but
don't take the behaviors of others personally. It takes a long time for
people to develop behavior, so don't worry it's not about you. But we do have
to deal with people we don't necessarily like often, and the best way to do this
is just to manage our own behaviors and our emotions first.
Does that sound good? Cool now I want to hear from you. What situation did you have
with the personality type I listed above, and how did you handle that? We all learn
from each other, and I want to know. So after this video make sure you check out
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