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Who hasn't watched at least one movie or show
where the smart one peaks your interest?
From Sherlock Holmes to Shikamaru Nara,
the highly intelligent have been sought after.
The aloof, intelligent person who unwittingly captivates
the hearts of people around them
is a popular drop in films.
Despite that, they're also often depicted
as being incredibly unlucky in love.
And this doesn't only happen in movies
but also in real life.
But why?
Here are six reasons why highly intelligent people
struggle with love.
Number one, they overthink.
When it comes to the popular notion of love,
we tend to think of feeling what's right
and just following your heart
into this sweet mist of romance.
And there's absolutely no way
that an intelligent person is going
to stumble around blindly.
They're gonna analyze the details
and compare the information to trusted standards
before they make a big decision.
Is it great for data? Yes.
Is it wise for the long-term? Yeah.
Is it good for enticing
and starting a passionate relationship?
Not quite.
It can be exasperating for some,
leading them to mistake the time taken to analyze
means for disinterest on the part of the intelligent person.
In a tragic irony,
the intelligent person means the opposite.
By taking this time to study, plan, and review,
they're deeming their love interest as worthy and desirable.
That analytical effort is to ensure a best chance
of success for the relationship.
If there is no interest or a low valuation,
they wouldn't bother.
Number two, they love their independence.
This is one of the problems
with the Hollywoodized version of love.
It's this whole, "You complete me", concept
implying someone is less of a person
if they don't find that other half.
It encourages co-dependence
and indirectly derides self-sufficiency.
Highly intelligent people are usually secure
in who they are and already feel whole.
They don't require another person to complete the picture.
They feel another person could add to the picture
and make it better.
This can be interpreted by others as,
"This person just doesn't want me."
In truth, this just means
that they don't unnecessarily burden their partner.
For example, the intelligent person understands
their happiness is their own responsibility,
not their partners.
Number three, they prioritize their goals.
This doesn't mean that they think their goals
are more important than their partners.
It just means that they get things done.
They won't be halfway to a goal
then abandon it suddenly to get swept into a romance.
They can also see that some goals
require a lot of attention and time,
which means that relationships would have to be put
on the back burner until the goal is done.
They may not wanna have relationships at all
until they've crossed the finish line.
Intelligent people rather be single
than have a partner who is not of the same mindset
or is impatient,
because they don't wanna end up in an unsupportive
and bitter situation.
Number four, they have high standards.
Well, high in itself is a fairly subjective term,
but suffice to say,
most intelligent individuals
will have some pretty definite standards.
They're usually demanding more of themselves
and as such, they'll usually have pretty strong boundaries
and a definite standard for their partner.
Although the standard can have
some small adjustments as they mature,
it never does a nose dive.
They'd usually prefer surfing through life solo
than settling for a substandard relationship.
Number five, they think with their heads,
but not their gut.
The intelligent person tends to lean very heavily
on the cold logic, you know, like Spock.
They won't even follow a gut instinct
if they can't suss out the bits of evidence or clues
that contribute to it.
So, when it comes to falling in love,
the intelligent person often
will hit the breaks asking,
"Wait, why do I feel this way?"
They might mentally go through all of their favorite movies
and consider any influences in their life
to try to find a reason.
They'll likely then analyze to see
if those influences provide good proof.
Then, they'll consider making their first move.
As you can imagine, it's not exactly the smoothest
or timeliest of ways to get passionate.
And number six, they are single by choice.
Together with being in harmony, happiness,
and peace with themselves,
this means they aren't desperately seeking someone else
to fulfill their basic needs
or to help them figure out who they are.
They have the luxury of already
having a good time on their own
and coming up with new ways to do so.
At the far end of the spectrum,
sometimes they just can't find someone
who they feel will add to their world
so they choose to be with the one person
who truly gets them,
themselves.
Love, in and of itself has so many aspects,
but we, in general, tend to be heavily influenced
by how it's depicted in media
and build our ideals of how it's supposed to happen on that.
Unfortunately, those that don't follow
that particular popular format
tend to struggle.
Next time that cute geek is awkward around you,
consider that it might be a compliment to your worthiness.
Which point can you relate to?
What insights have you clinged?
Does something that's been happening make more sense now?
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