I want to share with you real quickly three ways
to accelerate this asking phase, there’s ask, believe, receive,
so lets look at asking for just a bit longer.
In asking three things are really useful, number one,
it's called the irritation list.
Walk through your home, your business, your apartment, your condo,
anything you're in charge of and make a list of all the things that aren't
exactly the way you want it.
There's never a stapler by the Xerox machine, someone always leaves that cabinet open,
my kid never picks up after himself, those pictures are always slanted they never
stay straight, the screen door slams,
there's a hole in the window, whatever it is write it down.
And then go back, and here's the key part,
remember in law of attraction we always focus on what you want,
not what you don't want.
So what you want to focus on is the opposite of your irritation list
and then take a day, hire a person or bring a friend over
and go through the list and get as many done as you can,
all the easy ones, build some momentum.
Clean the garage, develop a new filing system that might be
something you set off to another weekend,
and we say all the big ones that are really big, do one a quarter,
every three months, solve one of those.
Now you're getting rid of all the stuff in your life,
and why is this so important?
We're talking mostly about being wealthy, having great relationships, great health,
world peace, ending hunger and you're talking about the screen door.
When you don't fix the screen door, you settle.
And when you settle consistently you develop a habit of settling for
what you don't want.
And most people go through life in resignation, they have resigned themselves to not having
it the way they want it.
The second thing is what we call the hundred and one goals list.
Make a list of one hundred and one things you want to achieve before you die.
We know that one of the things about high achievers is they all have goals.
Only 10 percent of Americans set goals every year, 10 percent.
We also know the same 3 to 10 percent control 90 percent
of the resources of the world.
So literally without goals, you're directionless, you will be used,
see people without goals get used by other people who have them.
People that don't have goals work for people who do.
And so you want to be someone who picks up and gets clear about what you want.
Make a list,a hundred one goals, I want to go to Paris,
I want to skydive, I want to bungee cord jump, I want to play the guitar, I want to learn
to juggle, I want to learn two magic tricks for the kids,
I want to go to the Olympics in Beijing, whatever it is, make the list.
And you'll see there's a lot of stuff under there that you've kind of put down
that you want and you can have anything you want.
The last thing, this is what we call the vision exercise.
And there are seven categories of the vision exercise,
number one has to do with finance.
So we're saying to you, we're going to look at seven areas of your
life for total abundance, so what do you want financially?
How much money do you want to earn?
How much profit do you want in your business?
What do you want your retirement fund to hold when you retire?
What are your goals?
And a lot of people don't even have them, the average American retirees with twenty
five thousand dollars net worth, that’s sad, that is really sad.
Number two, career and job.
What do you want in your career and job?
Maybe you want to be the regional sales manager, maybe you want to open up the office in Hong
Kong, maybe you want to get an award for, you know,
being the best speaker in your speaking business, whatever it might be,
what are your career and job goals?
The third area has to do with relationships.
Most people have goals for job and for money, but do you have relationship goals?
How many new friends do you want to make this year?
Do you want to heal your relationship with your daughter?
Do you want to have a better sex life and more intimacy with your spouse?
Do you want to connect with your parents who maybe you've been estranged to, or your
sister?
What are your relationship goals each year?
What are your health and fitness goals?
Most of you don't know your cholesterol level, don't have a cholesterol level goal.
You probably know what your weight is that we're obsessed with that,
but what weight would you like to have?
Goals, every year set how many vacation days you want to take.
If you want to double your time off, make that a goal.
You need time to recreate yourself, that's what recreation means.
Personal, personal is personal growth and emotional growth,
spiritual growth, things like that, and what are your goals there?
And then lastly, contribution.
What contribution do you want to make to the world?
What legacy do you want to live?
Volunteer time, philanthropy, making a difference, ending hunger, whatever
it might be.
That's an important one that most people don't think that much about.
But I'll tell you, I’ve spent a lot of time with billionaires
who have everything you think you'd ever want and they're still unhappy.
And one of the people I met with is worth about five hundred million dollars.
And he said his life went through four stages.
The first stage, he said, was called stuff.
He figured if he had lots of stuff, he'd be happy.
He had lots of stuff, cars, boats, planes, wasn't happy.
He said, “I guess I need better stuff”.
A better plane, a better house, a better whatever, still wasn't happy.
Then he said, “maybe I've got the wrong stuff,
if I own a football team, maybe that would make me happy”.
Still wasn't happy.
And then he went into the fourth phase of his life
unexpectedly a friend asked him to come with him to give out some wheelchairs
to kids who'd lost their legs in landmines and stuff in Bosnia and Croatia.
So he flies over and they're putting kids in wheelchairs
and one of the kids on one of his visits, he put him in a wheelchair, 11 year old boy,
he turned away and the kid wouldn't let go of his leg.
They turn back and through an interpreter, the boy said,
“don't leave yet”.
He said, “I want to memorize your face”.
He said, “because when we meet again in heaven,
I want to be able to say thank you one more time”.
And he said that was the first time in my life I felt pure joy.
See the pure joy comes from giving, giving that which you think you want to receive
and then it comes back we always hear the word multiplied
and it truly does.
The next step is to be clear about how much you want
and by when you want it?
What are the specific goals?
You can have a dream like, I would like to have more time with my wife.
Well, we'll take three long weekend vacations by October 31st.
So always take it and make it as specific as you can.
You might have a weight goal, want to lose weight.
Well, that could be one hundred and thirty five pounds by June 30th
or till I run a marathon by this date, so get as specific as you can.
If you're clear about the what it is that you want,
the how will show up.
This is one of the important parts of the law of attraction,
you don't have to know the how, you just have to be clear about what it is
you want.
If you're clear about what you want your subconscious internally and externally
what we call source, the universe, the quantum field, infinite
intelligence, God will also figure out,
so you've got two parts working together to create the pathway.