- If you want them to call you or text you every day,
what I share with you in this video will change everything
and it'll help you understand
more about the energy dynamics of attraction,
plus how you can embody
the most non-attached, magnetic version of you.
Now the first thing you wanna become aware of when asking
this question is why?
Why do you want them to call you or to text you every day?
Now the reason I say this is
is because when you see the real reason
that you might want them to do that,
it then helps you understand
more where that energy is coming from.
For a while, I remember that that was something
that would be my focus.
It was like, okay, the focus is on,
"How could I get somebody else to do this thing
that I wanted them to do?"
And in a way, one of the things
that changed everything for me
was when I realized that that was a form of me
trying to manipulate the environment to meet my own needs.
There was an inner childhood need that wasn't being met
when I was a kid,
and funny enough, then later on in adulthood,
you attract people that can only reflect
back that same inner child need that wasn't met.
So then it's like we're trying to get our needs met,
the person, of course,
that feels familiar for us to like attract that.
And then, what happens is we don't get that need met,
and then we feel like there's something wrong,
and then we're searching for it.
We're wanting our inner child needs met.
So one thing I had to realize
is that a big part of my life was spent
trying to manipulate the environment and other people
to meet my own needs.
One way that this might look, at least it did for me,
was trying to please people, people pleasing,
pleasing people in order
to get their validation and approval.
So I'd be really nice.
Wouldn't say anything that was like too triggering
or too polarizing, why?
Well, there was an inner child need there
or not feeling approved of or validated of as a kid,
not feeling worthy,
so then searching for that in other people.
But the thing that changed it all for me
was when I realized that that people pleasing
was a form of manipulation.
I was trying to manipulate other people
by being nice to them
in exchange for them giving me validation and approval.
Now the game changer is when you are being yourself
because it's who you choose to be,
not being yourself because of what you think it'll get you.
And when we're asking ourselves the question,
"How can I get them to text me or call me every day?"
We have to ask ourself,
"How can I make them do this to get this response?"
And do we wanna be in that manipulative energy?
Because if we are manipulating the universe
to give us what we want like that
or other people to give us what we want like that,
we'll tend to attract people that play into that drama,
tend to attract people that play into that conditionality.
So what I found to be the most powerful thing
was to become aware of that dynamic.
Remember, 90% of all transformation is awareness.
The other 10% is just simply making a new choice.
Now funny enough as well, when you become aware of this,
the deeper way to go about this
and the deeper question to look at this
rather than a surface level thing,
is looking at the fact that you get in life
a reflection of who you are being,
and that who you are being is a combination
of how you think, feel, and act.
We are addicted to the familiar ways of thinking,
feeling, and acting normally to the stories
that were active when we were a kid.
And what ends up happening
is those stories are on autopilot,
so we tend to attract people that reflect back the story
that we had when we were kids.
Now the thing is, is when people want them to text them
or to call them back every day,
normally what will happen
is because there's a familiar energy
with maybe having a story,
you wanna become aware of what is your story
about the feminine?
What is your story about the masculine?
What is your story about love?
Another way to say this, what are your beliefs?
Because your beliefs create your reality.
We get in life a reflection of what we believe to be true.
So we can say, "Okay, I'm gonna be attractive.
I'm gonna get these people's, you know,
I'm gonna get these people to call and text me every day."
But if we believe we're not worthy,
then that is gonna block any possibility
or probability of that coming through.
So what you wanna become aware of is who are you being?
What do you believe to be true about yourself?
Because you only experience the probabilities
and the synchronicities in your life
that are equal to who you are being.
And if who you are being
is you have these subconscious beliefs that say,
"I'm broken, there's something wrong with me,
people leave me,"
if those beliefs are on autopilot,
then that's gonna be the reality we experience.
Now here's the thing though, as I was saying a minute ago,
if we have an inner childhood need
that wasn't meant as a kid,
we'll tend to attract people
that reflect that same familiar energy back.
So what you wanna become aware of
is what that inner childhood need
that wasn't met most likely is.
Because the most common ones that I found,
for myself at least,
and a lot of the people that I've coached,
is the most common story is that, "We're not worthy."
"There's something wrong with me.
There's something broken about me."
And when we believe that deep down,
we then tend to attract people
that aren't emotionally available.
A lot of times there's a familiar energy that's there,
familiar energy that's there,
because maybe mom or dad
was emotionally or physically unavailable.
So then there may be a pattern of attracting people
that are emotionally unavailable and it's like,
"Well, how do I get them to text me and call me every day?"
Well, the challenge is that the familiar energy
that was there in the beginning
of them being emotionally unavailable
might be the thing where you're trying
to get your needs met,
but they may not be the ones to do it right now.
Maybe, maybe they can come around.
But a lot of times the key is not them.
When you talk about making them do something,
a lot of times the story's on them, their issues,
they're not coming around.
For me, that was my story.
My story was like, "Oh," I'm like,
I would try to fix people I was with.
That was my way of becoming indispensable
'cause they would never leave me
because I didn't feel worthy.
And I'd feel like, "Well, they're not doing their work,
they're not coming around,
they're not looking at themselves."
Like the story was on them.
They, they, they, they, instead of looking at me.
And for me to attract that energy,
"What part of myself is emotionally unavailable?"
That's what I had to start looking at.
Well, part of myself is this people pleaser version of me.
"Am I not being vulnerable?
Am I seeking validation and approval?"
And then, it has me in this like gray zone energetically.
So what you wanna become aware of is the not worthy,
feeling not worthy.
Is there a story there?
Is there a subconscious story there that is on autopilot?
The other one that I see very common
is some form of abandonment wound.
Whether it is either emotional abandonment,
physical abandonment.
But, in general, a lot of times people pleasers,
empaths, are people that have abandoned themselves
to make everybody else happy.
Maybe you had to be the glue in your family.
You had to be the one
that always has everything all figured out,
never has a problem,
where it's maybe not okay for you to be not okay.
Let me say that again, is it okay for you to not be okay?
Or is it not okay for you to be not okay?
Sometimes it's like, "I'm such a burden,
I don't want to be a problem,
because there are other problems in my family
and I just have to be small and not express them."
When in actuality you expressing them
is the key to your liberation.
It's the key to you being the real you.
You even being more of a polarizing version of you,
but because it's who you choose to be,
not because of what it'll get you.
And the key to all transformation is,
it's actually really simple when you look at it,
it is letting go and letting in.
You wanna let go of the old stories,
the old beliefs, the old identities,
and you wanna let go of the heart walls.
A lot of times the heart walls
are there to protect you from feeling shame.
Shame is a belief, "I'm not worthy,
there's something wrong with me."
And the key is shining light on this
by actually being vulnerable, showing the real you.
Yes, you could get rejected
for expressing your real emotion,
however, you realize
that you can only really reject yourself.
But when you do that,
you're opening up your heart.
And then, maybe as you open up your heart
and you be vulnerable,
certain people may fall out of your life,
but that'll make room for new people to fall into your life.
So when we talk about making them call you
or text you every day,
you wanna become aware of what you really want
and you also wanna become aware of what kind of energy,
what kind of stories do you have around this concept?
And are you attracting emotionally available people
or mostly unavailable people,
because that feels familiar from childhood?
And what you wanna do is become aware of these stories,
because 90% of all transformation is awareness.
And as you do this,
you will then allow yourself to wire in a new you.
And you being the new you, this is the journey,
I call this the MAP,
This is the MAP, the Magnetic Activation Process,
of becoming this new activated version of you,
which some of which requires you to go into the unknown.
"All magic happens in the unknown," as Joe Dispenza says.
The known is the familiar.
When you think, feel, and act
according to this new ideal version of you,
and there's two ways to do that, one is meditation.
Meditating allows you to tap
into what is called the theta state.
The theta state is the deep level of brainwave activity
that you were in when you were a kid
up until about eight years old.
Theta state you're in
in the 20 minutes you wake up in the morning,
20 minutes before you go to bed at night,
you're drifting from theta,
which is more of like the dreamlike state,
into then alpha state, and then beta state.
And in order to change your subconscious mind,
what you wanna do is you wanna go back to theta state,
and then feel as if this is the version of you you are now.
Feel the emotions as this version of you,
your heart opening.
Meditations can be one of the most powerful way
to really unleash non-attached, magnetic energy.
And what you wanna do is in meditation,
you could also become familiar of the old you,
and that you may choose not to be that anymore.
Meditation for me was what I did
to become a full-time YouTuber.
I visualized myself as a YouTuber.
I felt as if I was a YouTuber.
I took on the identity of being a full-time YouTuber
back in 2017.
But then, the other side of this is number two,
take choice and action.
Literally be that version of you.
For me, in attracting love,
I had to be the most vulnerable version of me.
I had to open up my heart more.
I had to express my true desires, not hold them in.
And as I did that, it changed everything about my life.
I experienced new probabilities
and possibilities as a reflection.
So these steps to this process
also is sometimes we find safety
in connecting to other people
and making everyone else happy.
And the key is bringing the awareness
back inside of your own body,
put it in your hands, put it in your feet,
feeling the separation between you and other people.
Maybe bring someone to your mind right now
that you maybe feel kind of there's needy energy there.
You want something from them,
maybe their approval or validation, their attention,
them to come around to a certain level of thinking
or way of feeling.
Now as you picture them in your mind,
I want you to bring the awareness
in your hands and your feet and actually feel the separation
between you and this person.
When you do this, you bring your energy back to you.
This is also a way of creating magnetic energy.
It works like magic.
You do this, even for just 10 or 20 minutes a day,
or even five minutes a day,
do this with a candle flame or you and an object,
feeling the separation between you and something else,
go out into public and see how different people treat you.
Don't look for it, don't be like,
"Are people are gonna treat me different?"
But just notice how you carry yourself differently
when your energy's inside of your body
and you're not tuning to other people
and you're feeling safe in your own body,
safe in your own frame,
that is something that changes everything.
So bring this person to the mind,
feel inside of your hands and your feet,
and feel the separation.
And then, call all your energy back to you now.
"I call all my energy and power back to me now.
I call all my energy and power back to me now.
I call all my energy and power back to me now,"
As you do that, you're literally,
'cause we have free will here,
you're bringing back your energy into your body.
And as you feel this separation,
there's more magnetism there, there's more magnetic energy.
And part of what makes you attractive
is you being in your own energy
and feeling safe in your own body,
and having your own vision for your life,
your own direction that you're going in.
Have things that like,
have an ecosystem around you of friends and family
that you enjoy being around,
things that you love doing.
Following your passion is very magnetic.
Instead of being the cameo in other peoples' movie,
become the star of your own movie,
because then you're not waiting,
looking and wanting them to text you every day,
you're just being yourself
and, ironically enough, they may text you every day.
But it's not 'cause you need it,
you're trying to manipulate it,
it's because you're in your own frame of reality,
and that is magnetic.
So vulnerability is another powerful value to live by,
but you really wanna become aware of your values
that make up your identity,
because that goes into who you are being.
Now if you do wanna learn more about the MAP process,
the Magnetic Activation Process,
it's a step-by-step process that shows you
exactly how to create permanent transformation
so you don't fall back into the old you,
using the power of meditation,
and then action of wiring in the new you,
if you wanna check that out,
go to aarondoughty.com/map, M-A-P,
or click the link below.
It's a free video that shows you
step-by-step how to go through this process,
a live training that I did
that shows you exactly what to do to go through this.
And then also, if you want a video
that shows you how to make them
or to have them call you instantly,
the energetics behind this,
watch this video right here.
So if you feel like you are putting more out to them
than they are giving back to you,
or if you're waiting for their text,
you're waiting for them to call you and they're not,
then this video will completely reverse
the energy polarity and dynamic that is happening,
and I'm gonna share with you exactly what to do.