Whether you’d like to have more discipline in your life, or you’d like to be able to
make good decisions under stress, the ability to be mentally tough and withstand the hardships
of life is one of the most valuable skills you can learn.
Without it, you’ll go through life like a puppet… strung along by your circumstances
with no control over how you react to them.
Constantly jerked around by what happens to you… and uh not jerked in the way you’re
thinking bro…
Navy seals, athletes, CEOs, and other high-level performers are at the top of their field because
of this very skill.
So it’s time for you to learn it, my disciple.
Focus on your response, NOT circumstance.
Listen here bro, you don’t get to control what happens to you.
You only get to control HOW you respond to it.
Bad shit is gonna happen to you.
It’s a guarantee.
How you gonna respond to it?
THAT is what matters.
When things go bad are you going to be the person that people can rely on?
Or are you going to rely on others?
I’m gonna tell you something that 99% of the population doesn’t understand…
So the ability to make the right decisions under pressure is not only practical, but
necessary.
If you want things to go your way, you need to harness the ability to be calm under pressure.
And the only way to do that is to be radically focused on how you respond to the things around
you.
If you focus too much on the ‘things’ themselves, you’ll wrap yourself up in self-pity,
anxiety, and worry.
How do you think your life will be then?
2) Never forget the big picture.
Most of what’s bothering you today, won’t matter in 1 week, 1 month, 1 year, or 1 decade.
If you’re watching this, you’re certainly on the younger side and likely have more than
half your life left to go.
Don’t let whatever bad thing that is going on today let you forget about how much more
life you have left to live, and how temporary this current moment is.
The human mind is no different than your caveman ancestors.
Your mind is focused on its survival in the present moment.
This is why you feel anxious, worried, and in your head, about negative things that happen
in day-to-day life.
Your mind wants instant relief, right now.
It’s trying to protect you.
Negative feelings protect you from danger, from emotional discomfort, and a slew of other
threats.
Acknowledge what your mind is trying to do, be grateful that your mind is working normally
and trying protect you but then you MUST acknowledge your path.
Where are you going?
Where do you want to be in your life?
What decisions do you need to make RIGHT NOW to get you there.
Are these temporary, negative feelings going to be enough to hold you back from your mission?
All of this same evolutionary chemistry going on in your brain also applies to pleasure
as well.
Your body wants to maximize for pleasure in the present moment.
It wants your short-term needs met, immediately.
Without your short-term security and pleasure, you won’t make it into the long-term.
You have to balance this caveman hard-wiring and balance it with your long-term goals.
Now that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t become a robot who is only about work 24/7 nonstop
because life is fucking short man.
You can die at any moment.
You don’t want to delay all the fun until you’re 40 years old.
But you need to have a healthy balance of working on your long-term goals, and still
having fun in the short-term.
Only YOU know what the best decisions are for you.
I can’t make those decisions for you...nobody can.
It’s up to you to take responsibility for your own life.
Once you do that, you’ll be free forever.
3) Find what you want to do and chase it with everything you’ve got.
The easiest way to be mentally fragile is to do something you don’t like.
It puts you in a defensive, and reactive mindset instead of an active, offensive mindset.
Mental toughness is about being on the offensive, even when you don’t have control over a
situation.
Your reaction to a situation is your offense.
Reacting negatively or acting as though you have no control over how you respond isn’t
even defensive, it’s letting life hit you from behind with no vaseline and no warning.
If life hands me a shit sandwich, you better believe I’m still gonna choose the toppings.
People who hate their job, and are unsatisfied with what they’re doing in life are among
the most mentally fragile.
They can’t make decisions for themselves, they’re used to doing what they don’t
want, and they’re used to doing things for other people.
They live passively, letting other people and circumstances be in the driver’s seat.
How you do one thing, is how you do anything.
If you’re not on the offensive in your life, you’re training your mind to live passively.
And I don’t know about you but I’m in the driver’s seat of my life, like a Ferrari
F1 driver.
The people who are most mentally tough, are the ones who are doing what they ACTUALLY
want to be doing.
They’ve found their own path, and are walking it.
They’re not doing anything for the approval of other people or because they don’t want
to disappoint others, they’re doing it for themselves.
Doing what YOU truly want to do and becoming the best version of yourself is actually the
best way to be helpful to other people because when you are your best you, you can give that
to others.
4) Conviction
Once you make a decision, stand your ground.
Don’t backpedal or change your decisions under pressure.
This is a sign of low confidence, it means you’re not secure in your decision making
ability.
And when your decisions are put under the spotlight by other people, you quickly change
to fit in.
All of your decisions should be carefully thought out and given the proper time and
diligence to make sure you’re always doing the right thing.
You should stick to what you want, and not fold under the pressure of what other people
want from you.
Disclaimer: this doesn’t mean you’re not open to discussion or having your mind changed,
quite the opposite actually.
A man confident in his decision, is confident enough to not be egotistical.
He’ll explain why he did what he did or why he thinks what he thinks.
He’ll also be open to feedback and other people’s reasoning.
If others reason well, he’ll change his mind in the face of new, better information.
BUT he’ll never change his mind because of peer pressure.
Which brings me to my final point.
5) Remove your ego from the equation.
It's easy to confuse being mentally tough with being stubborn, dismissive of other people,
or even downright arrogant.
It’s exactly the opposite.
Being mentally tough means that you’re humble enough to listen to other people’s perspectives,
and be radically open to change.
Greatness comes from change.
Changing yourself over time, changing how you do things, and changing what you do.
Other people and their suggestions are a big part of making these profound changes.
Thinking you know everything, and you’re some sort of special breed of person will
only harm you in the long-run.
It’ll make you overconfident and arrogant.
Not to mention, you’ll be a huge douchebag that nobody will want to be around.
Trust me, I’ve had to lightning strike a few knuckleheads like that here in Mt. Olympus.
Most importantly, guys with big egos are usually using their ego as a way to avoid change.
They want to avoid facing their insecurities, avoid being vulnerable, and avoid the idea
that other people might be right.
Being mentally tough also means being mentally malleable.
Changing the way you operate, being vulnerable and honest when you need help from others,
and being humble enough to admit when you don’t know something.
This is one of the most mentally tough things you can do.
It’s uncomfortable to change, to admit your flaws and insecurities, to open up to people,
to show vulnerability to other people.
But it’s one of the most mentally tough things a person can do.
The reason you feel discomfort when doing these things is because it’s painful to
change your perceived sense of identity.
But sooner or later, your sense of identity no longer serves you and it even starts to
harm you.
You must bear those negative feelings because it’ll make you a stronger, better person
in the long-run.
At the end of the day, we’re all just - actually wait, YOU are all just a bunch of mortals
on one of my many planets, we’re all insignificant - I mean, you’re all insignificant anyways.
Oh shit, it’s this egotistical douchebag again, time to get rid of you.
You see that?
Even a god like me has to get rid of his ego sometimes so he can move on with a better
life haha.
What I’m trying to say is, don’t hold on too tight to your ego or sense of identity
because more often than not, it’s the thing that’s holding you back.
And there’s nothing more mentally weak than being resistant to change.
You gotta be able to move on.
Speaking of which, time to move on from this video and go into the world with your new
sense of mental toughness.
So, in summary:
Focus on your response, NOT circumstance.
Never forget the big picture.
Find what you want to do and chase it with everything you’ve got.
Conviction Remove your ego from the equation.
And that my friends is it.
If you want to learn about how to apply these same principles of mental toughness to your
dating life for insane results, then you’ll want to stick around here til the very end
and listen up to my no-BS approach to dating and making girls like you with just a few
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‘Til next
time friends.