What you need to work on the most is not texting or how do you get her number.
Getting her number is easy.
You just ask for her number.
It's a simple question.
Like, hey, we should hang out.
Let me grab your number.
Texting her is also easy.
It's just okay when are you free?
Let's go grab a drink.
Let's go grab some coffee, whatever.
Simple.
She'll say yes to those advances if she's attracted to you.
If you've had a conversation where you're displaying your masculine traits and she becomes
attracted to you.
The idea is you want to talk to as many women as possible, display those masculine traits.
And once you're doing that, a number of those women will be attracted to you.
Text them, don't sit there texting them all day.
Instead.... or having a life where you don't really have a life and then all of a sudden
you just constantly text them and call and text and call.
Is that what you're doing?
Yeah, because I don't really have much of a life.
I used to go to the gym every single day.
And that would be my momentum.
But I just don't go to the gym nearly as much as I want to, which is I don't really have
much of a life, which I should.
And the thing is that it's exactly what you're portraying to the woman when you're texting
them all day.
You're portraying I have no life, I have nothing going on.
I'm bored.
And that is really unattractive.
They don't want to be dating or be with a guy who doesn't have anything going on in
his life because it's weak.
It's weak.
It's like this guy is just desperate like he needs female attention.
That's all he's looking for.
He has nothing else going on.
You need to have other things going on.
They want a man who's masculine, who has masculine energy, who knows what he wants, who knows
what he's doing with his life and has everything all figured out for him.
Right.
When you're meeting these girls and you're trying to get some numbers.
Once you get some numbers, just ask them out right away.
And it's all trial and error.
If you're finding that you're getting numbers and you're asking them out and they're not
answering, not responding or they're just plain saying I'm busy or no, that means that
there's something wrong in your approach.
Not there's something..
Or the way that I'm approaching them with either the way I'm starting the conversation
or how I approach....
Probably not the way you're starting conversation.
Starting the conversation doesn't matter.
Women rarely remember what you're starting the conversation with.
What's happening is the conversation that you're having, you're not displaying your
masculine traits or your personality.
You're not having an interesting conversation.
You're not exciting.
It's not interesting.
Maybe you're asking too many questions.
You're not making enough statements.
It's boring or it's creepy.
You gotta be tweaking things in that progression.
Actually I was in Toronto and I saw a lot of beautiful women there and I wanted to approach
them with confidence but I just didn't have the stomach to go and approach them.
Or I saw a girl passing me by and I can go up and say hi how's it going?
I just got like kinda like, oh my god.
I don't know if I kinda like in my own little circle I guess or...
You got in your head.
Yeah, you got in your head.
So that's approach anxiety.
In order to get rid of approach anxiety you got to do a lot of baby approaches to get
rid of that anxiety.
Guys have a lot of approach anxiety because they're not doing enough approaches.
They're really scared because they're not really sure what to expect and we fear the
unknown.
In order to get rid of that fear of the unknown, you have to make the unknown known.
And a good way to do that with approaching is just going up and just saying anything.
The easiest thing you could think of, asking directions, asking where a coffee shop is,
complimenting them on something they might be wearing and just walking away, whatever
it is.
Just doing it over and over and over and over until you're like, this isn't so bad anymore.
And then you can start going up and having more thorough conversations.
Rather than being stuck in your head and overthinking it and doubting yourself and having all these
things going on in your head.
Exactly.
Go and approach her and just don't like overthink it.
Try to.... you know.
Yeah.
Mike, I really suggest you apply for coaching.
I can help you with this.
If you haven't applied yet.
Do I have to pay for your one on one coaching?
Yes, there is an investment for coaching.
Absolutely.
That's right.
And how much is the program?
That's something we would discuss when we talk because I have multiple options.
There's all different kinds of options for all different people depending on.
I don't have much money right now and I have to talk to my parents about it.
Yeah, well whenever you're ready when you apply and then we can talk about it.
This is an area that I need to really work on.
This is an area that I really need to get a hold of.
I know man.
All the other stuff I'm doing is great.
Like the fitness and everything was great but just the women part is just uh....
I get it.
A lot of the guys who sign up for coaching, a lot of the guys say the same thing to me.
They say they got a lot of their life handled.
They have a lot of the areas of their life handled but they don't have this part handled.
The woman part, the dating part, the sex part.
They don't have this part and this is the last piece for a lot of guys out there.
That's what we help you do.
We help you get that piece handled.
When you're ready, apply.
Okay.
All right.
Thanks for calling man.
Take care.