I know that just because this shirt has a rainbow on it, doesn't make it a gay shirt, but... it's totally my gay shirt.
Hey guys!
*cough*
In last week's video, I did a Q&A all about bisexuality.
Specifically, a "Q and Eh"
because I'm bisexual and Canadian
And I didn't get to answer a bunch of the questions that I wanted to answer because the video turned out to be a million years long.
You guys enjoyed that video on Twitter. You've said you definitely wanted to see a part two,
So here we are. We're back again.
We're in a different area because I didn't want to be TOO repetitive. But I'm gonna answer some more of your questions.
Oh! Before we do that, I just wanna let you guys know that this video is made possible for you by my Patreon supporters
You are the reason that I can continue to make content that I think is important. Specifically, LGBTQ content,
which, as we all know, now does not get monetized on YouTube, and also mental health content.
So, to say thank you in a small way,
I've added some discount codes to my Patreon. So if you're one of my supporters already,
or if you sign up this month, you're gonna be getting discounts on all of my merchandise.
That's why I thought this cup was appropriate to have my coffee out of today.
*sips*
Also, last thing, this month's Patreon meditation is live now. It's a 10-minute morning meditation.
I designed it to start your day off on the right foot.
Okay, I'll stop rambling now!
Well, I'll continue rambling now,
I'm just gonna start rambling about bisexuality and not about... Patreon. Let's begin.
Mmm, good coffee makes the world go round.
Who needs morning meditation when you've got good coffee?
Just kidding, I still need morning meditation.
*clears throat*
"What qualities are attractive to you in the people of the same gender,
and what qualities do you find attractive in people who are other genders? Are they the same?"
This is such an interesting question;
I've never really thought about this before. I think that the qualities would be the same?
Kindness is definitely the number one quality that I look for, that I go for.
People who follow through; that's really important to me.
It's very important to me that the people in my life, or my
partner, when they say they're gonna do something, they actually do it.
Humor... obviously.
I definitely find, like... no! I... *tuts*
Cause I was gonna say I find myself attracted to more...
feminine women... but that's not even true!
Like, at all, when I think about it.
I think I just find myself attracted to people who have a peaceful, calm energy to them.
Also people who are confident.
Yeah, that's all I'm gonna say. That's all I'm gonna say on that.
"Have you gone through phases of liking guys then liking girls?"
I got like 50 questions revolving around this idea,
asking whether I like boys more one day or girls more another day...
Kay,
Yeah! Obviously!
I feel like maybe that's something that bisexual people...
don't like to talk about, for fear of filling that negative stereotype that bisexual people are never satisfied,
or that because we need to have all the genders,
we're gonna cheat on our partners
But that's... just silly.
Just like you can be attracted to more than one hair colour, and think about more than one hair color without cheating on your partner,
I can find myself more attracted to women on some days and more attracted to men on other days, and still be attracted to my partner every day!
So, short answer: yeah!
I'm just gonna go full honesty here.
I don't care if this makes me sound like a bisexual stereotype.
I easily get caught up in
whatever is happening around me.
For example, what I mean by that:
I can watch Wonder Woman, and be looking at Wonder Woman like
"Oh my God, I'm SO GAY"
and then I'll see the scene where Wonder Woman kisses that super handsome guy,
and I'm like "Oh my word, give me a piece of that!"
But even the opposite, the flip side of that... if I spend a lot of time in the straight world,
I'll find myself thinking about women or queer relationships more,
whereas if I'm spending a lot more time in the LGBTQ community
I might then find myself fantasizing more about men.
In terms of whether or not it affects my relationship,
if anything, it's good for my relationship.
Because when I'm in a period of, like, "Mmm, men" there's Dallas...!
and when I'm in a phase of being attracted to women and thinking about women,
who can I talk about that with and fantasize about that with?
Dallas!
-Surprise, surprise - Dallas also likes women!
Okay! Moving on. Next question:
"How often do you make puns about your sexuality?"
Hmm...
I'd say bi-weekly.
"Have you ever had a crush on a straight girl?"
Yeah, like fifty thousand times
But then we start hanging out and... suddenly they're not so straight anymore.
Agh, this lighting! Sorry, the sun just came out.
Stop it!
This is not about you!
That's right. You get back behind thAT CLOUD.
"I'm just coming to terms with my own bisexuality. What was the hardest part for you?"
The hardest part for me was recognizing and validating within myself
that no matter what relationship I was in, I was still bi, and that's okay.
I went through a period of time - years - while I was dating Dallas at the beginning
that I tried to hide and push away and ignore my sexuality, because I thought
"Well, I'm dating Dallas, it doesn't matter."
when it totally still matters!
Worrying about how he was gonna respond and worrying about how
the world was gonna respond to me still continuing to be openly bisexual while dating him
was, I would say, the biggest internal hurdle that I had to overcome.
Also, welcome to the club, Emily.
Happy to have you.
And the last question that I'm gonna answer is
"How to get over internalized biphobia?"
I'm not gonna lie to you;
this is probably a lifelong journey.
But the best first step that I can offer is to surround yourself
with people who validate your experience.
Whether that's people actually in your real life, face-to-face, or people like me
and people like everyone in the comments.
It was so huge for me to find people, to find a community that accepted me.
Specifically, I'll shout out Ash Hardell.
I don't think they even know how big of an impact that they've had on my life and my own acceptance of my sexuality,
but spending time with people who will hear you, and people who will tell you that you're not wrong...
Finding people who share your experience is huge because you know that you're not alone,
you know that you're not the only one feeling this way, and that you're not wrong for feeling that way.
That, I would say, has been the biggest turning point for me.
That's it! Those are all the questions that I'm gonna answer today
If you're not already following me on Twitter, what are you doing with your life?
Twitter is where I go for everything; to ask you guys anything, to tell you guys anything,
that's where I go. So that's where you should go too. Okay?
Oh, uh, also excuse my shorts.
This is a full outfit today.
(Come say goodbye! Come say goodbye to the people!)
That's it for this video! I love you very much.
Thank you for watching,
and I'll see you the next one.
Bye!
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[Captions by TastefulPenguins]