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this is Damon Cart from NLP Gym. Free
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these videos on a regular basis you ever
feel insecure you are human
of course you do we all do from time to
time what do you want to do about that
unfortunately most of us use avoidance
as a strategy if they feel insecure in a
certain place around certain people or a
person or with certain activities they
just ultimately avoided as much as
possible which will only limit you
it also doesn't feel very good instead
of thinking of insecurity is something
you're just stuck with just have to
endure trial this reframe insecurity is
really just a lack of information this
is something that empty legend Steve
andreia stopping a lack of sensory based
information will make you feel insecure
about something it is the unknown that
you're afraid of and the truth that's
actually a good thing this keeps you
safe this keeps you out of trouble this
keeps you out of being overly confident
about something that you're not good
about good with or maybe giving you a
sense of being secure in place where it
might be dangerous around a person who
might be dangerous short of actually
being in a dangerous situation or being
around people who might be dangerous
feeling insecure though is likely to
limit you keep you from doing what it is
you want to do when in actuality and
security should be pointing at
indicating that here is something for
you to learn and that you should
actually move in the direction of your
insecurity there is tremendous amount of
wisdom and insecurity we get caught up
in the feeling don't go it doesn't feel
good so we want to try to avoid those
situations people and
those places are those activities when
in actuality that's what we should be
moving toward this is a unique
opportunity to learn something
Bruce Lee used to say all knowledge is
self-knowledge so even when we think
we're learning about the world around us
are about other people that's reflective
of ourselves
this is why personal development and
self-help and self-discovery is so
important
the more you know about the world around
you and the more you know about yourself
the more you continue to discover that
the more secure
you're going to feel and you're not
going to get this from reading a book
let me say that
let me repeat that you were not going to
overcome insecurity by reading a book
you're not been going to go to overcome
and security by standing in front of a
mirror and repeating affirmations you
will become more secure when you
actually experience life when you get
out there and you do the things that
make you feel insecure when you do these
things the more you do them the more
you're gathering the sensory based
information the more you're discovering
yourself the more secure you will become
if you want to improve your basketball
game got you have to get out there and
practice if you want to meet people if
you want to make more connections if you
want to network you feel insecure about
this getting out there and doing it is
going to make you feel more secure
you're going to get used to it a lot of
people try to avoid what they know they
actually have to do
there's just no way of getting around
it's like it's like getting healthy
there's no other way around exercising
and eating right so when it comes to
things that you feel insecure about you
have a lack of knowledge about that and
not conceptual knowledge real hands-on
life experience knowledge the more you
have that the more secure
you're going to feel to summarize if you
want to feel more secure about meeting
people about asserting yourself about
asking for what you want you're going to
have to stand in that fire and you will
realize that it doesn't burn and they
feel uncomfortable
you will survive you will be ok there is
no actual real threat to you physically
the more you do these activities
the more confident you will feel about
it the more secure you feel about
yourself in these situations with these
people and with these activities you can
accelerate this process by choosing a
particular situation activity or context
for people to work on and keep it
journal and write about it when you go
and do the activity or in that situation
or around his people and you come out of
it
journal about it afterward and be
specific and use sensory based terms be
focused on what you saw what you heard
and what you felt
yes you can conceptualize and
philosophize about it but keep that to a
minimum really focus on the the real
sensory based experience that your
that's coming to you
that's one part of the other part of it
is think about this decision you made in
this context are with these people with
this activity and think of three
different possible to sit decisions you
could you could have made in this
situation what that will do is it will
give you a sense of greater choice and
greater possibility in these situations
and that will make you feel that much
more secure and confident and your
self-esteem will grow another great help
you process to use within security and
confidence is mapping across I don't
have time to go into that this video I
will in a future video but if you can't
wait for that
feel free to look it up online there's
much about mapping across it won't be
mapping across that you can find on the
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