Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com. On today's video I'm
gonna be teaching you a really big mistake that you're making. Maybe
multiple mistakes that's preventing you from attracting a girl, from having sex
with her, from getting her interested in you and it all boils down to one word
and that word is desperation. Desperation is what completely kills it for a woman.
When she is around a guy who is desperate or needy or really just
aching to be with a girl, it's not attractive because it shows that this
guy is in lack of something. That he's insecure. That maybe because
he's so desperate he doesn't have any girls in his life, that maybe
there's something wrong with him and they she might not be thinking that
on a very conscious level. This is all subconscious stuff. She sees that a
guy is so desperate that's because he doesn't have a girl. Maybe there's
something about him. Maybe there's a reason why he doesn't have this girl and
so therefore it becomes extremely unattractive. On today's video I'll be
going over some of the things that you might be doing that's causing this big
mistake of displaying this terrible unattractive trait of desperation so we
can prevent you from doing it ever again. If you're ever around a girl, you're
talking to her and she says something about some opinion of some sort or
something that she likes and you said the exact opposite a little bit earlier
and then all of a sudden you start agreeing with her and changing your
opinion, this is a very desperate move and she's gonna pick up on this.
She's gonna be like wait a minute, this guy just said two seconds ago that he
doesn't like the exact thing that I said that I do like. What's going on here?
Women are smart. They pick up on this stuff so changing your opinions,
changing the way that you think or changing your lifestyle just so you can
get the girl to like you, just being super agreeable with her, this is a big
sign of desperation because you're willing to change your whole mind around
for this one girl. Very bad, do not do that anytime in conversation.
Here's a small example of that. Let's just say that she likes a folk music
and just a second earlier you said that you hated folk music and she's like oh
well I really like folk music and you're like well it's not that bad.
There's a few songs that I like or there's a few bands that I like.
It's like right there off the bat, she can tell that you're just trying to agree
with her so that you can do anything to get her to like you. Again that's a
big thing a desperation too. Going out of your way to do things not of the norm to
get her to like you. Let's keep going. Over complimenting oh this is very
desperate. Just saying a lot of nice things to a girl over and over.
Yeah, I got videos on complimenting. It works, it's great, it's
very nice but you do it sporadically. If you do it too much, it loses its value
and it's showing desperation. Along with this, let's talk about gifts. I hear this
a lot. I hear this a lot on in the comments below on YouTube videos that
guys will get gifts for girls, not gifs, gifts. They'll buy her flowers
or I'll even have in my private Facebook group Tripp's Corner. Guys join that
group when they get access to my program Hooked and they're in there and like oh
should I bring flowers to a first date? And yes maybe we saw this in videos or
maybe this is something that was done like 50 years ago. But now that's not
very normal. It's not very normal and it looks kind of desperate because
you're trying to gift her something. Flowers are a great gift to get a girl
when you've been dating her for six months. That's a different story but in
the beginning stages, in the courtship process, you're not gonna be
giving her gifts. It's kind of weird, it's gonna show that you're just trying to do
all these superficial things to get her to like yo. That's not what she wants,
she wants you. She's trying to be attracted to you. Not the things that you're gonna
give her. Another one is dropping plans. Dropping plans or being super
available at any moment of the week to drop it and be with her.
Don't do that. Have a life, be busy, do your own thing. If the only day
you have free of the week is Thursday and she can't hang out on Thursday
and then you start moving all these plans around and then you're free,
that's desperate and you shouldn't do that. That's just bad for you. This is bad
energy to have in your world because then you're really reinforcing this idea
that this girl is so amazing and so much better than anything you have going
on in your life. Let's not rearrange plans for her. Let's just make it work
when you can. Guys who end up in the friend zone with a girl and think
they have a shot, they'll text her a lot, they'll call her a lot. Actually I doubt
many guys are calling these days. They're probably doing a lot more
texting or you get a girl's number at a party or something like that and it's
kind of vague whether or not she likes you or doesn't like you and you're
texting and she doesn't respond and you text again and again, all
this very bad, big turn-off. shows desperation. I want you to be a guy who's
pursuing a girl, not chasing a girl. There is a difference. You're pursuing
her. You see something and you're going after it. But you are not gonna be
the guy who's gonna be running after her and going after her at any cost.
If anything we want a girl to chase you. I have a few videos on that. I'll put that
down in the description below. But you want to be pursuing her. Not at the
cost of who you are as a person. Not at the cost of your opinions, not out of the
cost of your lifestyle, not at the cost of anything. This is going to show
character. This is going to show strength in your character. Everything I
just listed in today's video, don't do any of that stuff. Instead show up
with a girl, be present, be you in the fact that you have opinions, you have
thoughts, you have beliefs, stick to those. Don't chase her. If she's
not interested in you, she puts you in the friend zone, move on. You have a
better chance of actually getting her by not even talking to her or giving her
the time of day then you do after trying to do some
weird trick to get her interested in you which is probably not gonna work anyway.
I want you to take some of these mindsets, take these examples and
fix these for the future. Down below gonna put another link to my
manifesto. This is an hour-long presentation that I did and it is very
very rich in examples and techniques and information for you to be the guy that
is able to attract women and not make these mistakes. I go
through the whole process from beginning to end. From hello all the way to the
bedroom. Go check that out in the description below and learn how to do it
properly without being the desperate guy. I'll see you on the next video.