Quazi. And in today's video,
I want to share with you the one fundamental expectation.
You must hold at all times in order to be an effective
creator of your reality and why you must get rid of all the other expectations
you must have such as, oh, this is going to be easy,
or this is going to be difficult by the end of this video,
you're going to learn why holding all of these other expectations actually work
to your detriment.
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I want to talk to you about expectations and this is something I've been
thinking about for a very long time.
And what I've seen is that when I expect something to be easy,
it's never easy. When I expect something to be hot, it's actually hot.
So let's understand why that happens and why expectations actually harm you.
So this realization first came to me when I was starting up my business.
And I was like, all right, well, I'm making you know, one K two K a month,
and I need to get to five K a month because I needed to prove to my parents that
I could make this self-sustainable. And also, uh, I could quit my full-time job.
They said, if you can make five came on from your online business,
you can quit your full-time job and do it full time and do your business
full-time. So I said, great. So I'll do that.
So I started my business and it was going well,
I was doing one K two K three K 4k, but I never got to that 5k.
And, uh, that month when I quit college or I mean,
I graduated from college and I was supposed to go full-time into my job.
I quit my full-time job just to go full-time into my business.
And what I saw was that, you know, that month,
when things needed to be perfect, they were the worst.
I had the worst outcome that month,
the more pressure I put on myself that month in order to make money,
the month of may, um, the more I didn't make money.
And that month I made absolute zero in the business, nothing came in.
So this is what happens to business owners. They make a goal for,
let's say, I'm gonna use a different pen here.
Business owners start with a revenue goal. Jesus'
goal of 10 K month.
And then month one, let's say they started five K.
I hope you can see this month. Two,
they go to eight K but month three,
when, just as they're expecting it to go to 10 K,
they go back down to 5k.
So this is something similar to what's happened to me, right?
Except I wasn't doing big numbers. Like those, I was doing much less back then.
So, uh, what happened? Why did that happen?
And usually why this happens is because they put this revenue goal on a
pedestal.
And what happens when you put things on a pedestal is you mess
things up. You make a really big mistake, and this is why.
So when I put things on a pedestal in my mind, okay?
So I want you to take a minute to think about this.
When you have something in your mind that you can't stop thinking about and
obsessing about, and you need this, you really want this.
You put a lot of importance to that. So, uh, in terms of revenue,
let's say you've been trying to get to a certain revenue for a very long time.
You know, this is all you dream about. This is, you know,
that's like the light at the end of the tunnel, you put it on a pedestal.
Your thought energy gets very, very concentrated on that thing.
And when it does compare to other things in your life,
the importance level is very, very inflated to that revenue goal. So let's say,
you know, you have a chart of importance on the y-axis
importance, and these are categories on the X.
So let's say you have relationships. You have, uh,
a healthy amount of importance on your relationships, health.
You have a healthy amount of importance,
but you have an unhealthy amount of obsession and importance with your revenue,
okay. Or business,
RHB your relationships. You're okay with you.
Don't have a lot of expectation or a lot of importance on it. Health,
not a lot of expectation or importance on it, but when it comes to your revenue,
oh man, that's so important. That's got to happen.
And when you put that on a pedestal, it starts to work to your detriment. Why?
Because when you put too much importance on something,
you create an imbalance in the field of nature. Okay.
You create an in-home originating in the field of nature. What does that mean?
It's just a fancy word for imbalance. And nature's field basically says, oh,
look, there's an unhealthy amount of importance here,
please go in and balance this out.
And how it balances it out is by taking what's known as the path of least
resistance nature will always take the path of least resistance to accomplish
any means or, you know, uh,
establish any balance POL our path of least resistance.
And, uh, when it creates this balance,
how it does it is either by taking the,
taking you further and further away from the goal or by making you achieve the
goal. And most of the time,
it's actually easier to take you away from the goal to help rather than helping
you achieve it. I don't know why that happens, but it just does.
So if you look at people who a put a person on a pedestal, you know,
you have this specific person, you put that person on a pedestal,
you really want that person. You have a crush on that person.
You put that person on a pedestal, or you can think about that person.
What you do is you push that person away. Nature comes in, balances it out,
and it makes the person more turned off by you.
And it pushes the person further and further away until you forget about that
person. And you no longer think about that person all the time.
So do you see how this happens? Kind of like that, you know,
nature wants to make you forget about the goal and make you give up on the goal.
And just when you give up on the goal, that's when it gets achieved.
So have you ever had it in your life where you just, uh, completely surrendered,
completely let go of something. And just at that moment, when you're like, it,
I'm done with this. That's when it happens.
That's exactly what happened to me in the month of may. I was like, all right,
you know what, it. I'm done trying to make it work.
Whatever happens will happen. And when I had that attitude,
I no longer had this resistance. I no longer put it up on such a pedestal.
And that's exactly what had happened that month of June.
I think I made five K or six K my business that was the highest ever back then,
July, I made eight K an August. I made my first 20 K month.
And it was completely unbelievable for me because, you know, there I was,
I was very safe and, you know, went to a,
almost a full-time engineering career that would pay me like 48 grand a year.
And here I am making 20 grand in a single month. So, uh, as a, as a 21 year old.
So I couldn't, it was completely shocking for me,
but that's exactly what happened because I let go.
And I learned to balance my effort with surrender.
And this is why it's also very difficult for people to achieve their goals.
Because goal achievement really is a skill of playing with dichotomies of
playing with, um, duality.
But our minds are so binary, it sees black or white,
and it only sees things linearly. When it sees that, you know,
one month you go down, it's like, oh man, now I'm done.
I can never go back up again. It projects its insecurities into the future.
Right? So it doesn't see the mind, the, the limitation with our limited mind,
is it thinks in binary black or white yes or
no on off, or,
and it thinks linearly it doesn't see the things can be non-linear
okay. And because of that, we can't understand how the universal mind,
how nature works in delivering us to our goals. Okay.
So now let's get to the solution of this. Like what is,
because I mentioned to you, there is a fundamental assumption.
You must hold true.
So what fundamental assumption did I hold true in this instance,
let's look at that.
So here are the two keys you must follow in order to be a
master of your reality. Number one,
the fundamental assumption you must hold true at all times is that the goal will
somehow get achieved. The goal
will get achieved. Why do I say that?
Because this gets rid of,
I hope you can see that I'm going to move away from it so you can see it.
The goal will get achieved. Okay. Why?
This is an important assumption to have is that it actually creates that balance
between effort and surrender. So if you really think about it,
when we hold the assumption of the goal will get achieved,
we no longer care how it gets achieved. Somehow it gets achieved.
And the other thing that we do is we operate from that end place of the goal
getting achieved. Okay. The goal has been achieved. What does life look like?
What's the one step I can take, therefore,
in order to move one step closer to the goal.
So now we have ideas on how we might be able to get there.
So this is why in our reality marshy program that we do with our customers,
we focus so much on clarity on the end goal. Like, what do you want?
Why do you want it? And who must you become in order to achieve it?
These three questions.
If you really ask yourself and get clear on you'll understand,
you'll be able to reverse engineer your way back to from my current state.
What's one step I need to take to move closer to it.
What's the immediate bottleneck I've got to solve in order to move once they're
closer to it. Okay. So that's number one,
making the fundamental assumption that the goal will somehow get achieved. Okay,
well, the goal will get achieved. Maybe not this month, maybe not next month,
let it happen of its own accord.
What's one step I can take to move closer to it.
The second assumption you have to make is that accept
all the means that are provided to you, except the means.
And what I mean by that is life will throw all of these
spanners and try to mess things up. And to you,
it will appear like they're spans right to you. It'll look like they're trying.
Life is trying to actively mess you up. But if you perceive it that way,
because of your limited mind, which only sees in black or white, oh,
if I don't achieve 5k next month, that means I'm never going to achieve it.
If you perceive it as that, then that's exactly what's going to happen.
So this brings me to the second piece of it, of reality creation,
which is your attitude is the most important thing.
If you have a negative attitude,
if your relationship to yourself and to your reality is negative,
then more negative things will happen.
The mirror of reality will reflect more negative events. So for example,
if you perceive and you expect things to be hard and life to be hard,
then that's exactly what's going to happen.
But if you expect things to always go your way,
then more and more events, not everything,
but more and more things will start to go your way.
But this is different from expectation because you don't take it for granted.
You don't expect that a hundred percent of time. It'll go your way.
When we do that, we build this imbalance.
We create an importance imbalance onto it, right?
So if you predominantly believe that life is actively working to help you out,
then that's exactly what's going to happen.
If you predominantly believe that you're just a lucky person and good things
happen to you, then that's Mo more often than not.
That's exactly what's going to happen.
It's just that our expectations start to get in the way for how are you to know
that, you know, something is a blessing in disguise. If something,
if you go down this month, how you to know that maybe, you know,
this had to happen in order for you to learn your lessons.
So you can go past that 10 K month goal that you have to 20 K a month, right?
You never know. So accept all of the means that are provided to you,
even though you might not be able to see the blessing in disguise.
Another video I made recently that might help you with this.
I'm going to put it down in the description below is understanding blessings in
disguise bid.
And when you understand blessings in disguise and start to see them as that,
you'll no longer fight against life, but you'll take the optimal path,
the path of least resistance and ride it towards your goals. All right?
So these are the two keys you need to remember, assume and accept,
assume and accept.
And these are the only expectations.
This is the only expectation you have to make that the goal will somehow get
achieved. For me.
I made the expectation that somehow I'll get to that 20 K month.
Somehow I'll get to that a hundred K month. It'll happen somehow.
It's not happening right now.
Maybe I need to learn my lesson and start doing more uncomfortable things,
to expand myself and put myself out of my comfort zone in order to get there.
And that's exactly what I did.
I started to invest crazy amounts of money that I've never invested before.
And it was extremely uncomfortable because I was more or I'd hold onto all the
cash that you can because it might go away.
But I started to invest crazy amounts of money like jumping 5k,
eight K 10 K even 30 K on mentorships and masterminds.
And that's exactly what helped me to go from 20 K 200 K a month,
learning from the best and learning what I needed to do.
And when you do those things that are uncomfortable and put yourself out of your
comfort zone, then more ideas come to you, right?
It's only in this chaos of you expanding your comfort zone and putting yourself
somewhere that you're not accustomed to that, you know, you get new ideas,
some doing something that's completely left field from your usual field of
experience, right? So with that, I conclude this video.
Thank you so much for watching.
Let's do a quick recap of what we talked about today. Today,
we talked about expectations and why having all of these expectations actually
work to your detriment.
And what we concluded was that expectations are actually a form of importance.
We put an importance on things having to go a certain way.
Things should be this way.
The only thing that should is the assumption that you will achieve your
goal. That's the only thing. And even then it's not a shirt, it will happen.
It's it's done.
And what we saw was that when an importance is built up,
it actually creates imbalance in nature.
And nature wants to come in and balance it out by taking the path of least
resistance. Most of the time,
the path of least resistance involves you not achieving the goal, because.
It's easier for nature to keep you where you are rather than take you to your
goal.
Unless you remove all of the resistances that you've built up with importance,
right? And we saw how the limited mind, you know,
starts to put these meanings and attachments and project those.
And that's exactly what happens. Our attitude gets to,
it gets darkened by all the events that happen and our expectations.
So what we concluded was that the best solutions to this was number one,
making the fundamental assumption that somehow the go will get achieved and
operating from that end.
And that also gives you clarity on the steps you must take right now to move one
step closer to your goal. And finally, except all the means that are provided,
if something isn't going the way that you wanted to go right now,
except that this too is a blessing in disguise. You know,
maybe you haven't seen how it's a blessing,
but somehow it is somehow this needed to happen.
Everything happens for a reason, this needed to happen.
Whatever you're going through right now needs to happen in order for you to get
to that next level in your life. So guys, thank you so much for watching.
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