- When the prize gives herself on a plate,
ladies,
it does not have
a value.
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In this video, I will share with you five situations
where you should never text the guy first.
And ladies, I'm not saying you should
never text him first, but I'm saying
in these specific situations, do not be the one
pursuing him, as it will backfire.
So ladies, the first situation is,
never text a guy to ask him out.
He is a man, you are a woman,
he's the pursuer, and if he wants
to take you on a date, he must ask you on a date.
And it's not even because, do we have
to follow these ridiculous rules, it's just how it is.
Guys actually get turned off when you ask them out.
Sure, first he might be happy, and may even show
to all of his friends, "oh, look
"at this hot chick, she just asked me out."
But near the date time, it's very likely
that he will cancel with some excuse.
And it's simply because by pursuing him,
you are turning him off,
as you are emasculating him,
showing him that you are too keen,
and the challenge is gone.
When the price gives herself on a plate,
ladies,
it does not have
a value.
Now ladies, if you are in a happy relationship
where he is actually asking you
to take him out, or arrange something,
or you want to do it yourself,
and there has been a lot of investment
from him, and you know for sure
that he is crazy about you,
it's okay to do that sometimes.
But definitely not in the beginning stages
of relationships.
Second situation is, never text a guy first
to confirm the date.
If he asks you out, and the date is coming
near the time, do not get impatient trying
to confirm it first.
Stay patient, and let him confirm it.
If the date is on Saturday, let's say evening,
and he texts you at five p.m. to confirm it,
because he played the game and waited
for last minute, for you to text first,
well then ladies, it's a way too late.
If he doesn't confirm the date
'til the reasonable time, there is no date.
If he tells you he forgot, well,
do you want to go on a date with a guy
who forgets that he has a date with you?
Same thing if he tells you, "can you please remind me
to confirm it."
I mean, seriously.
If he starts to put the blame on you,
and tells you why you couldn't confirm it,
well ladies, be ready for him pulling out
the equality card regularly, and trying
to convince you that it's okay
to pursue man, it's okay to have one-night stands,
it's okay to split the bill 50-50,
that we are the same, and the list is basically endless.
Ladies, please watch my video
'Why You Should Not Pursue Man', which you can find
just by following the link right here,
and I will also drop it down in the description box.
The third tip, never text him first after the date.
Let him text you first after the date.
You had a fun time, that's great, you can say it
on a date.
For example, thank you for dinner,
thanks for taking me here, that was fun,
thanks for walking me home, that's it.
You don't touch your phone to text him after.
You let him initiate again.
Why?
Well, let's see, you had an awesome time,
you did, he did.
So now, if he wants to have an awesome time
with you again, he is a man, and you let him
take the lead, and pursue you again for it.
Also ladies, this way you will give him
a bit of uncertainty.
He will be like, "whoa, I thought we had
a great time, but she isn't chasing."
It creates uncertainty, and uncertainty is one
of a guy's love needs, so you just being
feminine, and letting him take the lead,
you fulfill your own need,
which is safety and security,
while he is pursuing you
to take you out.
And you are complimenting him
by literally just letting him take the lead,
while at the same time giving him uncertainty.
It's actually really beautiful, how the world
is designed, if we actually chose to follow the rules.
Tip four, never text him first when he is on a pull away.
When a guy is on a pull away,
that is not the time to chase him.
As this is when he will want to talk to you the least.
So for example, if he hasn't text you
for few days, but everything before was fabulous,
it is very likely that he's just
on a pull away, recharging his battery.
Do not chase a man when he is on a pull away,
as he simply will not respond well.
Just give him space and time,
and let him come to you.
Please watch my video 'Why Men Need to Pull Away',
which you can find just by following the link
right here, and I will also drop it down
in the description box below.
Tip five,
never text him first
if he was rude, mean, or disrespectful
to you.
Ladies, if a man has disrespected you,
and you are texting him first, ladies,
you are giving him attention
by rewarding his negative behavior.
He does not deserve that when he has been
mean and disrespectful, therefore
if he has been disrespectful, do not text him first after.
Let him come to you and make things up,
even if it's going to take him a while.
Ladies, do not give in by starting to chase,
as he will lose respect for you,
and without respect, there is no love.
Please watch my video 'How to Get a Man to Respect You',
which you can find just by following the link
right here, and I will also drop it down
in the description box.
So my ladies, now you know in which circumstances
you should never text a guy first.
But do you know how to get a man to chase you?
And for this, please check out the link
right here, and down in the description box.
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