- If you are going through a heartbreak right now
or through some type of breakup, then this video
I believe will completely change your life.
This is the life changing advice that I wish I had
when I was going through a breakup a couple years ago.
And honestly, it is the heartbreak advice
that I am using now,
because currently I am also going through a breakup.
So it is what I'm reminding myself of.
Sometimes I like to make videos
on things that are really fresh in my mind,
and in my way of being,
because it's stuff that I'm also studying.
This comes from not just my own experience
but also hundreds of books
on that of attachment and detachment.
Understanding that of the psychology
and the inner relationship dynamics
that happen between two people.
And it's gonna be things
that will not only exponentially your healing process,
but also help you understand,
and remember your own sense of worth.
Now, the most important thing to understand
about this process and to really feel into
when it comes to that of breaking up,
or heartbreak advice in general,
it's not internalizing what is happening.
So you might look at the situation
and even in the situation,
maybe somebody broke up with you,
maybe you broke up with somebody else.
Whatever the situation is,
understand that the situation
is that of not something you need to internalize.
Sometimes what happens is we then internalize it.
If somebody breaks up with us
or we break up with somebody else,
we may then say, "Well there's something wrong with me.
Maybe I'm not meant to be in a relationship.
Maybe there's people out there
that just don't understand me,
or maybe it's just not worth it."
When we begin to internalize these things
then it gets to down to our sense of self worth
and it makes it so much harder in the process.
And what I can definitely see in my own life
and past relationships is going through a breakup.
For me, there was a feeling of trying to prove it
to the other person that I am good enough.
It was me trying to like maybe fix the other person,
or believing that if they're not coming around
then maybe it's because I'm not good enough,
or there's something wrong with me.
And that would have me stay attached to the situation
because I was literally fighting to prove it
that I am good enough.
And what I eventually found, I'll share a little bit
about how I went through a prior breakup,
and how I'm going through this breakup,
and how they're completely different
in the way that I'm approaching it.
And it's because of my own sense of self growth.
Now, I will say this, from some of my past breakups,
I hadn't cried or, you know, I've been very sad
maybe even like losing sleep, maybe feeling very anxious.
And it was something that I knew
there was energy on the inside of me
but I wasn't really allowing myself to feel it.
I would like rationalize it,
or I would focus on my business,
and I wouldn't allow myself to feel that.
And this past, this breakup
that I'm going through right now,
I have cried more than I've ever cried.
I have allowed myself to really feel it
in a way that I never really allowed myself to.
And I think it's very ironic too
because not ironic necessarily,
but the work that I've been doing on myself
is I've been upgrading my own energy.
I really recently went through that of a breathwork process
where I was becoming certified
in something called Somatic Release Breathwork.
I became certified in this.
And part of the certification process
was that I go through that,
of like many breathwork ceremonies.
And one of the things I became aware of
was that I shut down sadness,
and didn't allow myself to feel sadness for so long.
Like literally like years and years
I wouldn't allow myself to feel sad.
I could tap into anger a little bit easier,
but sadness was something
that I wasn't allowing myself to feel.
So in breathwork, there was a moment
when one of the practitioners came over to me and said,
"It's okay to feel dog."
That's what he said, "It's okay to feel dog."
And in that moment when I was on this verge of crying
there was this cathartic release of emotion
that came out of my heart, that came,
and I could tell also that a lot of that was energy
that I absorbed from my mom
because my mom went through so much trauma
when she was a kid.
And there was another woman
that was like in this breathwork ceremony
that was screaming.
And there was something about that scream
that like reminded me of my mom,
and there was like a huge release.
And I realized that once I allowed my,
'cause I always had this story that like, I just don't cry
and then I would feel like there's something wrong with me.
Like I'm not tapping into my emotion.
However, once this happened in that breathwork ceremony
it released so much energy
and I allowed myself to feel more sensitive.
There were tears coming out
the first round of that breathwork
there were no tears.
And then I was judging myself again.
I'm like, "There something wrong with me?
I'm crying, but there's no tears."
And then after the second round where that woman cried
then the tears just flowed like crazy.
And since that moment, my hearts felt way more open.
Now, ironically enough,
when I went through this transformation in breathwork
I became like a different
to creative emotionally available I believe,
I believe that just opened up my heart
to a completely new level.
And when that happened in the relationship that I was in
it brought up stuff in our relationship
that had to be looked at.
And what ended up happening is
that situation spawned things to come up
that then closed the relationship.
But it was actually a very beneficial thing
because there was so much growth that happened.
It's almost like when you're in a relationship
with someone else, you'll grow,
you'll have these little spurts,
but there can become a time where though that growth
brings up stuff in somebody else or in the situation.
And for me, I can definitely see
that the degree to which I have grown has been
like the degree to which I can also like trust the process
that I'm not afraid to look at myself,
and that I'm going through this process of healing.
So with what I'm sharing right now,
I believe that part of this process
is like, I'm really,
I'm allowing myself to feel and I'm feeling more.
And by feeling more, I believe
that I'm allowing myself to also heal more.
So one of the parts of this heartbreak advice
or the breakup advice is that allow yourself to feel
and don't beat yourself up
if you're not feeling certain emotions right away either.
One thing that I would highly recommend you do
is something called, breathwork.
Breathwork is so transformative.
It helps you to like activate the energy inside of you
that you haven't allowed yourself to feel.
And then it allows you to release it.
You know, sometimes we repress
or we suppress energy inside of our bodies
and we don't even know it even happened when we were kids.
But when you breathe in a certain pattern
and you allow the energy to come up
you will feel so much lighter.
So something I do recommend maybe that you do
is maybe some type of breathwork session.
And if you go into that of,
also, if you wanna check that out,
you wanna do that tonight or something like that,
you can go to that of www.magneticmastery.com
and you can check that out.
That is my monthly membership where there is a recording
from the Shift Experience live event that I recently did.
And in that recording on day two, video one,
there's a hour and a half long breathwork session
of the most powerful transformative breathwork
I've ever learned in my life.
I recently became certified in it,
so I also facilitate that in my Magnetic Master membership.
So you could check that out too.
And it is something that is so powerful
when you allow yourself to feel,
and then allows you to like really let go of that energy
that you may have been attached to.
Now, another piece of this heartbreak advice
and breakup advice that I wanna share with you
is that when it comes to this process,
understand that there is attachments that we have
that come because of a story and a belief that we have.
And that story, that belief sometimes is that this person
is someone I need to force it to work with.
And when we have a story and this belief
that we have to force something to work
it creates a lot of resistance.
It creates a lot of pressure.
Now, when you let that person go
or they let you go or whatever the situation is,
one important thing to remember with this
is that stories and beliefs are something
that we've given meaning to
but inherently, these things are neutral meanings.
Everything has no built in meaning
other than the meaning we give it.
Now doesn't mean we need to sterilize, you know
we can realize that maybe we're an amazing relationship,
and there was so much love there in some ways,
but maybe it didn't work out.
There's a way of still appreciating what you learned
in the process.
There's a way of appreciating it
without being attached to it,
and needing it to look a certain way.
There's also a trust that can come with heartbreak,
and breaking up where you can realize
that you always get a reflection of the energy,
work that you are doing.
And with that, it's like you can trust
that as you work on yourself, you will find somebody
and end up attracting somebody that's an equal reflection
to that kind of work that you are doing.
And you can have trust in that process
because it's always a one-on-one reflection of that energy.
And if right now is not the time,
then maybe it's like, it's time to really let go,
and to focus on you.
That is another important part of heartbreak
and breaking up that's very important to remember
that this is a time for you to go inwards.
This is a time for you to become aware of what you value
to become aware of, like how you can be in your own frame.
To be in your own frame
is like, you're the star of your own movie.
There's a certain vision that you have
and if you don't know what that vision is, it's okay,
you figure it out as you go
but you start moving in a certain direction,
and you start focusing on what you love doing.
And you start like focusing on where you are,
and focusing on your own energy.
And sometimes after a breakup it could be very common
that you focus on the other person.
What are they doing?
What are, who are they talking to?
What are they posting on social media?
Something I'd very much encourage you to do.
This is something me and my ex are doing right now,
is we are muting each other on social media.
We're still friends, we're both on the, you know
we're both on social media and stuff
like, we're known on social media.
So it's like we're,
sometimes it can be beneficial to block somebody else.
For us, what we're doing is we're muting each other
so we're not seeing each other's posts
until in the future when we can be friends.
And it is something that really helps
to not like continue to reopen that wound
over and over again.
You know, it takes time
and it takes space to go through something.
You know, it's only been like a little bit over a week
since, as the time of I'm recording this,
since that breakup.
And for the first like four or five days
it was so hard for me to sleep,
and I was beat myself up so much
because I have this thing called a whoop
where I can like, see my sleep from the night before,
and literally every night prior to the breakup,
I would sleep seven and a half, eight hours a night.
The breakup happens and then what happens is,
I'm getting like five and a half, five hours of sleep
you know, six hours of sleep, sometimes a night after that.
And I'm beat myself up
because I'm in a process of like gaining muscle,
which means that recovery and sleep is so important
for that process.
And there's just like,
then I make it more and more important that I sleep good.
And then it's like I'm in my head
and it's hard for me to sleep.
And also, the emotional energy from that
of the breakup itself is like really, you know,
something I was feeling a lot and it was just,
it was just that I beat myself up more
as an interesting cycle.
But something important to remember is that
it just takes time.
There will be time,
it's gotten a little bit easier,
every single day, just a little bit easier.
Nothing crazy where it's like, Oh, it's so easy.
But let it be hard before it gets easier.
Let yourself, funny enough,
if you're trying to force yourself to sleep,
if you just let yourself lay there
and accept that maybe you're not gonna sleep,
a lot of times it's a lot easier to sleep.
In the same way, it's like,
if you let yourself feel the pain of this breakup
then you're gonna process the breakup
way quicker and faster and with more ease
than if you don't let yourself feel
or you think you're gonna distract yourself
by sleeping with other people or something like that.
So realize that for this process,
that it becomes easier as time goes on,
and as you are feeling it, to heal it,
and understand as well that there is a degree of trust
that you can have in the universe.
There is a degree of trust you can have in God,
or in yourself or in your higher self,
whatever label you wanna give to this.
This was happening for some type of reason.
It could be that it's putting you on a different timeline.
You just won't know until you look back in the future.
But for now, the important thing
and the thing that I'm remembering,
is one from past breakups that I've had
I internalized a lot of it.
I'm not internalizing it
and thinking there's something wrong with me.
Even the situation of how everything happened
with the person I just broke up with,
it is me realizing, not internalizing,
and thinking there's something wrong with me.
And understanding that this is a powerful way
for me to be in my own frame and to really set the energy
of like how I prefer to show up in the world,
and going through my own healing with courage,
and being in my own heart and vulnerability,
and sharing with friends and family
is something that can be powerful.
And this whole process is something that you,
it's also gonna reflect
and leak into other areas of your life.
I know right now, interesting enough,
I'm gonna be focused on like, you know,
with my team on doing live events and stuff.
I'm still going through the process and everything,
and not like, of like the breakup and not like,
oh, I'm just gonna distract myself with business,
but like this next like, year for me,
I know that I'm gonna be very busy.
So it's kind of also synchronous into that.
I know that's gonna allow me to focus on my own passion.
And in a way, maybe you can allow this to help you
be the reason that you're focused on what you love,
you focusing on opening up your own heart,
you're focusing on feeling more.
And as you do that, you're realize
that then your life begins to change in a very powerful way.
Now if you haven't checked it out yet, there is a website
you can also go to called www.whatsmyvibration.com
if you wanna calibrate your vibration,
and then also get a meditation
for helping you take it to the next level.
That's at whatsmyvibration.com.
And then also, if you want a video
that's gonna show you how to really heal,
how to use something called the no contact rule,
which is like the most powerful process you can use
for healing quicker,
check out this video right here.
One of the worst things to do post breakup
or after you have detached from somebody else,
is to keep an open loop,
and the energy going back and forth.
Now in this video I'm gonna share with you the solution.