there is chaos in the world it comes in a variety of shapes and sizes and
individual and family levels as well as from within larger corporations and even
higher cosmic levels but why is it so pervasive well because it's the natural
state of everything entropy is another more scientific sounding word for the
degrading force of chaos which seeks to ruin anything and everything now it
requires effort and energy to set things right again to put them back in order
it is a forceful and rightful application of this effort and energy
that will help keep chaos at bay in our own personal lives it'll help us live
peaceful lives of purpose and meaning and make our institutions more aligned
to their duty dr. Jordan Peterson lays out 12 rules to help turn this chaos
into order and the rest of this video is based off of Jordan Peterson's book the
12 rules for life which seemed to be a great list of cliches to live a happy
meaningful and successful life number one stand up straight with your
shoulders back standing up straight that's two powerful things it exerts
dominance and confidence and it also shows that you accept responsibility
further research has actually shown that a physical stature even a small muscle
movement can affect your emotions for example gradually making a sad face will
make you feel sad likewise having a stooped posture with your head hanging
low leaves you susceptible to appearing as though your lower status now it's
hard to accept responsibility for your actions when you're slouching or
sprawled out on the floor by being upright with your shoulders back and
your feet shoulder-width apart you exude a confidence and a willingness
to take meaningful action it is this that separates people from animals being
able to recognize your own actions number two treat yourself like someone
you are responsible for helping there's a famous golden rule that goes do unto
others as you would have them do unto you the truth is many people are
terrible at looking at themselves this is often seen at research from the
medical field people don't take their medicine they don't take it at the right
time they don't take the right ones and they don't take the right amount of
medicine however people are usually really good at taking care of their pets
think about it you buy them food you feed them every day you'll wash them
when they need it and if they start limping or puking you take them straight
to the vet so improve your own health exercise your mind motivate yourself and
seize the greatness that is within you if
not for yourself than to be better able to take care of those that you love
number three make friends with people who want the best for you friends are
amazing they add excitement humor and joy to your life without friends people
become a shrunken shell of what they could become
a so called dark and twisted hermit friends also act on one another
driving one another to become something different for example a group of men who
are friends probably look very similar to each other have the same habits
whether they're good or bad and laugh at the same jokes and because of what
friends can do to us we have one heavy responsibility to choose friends that
will be healthy influences and not toxic ones choose your friends carefully
number four compare yourself to who you were yesterday not to who someone else
is today assigning value to something is entirely natural in a more common use of
the term value people use it to measure themselves against the progress of other
people he makes more money her children are smarter they drive a better car this
is utterly an inherently self-destructive these kind of beliefs
will build resentment anger and self-loathing not only for the other
person either but for yourself all of this diminish your own sense of
self your personal valuation and your feeling of autonomy therefore you should
strive to become a better person even if it's just a 1% better each week than you
were before if you do this continually for 71 weeks you'll be twice the person
that you were before number 5 don't let your children do anything that makes you
dislike them at first glance this rule might sound a little strange suppose a
child is treated in one of two ineffective parenting styles either
permissive or authoritarian permissive parents dote on their child even when
the child has done something bad or wrong on the other hand authoritarian
parents are at the other end of the spectrum layering on so many rules and
iron-fisted punishments that the child feels they have no sense of reasonable
freedom let me say I have no children and I'll be the first to say that
parenting is a bloody difficult task however in both of these cases the child
will be socially stunted and have problems fitting in to the broader
society because we all know there's a bunch of intricacies in gray' moral
areas if a child's parents are to love them and support them but are driven mad
by certain things that the child does then there's a low likelihood that
anyone else in society will also tolerate that kind of behavior and if
society doesn't tolerate him it could leave the child
feeling isolated and with all kinds of problems
basically if you don't like something that your child does neither will
society so it's your job as a parent to put an end to it
also you need to understand as a parent your own capacity for bad and egregious
behaviors and try to introduce your child to the world in appropriately
sized doses again I don't have children but this is what the book recommends but
number six set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world how
is someone supposed to set themselves in perfect order this kind of question
misses the entire point the idea is not that you must live perfectly but that
you must be willing to deeply introspect and examine your life and your choices
in order to prevent future mistakes basically stop doing things that are
objectively bad for you or that you know to be a bad idea for example this could
be stopping smoking or maybe letting go of a toxic relationship don't rush to
judge and blame others for the problems of the world
I think this step can be summed up in one quote if every man sweeps his own
porch and the whole world would be clean number seven pursue what is meaningful
not what is expedient President Kennedy put eloquently in 1962 we choose to go
to the moon in this decade and do other things not because they are easy but
because they are hard nobody ever said that life was fair nobody ever said that
we were born to live a happy life everyone will endure suffering and if
you don't think you're suffering right now then you need to know you were in
the few of the billions of people who have lived on this planet and suffer and
they suffer daily anyways I like Jordan's idea that life isn't supposed
to be happy it's not supposed to be fair or fun it's supposed to be meaningful
that means you will suffer but your suffering should be worth the life that
you live in the life you're leaving behind again do what is meaningful not
what is fun or easy in the moment number eight tell the truth or at least don't
lie social trust is a difficult thing to achieve and can be quickly lost through
an indiscretion or even a simple misunderstanding social trust is crucial
and not just for well-functioning businesses but also for sustaining the
forward progress of society and the happiness of the individuals within that
society the truth in this instance comes with a big tea it's a conglomeration of
personal truth of experiences the keeping of promises and contracts and
the accurate description and understanding of reality here's a little
example you might say that 70 degrees is warm and I might
say that 70 degrees is cold in a sense we are both telling our own truths even
if they're different the important part is to tell your own truth
number 9 assume that the person you're listening to might know something that
you don't if what you hold to be true must be forced upon others is that truth
that you hold really that powerful a part of the truth is that you shouldn't
have to proclaim it others should find it through their own research if it's so
true and righteous then it should be able to withstand honest scrutiny and
either emerge stronger be modified or be cast aside as a lie social progress and
personal development will only happen if people are willing to take a deep look
at themselves and realize that while they might know a great many things and
comparison to the great sea of all human knowledge in the cosmos any one person
knows practically nothing I think this can be some down into being humble
because if you're humble you will always listen to other people remember ten be
precise in your speech when two or more people debate or discuss a particular
topic precision and speech is very important because without it it becomes
impossible to understand exactly what is being discussed for example if there's
an argument between a couple it does no good to dredge up things in the past
instead you should try to focus on what's causing the problem right now
don't use a paint roller when a fine brush will do as another example when
some people save faith what they mean is belief without evidence while other
people mean complete trust and these are two very different things and I suppose
the difference is the cause of many debates for example you might have
belief without evidence that when you sit in a new chair that it will hold you
up even if you have no evidence of the chairs weight limits or you've never
seen someone else sit in it however you might also have complete trust that when
you sit down in the same chair that you've sat in for years which again is a
form of evidence that the chair will hold you up in both cases the people
will say that they had faith that the chair would hold them up but they mean
different things being able to describe exactly what you do not understand or
what makes you unhappy or unproductive is the first step in improving any
situation if there is a problem the first step is to clearly define it
number 11 do not bother children when they're skateboarding as mentioned
earlier there's two detrimental styles of parenting permissive and Authority
area even more prevalent today is the style
of helicopter parenting now this kind of parenting is very controlling but it
comes with a warm Pleasant and a helpful face the helicopter parent lives a life
of perpetual fear for their child that maybe their child will eat a piece of
Halloween candy that contains a razor blade this kind of thinking leaves
children unprepared for the rough and tough environment of school unsure of
how to navigate novel social situations and completely unable to take
appropriate and calculated risk whenever they become adults skateboarding teaches
children about their own limits and it uses the pain of failure as a learning
tool for setting boundaries which as you know can be modulated as your skill
increases you can do more difficult tricks skateboarding along with other
physically demanding activities teaches children how to handle their own fear
and when to push against it ultimately you end up with two very different
children who will grow up in the two very different adults risk takers and
the risk-averse each of these types of adults have their strengths and to put
it bluntly if your house or apartment building catches fire who do you want
rushing in to rescue you one who knows how to control their fear or one who is
dominated by it number 12 pet a cat when you encounter
one on the street the point here is not to seek out every cuddly creature on the
sidewalk or in the wild and try to give it a pat on the head because some cats
are feral and some dogs are service animals that are best left alone to
their work what this instead means is that people need to stop what they're
doing from time to time and just be present in the moment and appreciate the
wonderful beauty and peace that is all around us you hear on the news all the
time about bad things happening but for example the United States has way less
murders happening now than happened a hundred years ago almost everyone has
the availability through the wide knowledge of the internet basically
everyone has access to clean running water take some time to appreciate the
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