Mark: Five ways to make him miss you authentically so he can't stop thinking about you.
That's the topic we're covering today.
I've got one of my favorite people in with me, Alex Cormont is back.
Hello again, Sir.
Not only is he the number one French dating and relationships coach, but he's been in
long distance relationships himself.
In fact, your own fiance had you missing her for six months at a time.
Alex: Exactly. It was not that easy.
Mark: Yeah, it's really not.
And I wanted to pick your brain.
You've worked with tens of thousands of coaching clients and you're just five ways we were
talking about this that you can get your clients to have the men they're with missing them.
What's your number one tip?
Let's get straight into it.
Alex: Okay, so the number one tip, which was really important for me and really important
for human is you know, there's a sentence that I'm always saying it's like we value
what we don't have and there's something you need to read.
The book from Robert Cialdini called the Science of Influence because you will learn a lot
about human nature.
Mark: I'll put the link in the description.
Alex: Exactly. So if you want to make sure that this man would miss you, you always need to be a challenge.
You always need to be on the pedestal because most of the time when we are in a relationship,
we want to make sure we give a lot of love, but sometimes it just killed the attraction
and the men would not start to miss you if he feels that he doesn't have to do nothing
to re-attract you or to attract you days after days.
Mark: The question from the audience is going to be, well does that mean I have to work
all the time and play hard to get, pretend to be challenging.
The question I imagined that you might have is when do I get to relax and just, just connect.
Alex: I think you can relax and just connect right now, but the only one thing I want you
to do is to be yourself because most of the people that I've coached, women, when they
start a relationship they would, they would just avoid to see their friends.
They would just start to just really for the men, stop having their own dreams professionally
for example, and it's not playing a game, it's just being yourself.
Mark: So it's natural challenge.
Alex: Exactly.
And continue to have your own life.
The example that I always have, always have, when you're in a relationship, do you see
your friends on Tuesday when you plan to go on a date with them or do you change your
plan and go to see your man if he asks you?
Most of the time they say no, I would change my mind, I would change my plan and it's not
a good idea.
So if you want your man to miss you, you need to continue to have your own life.
Of course after that you will live together relationship will be built and everything.
But if you want in the beginning and when you're dating, if you want to make sure this
man will continue to miss you, it's about having your own personal life.
Mark: What I'm really hearing there, Alex, is your priorities should change slowly.
So your man shouldn't go from like number 10 priority to number one, he goes to 10 and
then he goes to nine and then to eight and very slowly over the years he gets, he gets
more time as top priority, but he's never that all the time, and it happens slowly.
Priority change happens slowly.
Alex: That's really important.
Because my tip number one was to tell you, okay guys, we value what we don't have.
So you need to be the challenge.
And as men, we are like hunters.
So we need to chase you.
We need to push through, if not, we will look at other woman or we will just leave the relationship.
So you need to always be the challenge.
Tip number two is be careful when you express your love.
For example, if you tell your men, uh, I cannot live without you, that's something that can
just make him feel like he can avoid you.
Mark: Yeah.
And it's, it's, well, it's codependent really.
And it's actually, it's over-investing, right?
Alex: So if you don't, if you want to make sure that he will miss you, you need to stop
using so much words about your love, the way you express your feelings.
You need to be careful with this part because every word is really important.
Every detail is really important inside a relationship and dating.
Mark: Yeah.
One thing I like to talk about is, you know, I have clients that come to me and they say,
Oh, you know, it's been a few weeks.
I know he's the one I know he's great.
I'm like, I, I can appreciate what you're feeling right now, but honestly, if you're
saying that in three weeks, he's done enough to convince you that he's the one.
Unfortunately what the guy feels from you is low standards because the guy says, well,
she can't possibly know me in three weeks.
No one could know me in three weeks.
So he's saying, well, she thinks I'm the one in three weeks, the, the standard can't be
that high because it's only been three weeks and that's why it's so important.
I talk about this concept of long standards to apply standards over a period of time.
Look for the things that make a great partner.
How does he treat you when he's in a state of fear?
When he's really stressed, is he still able to keep his boundaries?
You're not going to know any of that in three weeks.
And that's why you can still be real.
You can still say, Hey, I feel really strongly for this guy and I'm seeing if he's going
to make a great partner because I have long standards.
Alex: Exactly.
Because if after three weeks you think that he is the one of your life, then you will
never miss you.
That's just not possible.
It's like it never happened.
Mark: It's like it's done.
Alex: And my tip number three is being yourself.
But I want to give you an example.
I have coached this amazing woman, she was chasing a man and the man was never acting,
never texting her, never asking how to go out and everything.
She has asked me Alex, what should I do?
And she organized a show, so she was a photographer.
She was just organizing like a show, showing her pictures.
And she said, Hey, come come to this event and this guy, when he arrived there, he just
realized how amazing she was because she opened up her wall.
While before they were just going, drink some coffee, some drinks, go to the restaurants,
which is the basic stuff.
So if you want the man to miss you, it's really important for you to show him who you are.
Mark: Your world.
Bring him into world.
Let him see what he could be a part of and then give him that natural space to appreciate it.
Alex: Because you will be different.
You will be unique.
And every men in this world, we want a unique woman.
That's normal.
So that was my tip number three.
Tip number four, and that's really important for me is your energy is contagious.
That means you need to smile, you need to be playful, you need to always be positive.
And you need to show that you have some dreams that you live with purpose because we value
women who have their own dreams.
It's like you just having control of your life and we just love it because you're strong,
because you're confident.
And because with you, we can feel and live some experience.
Mark: Yeah.
I just want to clarify.
It's not like being, I have to be positive all the time, right?
It's not like I'm going to fake it, but it's like looking at all right, what energy am
I generally putting out?
What energy are men generally receiving from me?
And generally, it should be positive.
Generally, a man will say have a positive experience as do you.
Alex: Exactly.
So it's not all the time for sure, you have to be yourself.
But what I mean by that is enjoy the present moment.
You're not with them to be sad, to be mad, to look at every detail.
Just be yourself.
Be happy and create some amazing experience and you will see that this man will start
to miss you.
Mark: Oh cause he falls into that.
Alex: exactly.
Mark: To that presence with you.
Alex: And that's goes to my last tip.
Tip number five.
If you want to make sure that this man would just miss you, you need to create some specific
memories between you two guys and also inside your life.
For example, when a man will talk to you and you can tell him that you went on a trip,
you see your friends, you have, you have, I don't know, do try to learn, salsa, to know
how to cook.
Whatever you did.
If your night is amazing, the man will always feel that he's missing something.
Mark: I didn't get to experience that with her.
Alex: Exactly.
I want to do it with her.
That's something really important.
But when you are thinking, how can I make sure that he would miss me?
You're thinking, what can I do to him?
Like you want to do an action to this man.
No.
Work on yourself and it's just magical.
Yeah.
You will be confident.
Mark: Work on yourself.
Share it.
Don't be afraid to, you know, don't, don't just put oh I did this, I did this, I did
this trying to prove yourself.
Yeah.
Just don't be afraid to share your vibrancy and the man will naturally emanate towards
it.
Alex: and you would be so charismatic and I can guarantee you that this man would miss
you and this man would just do everything he can to also show you that he's amazing.
So he would be involved in such a relationship.
Mark: Phenomenal.
The master of romance straight out of France, Mr. Alex Cormont.
It has been a pleasure having you on the channel.
Where can they find out more about you and all the amazing coaching you're doing?
Alex: So you can find me on my French website, alexandrecormont.com.
But also my US website, frenchrelationshipexpert.com.
Mark: and make sure you are subscribed to his channel.
Join almost a million.
Yeah, a million women on different social media followings that he's got.
So I'll put the link above and in the description below.
So sure you subscribe the, the content on there is incredible.
You learn heaps and heaps from it.
Mark: Alex, thank you for coming in.
As I say, it's been an absolute pleasure having you here.
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Alex: Bye bye.