So how do you get a stubborn ex back?
In this video, I’m going to answer precisely this.
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Okay, so how do you get a stubborn ex back?
Well, let me preface this video by first asking an important question: how do you KNOW that
your ex is being stubborn?
What have you done to figure this out?
The reason I ask is if you’ve been following my advice up until this point, then you should
know that the No Contact strategy is one of the most important tips that you have to follow
to get your ex back.
You shouldn’t be prodding your ex with questions about why they’re making the decision they’re
making… or why they don’t want you back.
This sort of behaviour totally comes across as needy and desperate… and you will only
push your ex further and further away from you if you do this.
So in other words, the fact that you KNOW they’re stubborn about getting back together
with you is a bad sign.
That being said, some people are just stubborn in nature, period.
I know I am… and my wife definitely knows it as well too!
So maybe you’ve always known your ex to refuse to change their minds even when they’re
backed into a corner - maybe they are simply one of those super stubborn personality types.
These people are extremely hard to get back, but it is do-able… and in this video I am
going to do my best to teach you how.
So without any further BS, I’m going to talk about the top 6 tips that you can use
right now to make sure that your stubborn ex boyfriend or girlfriend comes flying back
into your arms for good.
Are you ready?
Alright, let’s do this
1.)
What you have to do in this situation is to make your ex FEEL like they’re in the control.
You have to allow your ex to feel like they’re dictating what’s happening between you two.
You need to convince your ex to come back on their OWN volition, because the harder
you press a stubborn ex to change their mind, the more “dug in” they’ll want to be
and the MORE they’ll resist your advances.
So what you need to do is exhibit what I call “External Behaviours”.
That means you have to do things in your life that don’t directly involve your ex.
I know, this doesn’t sound like the advice you want to hear… after all, how do you
get your ex back if you’re not talking to them or interacting with them?
But trust me when I say that getting a stubborn ex is as much about what you do with your
external life as it is about initiating conversations with him or her.
This means that you need to get your life in order.
Your stubborn ex isn’t going to want to take you back if they know you’re depressed,
sad, and broken about the breakup.
BUT… they WILL want to take you back if they see that you’re living your best life.
That means you’re happy, you have a lot of friends, you’re dating around, you’re
going to the gym, and you’re getting out and doing what you’re passionate about.
There are a number of ways you can show this off to your ex… one of them being Facebook
or any social media platform.
But you can also use mutual friends as a subtle messenger.
For eg., set up a coffee date with an especially gossipy friend and watch as they spread the
news to everyone about your amazing life...including your ex!
Doing this can work wonders for you.
Just remember, getting your “stubborn” ex back isn’t about FORCING them to make
a decision to take you back… it’s more about THEM coming to that conclusion all on
their own.
2.)
The second tip that I have is to make sure that you’re not forcing a relationship with
your ex.
Again, you need to make them feel that they’re coming back to YOU and not the other way around.
The more you beg and plead for your ex to come back to you, the more stubborn your ex
will get.
I know this totally sounds counter intuitive – after all, this tactic always works in
Hollywood movies, right?
Well this strategy couldn’t be more wrong in real life.
What you’ve been taught in books and movies is actually the complete OPPOSITE of what
you should be doing.
You shouldn’t wear your heart on your sleeve and pour your guts out – at least not yet.
Remember, we’re dealing with someone who’s stubborn, so before you try and convince them
of anything, you need to PROVE to them that you’re worth coming back to.
And I’ll share some tips on how to do this later in this video.
3.)
Give them the space they need.
Again, I’ve talked about No Contact here… but I really need to emphasize this… especially
when you’re dealing with a stubborn ex.
You’re not going to change their minds overnight, no matter what.
In fact, the more stubborn they are, usually the more time it takes for them to allow their
feelings to change.
This could take weeks or maybe even months, but you NEED to allow them this time for their
convictions to settle.
Only then will they be vulnerable enough for you to take him or her back.
So how will you know when you’ve given your ex enough space?
Usually I say that you need to give your ex 30 days of the “silent treatment” before
reaching out to him or her.
But for a particularly stubborn ex, I would increase this No Contact period to about 45
days.
This isn’t an exact science, unfortunately… and every situation is indeed different.
So if you feel like your situation is unique and in need of some help, I encourage to sign
up for my coaching program!
To learn more about how you can hire me as your personal breakup coach, just head on
over to BreakupBrad.com/coaching and get your ex back as soon as humanly possible.
Plus, my coaching program is INSANELY affordable so you don’t have to break your bank to
hire me.
4.)
At some point after a period of radio silence, you’re going to want to set up a meet with
your ex.
I’m not going to go into detail on how to do this as I have dozens of other videos on
how you can set up a proper date with your ex… so if you’re curious to learn more
about that then watch those videos after this one.
At this stage of the interaction, you’re going to want to INDIRECTLY attract your ex
back.
Again, you can’t make it known you’re ACTIVELY trying to get your ex back, otherwise
his or her stubbornness will kick in and you’ll be back to square one.
No, what you want to do is drop SUBTLE yet POWERFUL hints that you’re a far more attractive,
fun, and well put together person now.
Basically, you want to impress the shit out of them without them even knowing it!
You can do this by incorporating what I call “Value Stories” – these are subtle yet
powerful stories that exhibit a ton of sexual and emotional value.
Once your ex hears enough of these sorts of stories, they’ll want to come back to you…
even despite their reservations before.
So what’s an example of a good kind of story to tell?
One story that I like to teach my clients is something that I call the “Jealousy Storm
Story”.
I won’t get into it word for word… but this story is meant to convey to your ex that
you have many high-value suitors lining up to sleep with you and date you.
It could be your boss, your co-worker, a friend, or whatever.
Again, you can’t make it OBVIOUS that you’re trying to make your ex jealous otherwise they’ll
run for the hills.
So instead, try to incorporate that little ‘jealousy nugget’ into ANOTHER story about
something completely unrelated.
For example, begin telling a story about this huge project that you’re working on at school
or work… and make sure you talk in detail about the more interesting aspects of it.
Then, halfway through the story, you could drop something like…
“Well, my manager working on the project with me keeps asking me out which is sort
of distracting...”
… Or something along the lines of that.
Doing this can have a massive impact on your stubborn ex… and they’ll begin to see
you in a completely different way.
Don’t believe me?
Try it out!
5.)
Begin building sexual connection again.
Remember, subtly is the name of the game here.
You’re not going to get your ex back by kicking in the door and pushing your agenda
on them.
You’re going to have to utilize SUBTLE, psychological tools and tricks to make your
ex to come running back to you.
And one of the most powerful ways to do this is to build sexual attraction.
That means you’re going to have to FLIRT with your ex.
Now, this isn’t a video about flirting or how to flirt… and I do have a lot of other
videos on that topic… but for this video, I’ll give you some quick pointers.
First, remember to make solid eye contact and laugh at their jokes.
Do your best to find reasons to get close to him or her… and, when the opportunity
arises, touch your ex playfully on the elbow or arm.
Don’t be afraid to playfully tease your ex too.
Confidence is the name of the game here when it comes to flirting… and once you nail
this tip, your ex will be putty in your hands… even if they’re super stubborn.
For more tips and tricks on how to convey powerful sexual messages to your ex, head
on over to BreakupBrad.com and watch that free ‘how to’ video.
In it, you’ll find the DEFINITIVE guide to getting your ex back.
Again, that’s BreakupBrad.com, so head on over there after you watch this video.
6.)
Build EMOTIONAL attraction.
Making your stubborn ex come back to you isn’t just about sex.
It’s also about building that inner connection with them and giving them that warm, fuzzy
feeling everyone keeps talking about.
But you have a huge ace up your sleeve in this department.
How, you ask?
Because you already know your ex really well.
You know the stories that make them tick.
You know the memories that give THEM those warm and fuzzy feelings.
Maybe it was that time you went hiking up in the mountains… or maybe it was that trip
to Greece.
Or maybe it was that time you taught your ex how to play a song on the guitar.
This is an area that only YOU can master since they’re YOUR memories, but subtly reminding
your stubborn ex of these nostalgic emotions will psychologically force your ex to fall
back into your arms (and into your bed)… for good.
Anyways, that’s all that I have for you guys today.
I hope you found this video helpful.
If not, then feel free to ask me questions in the comments section below and I’ll get
back to you.
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