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What Is It About INTJs That Makes Some People Hate Them?
Because INTJs are known for their insatiable desire to analyze everything in their environment,
it's no surprise that most people who meet them perceive them as withdrawn and pessimistic in
their outlook. The question remains, however, what it is about an INTJ that makes some personality
types find it difficult to enjoy their company. Today, we'll talk about why some people dislike
the INTJ personality type and what they can do about it.
#1. THEY HATE IT WHEN THEY ARE WRONG.
True, INTJs despise being proven incorrect. The majority of the time,
they do know everything because they are intuitive and analytical know-it-all.
Because of this, when they are confronted with someone who believes they are wrong,
their reactions can be quite defining because they almost cannot believe what they are hearing.
Many experts believe that INTJs are obsessed with being right,
but only for the sake of proving their own superiority rather than to impress others.
Even though most INTJs are open to disagreements in the hopes of proving their point,
they are not opposed to being proven wrong as long as they receive accurate
information that they can use to further their own knowledge and understanding.
Irrespective of why the INTJ is defending their reasoning,
some people can't stand knowing everything,
and INTJs are about as close to a know-it-all as you can get without being one yourself.
#2. They may also be empathic in some cases.
INTJs are hardwired to choose logic over emotion in any situation, regardless of the circumstances.
The ability to solve problems quickly is not always a bad thing,
as it allows INTJs to be more creative. However, this personality type is so influenced by
emotional factors that they fail to consider logic and rationality when making decisions,
even when emotion is one of the most important factors at play.
It's possible that they don't see the harm in telling someone who
has recently lost their pet to simply get another one instead.
While an INTJ can recognize the emotion present in a situation, they do not always
take that emotion into consideration when providing the most logical advice.
Their inability to comprehend why others require a shoulder to cry on or an ear to
vent to is a source of frustration for them; they assume that if someone comes to them to talk,
it is because they are searching for logical solutions. This can lead some people to believe
that the INTJ is dishonest or even rude, which is clearly not the case in most cases.
#3. THEY APPRECIATE DISCUSSING THOUGHTS AND OPINIONS.
As much as INTJs despise being wrong, they relish the opportunity to engage in a lively debate.
When it comes to disagreement and conflict,
the INTJ sees it as a logically informative way to either teach or learn new information.
This is in contrast to their feeling counterpart, the INFJ, who tends to
become overly uncomfortable and disturbed during times of disagreement and conflict.
Using solid evidence to support their arguments is something they take pleasure in,
and they expect the same from the opposing party," says the author.
You can be sure that your arguments will be dismissed by an INTJ if you are arguing with
them and relying solely on your gut feelings and emotions to support your position.
Indifference conversations can be enjoyable for some people with extroverted personality types,
but for the most part, people would rather avoid them because,
not only can an argument with an INTJ be intimidating, but they are almost always correct.
#4. They are unconcerned about putting the system under pressure.
INTJs don't just do something because they think it's cool; they have a reason for doing it.
They want to know why they're doing what they're doing. All of the following are included in this
category: rules, restrictions, social structures, and the authority figures who enforce them.
It is INTJs' natural instinct to argue or challenge ineffective rules and regulations,
even when doing so may appear to others to be rebellious and unnecessary.
However, while this attitude may irritate some people, particularly authority figures who are
being challenged, it can also make those around them feel extremely uncomfortable.
Most people don't see the point in raising a fuss about an INTJ's argued points
because they usually contain significant amounts of truth,
and challenging higher authority rarely results in the INTJ proving their point.
It's even possible that if someone is in the company of an INTJ during a period
in which they are questioning authority, the other person will
avoid public ventures with them in the future in order to avoid embarrassment.
#5. THEY HAVE EXTREMELY PERFECT PERFORMANCE.
INTJs are pessimistic idealists, to put it another way. They hold themselves to a very high standard
in most aspects of life, but they are also acutely aware of the flaws in the world and in people.
Consequently, they prefer to exert as much control over their surroundings as possible,
confident in the knowledge that the more they can make things happen
rather than allowing things to happen to them, the better off they will be.
This introverted and highly individualistic personality type is unfortunate in that their
primary goal is to improve themselves, which means they are willing to sacrifice their time,
relationships, and even financial resources in order to accomplish that goal.
Because of their perfectionism, they are unable to collaborate with others, and as a result,
they do not rely on others for anything. In fact, the majority of INTJs believe that the majority
of the population is incapable of living up to their high standards. When working with an INTJ,
they expect everything to be organized, planned, and executed in a very specific manner,
which can be extremely difficult for some types who require a little more creative freedom.
#6. THEY ARE A SURPRISING OPPORTUNITY.
Humans are naturally inquisitive creatures.
To satisfy our curiosity when we do not know who someone is in real life,
we use the information we do have and come up with our own conclusions based on it.
"However, let's just say that for an INTJ who lives
a very private life and displays guarded emotions,
this personality type is subjected to a great deal of outsider judgment about who they are."
The INTJ can come across as not only intimidating, but also cold and uninterested at times,
depending on their personality type. The INTJ is intelligent, successful, and self-assured in
their mental abilities, but they can come across as cold and uninterested at times,
which can be intimidating. However, this personality type can be harsh and critical
of those around them, and while they have great self-control over their thoughts and feelings,
their judgments can be seen in their facial expressions and body language.
Based on their inquisitiveness and judgmental gaze, you can only imagine
the conclusions some people reach about the INTJ.
#7. THEY HAVE VERY LITTLE TOLERANCE FOR LOGIC DEFEAT.
Intuitive types (INTJs) are unable to comprehend why the rest of the
world is unable to see the solutions to their problems as clearly as they do.
Indeed, not only does the INTJ have difficulty relating to people who
lack a strong sense of reason, but they can also become noticeably irritated and
unnecessarily harsh with some people who do not share their point of view.
As an INTJ, it is impossible not to argue that emotions have no real basis
in evidence when someone makes a decision based on their feelings, as the INFJ does. As a result of
this intolerance for illogical behavior, people may feel as if their emotions aren't validated,
and emotional validation is one of the most important foundations of connection.
It is possible for people to feel compelled to become friends with
an INTJ after they have been shut down because of their feelings.
#8. THEY ARE POSSIBLY PESSIMISTIC.
Intuitive Type Inquirers (INTJs) are not the warm and fuzzy friends you call when
you want to hear what you want to hear. A more accurate assessment will be provided by the INTJ,
who will also provide the most logical solution to your problem.
There is no sugarcoating, no false hope, and no emotional calming in this story.
This logical personality type understands that life can be difficult,
but they believe that emotions and false hope only
get in the way of accomplishing what is truly necessary in a given situation.
They will not tell you that your spouse is a good partner if they are aware of
all the ways in which they are failing to meet their responsibilities to you.
Likewise, they aren't going to tell you that it's fine if you lose your
job when they know you need to find a new one in order to pay your rent that month.
In this day and age, some people can appreciate this INTJ trait
for what it is, because honesty and rationality are becoming increasingly difficult to come by.
Unfortunately, most people are not prepared to face the truth,
and adopting a negative outlook will only serve to worsen the situation.
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