Sweetcheeks cuddlebutt sweetie pie darlin’ honey.
Which of these do you hate the most?
Hello
everyone and welcome to this week’s Naked Truth.
Trisha Hershberger here.
Sorry we didn’t
have a Naked Truth for Thanksgiving I was in New Mexico and it wasn’t appropriate
to film a
Naked Truth at my in law’s place.
But I hope you all had a lovely Thanksgiving.
I certainly did
and I got to explore Albuquerque which was very cool.
Before we jump into this week’s topic I
want to thank our Naked Army Vloggers from last week who all got extra vulnerable to
talk
about does size matter.
And that’s Nathan Colin Kavaja Lawrence Prescott & Kristen Richard
Jab and Jayms.
So thank you guys and if you want to check out their Naked Truth Vlogs you
can do that by clicking the links in the description below.
So this week’s topic comes to us from
Antipothy17 who said what pet name that a stranger has called you has peeved you the
most?
Examples honey baby girl sexy etc.
So I thought this was an interesting one to discuss mostly
because I’ve probably changed opinions on this over the years.
I question that because I don’t
know if I’ve officially changed positions on this.
I walk the line and um.
So yeah I am not going to
come out and give the typical answer of our generation which I feel is I absolutely hate
pet
names.
They drive me crazy I feel like they’re demeaning sexist etc.
That’s not really my
opinion.
I grew up in a family that was incredibly loving and showed that to excess.
So a family
that hugged a lot that called each other sweetheart all the time.
Honey darling baby etc.
And so
for me that always came as a sign of affection a sign of I’m here looking out for you.
And so yes
it is an assumed familiarity but in a perfect world wouldn’t it be nice to assume that
we’re friends
with everyone even strangers?
So for example when I was waiting tables I waited tables for
Disney for years it was very easy for me flip into the habit of sure thing sweetheart I’ll
bring that
right out to you.
Not even thinking about it.
It wasn’t something I did particularly to men or to
women or to people that were taller than me or shorter than me.
Kind of everyone across the
board got the same treatment and because I was coming from the opinion of I’m here
for this
next hour or two hours or however long you’re here I’m here in service to you.
I’m here to take
care of you and so because of that that felt like the right thing to say to me.
Now over the years
and over my understanding of where other people are coming from I understand that some
people really don’t like being called those names.
And it happened to me once at his job where I
was waiting tables.
A woman who was older than me wrote on the back of the receipt just so
you know it’s incredibly rude to speak to a woman who is older than you and call her
sweetheart.
And she was very offended and I made a point to go up to the woman and say you
know I’m sorry you were offended.
Please understand that wasn’t my intent.
And she kind of like
was huffy and walked away but it really made me think about at that time you know why is
it that
I say that or other people say that.
And now on the other side of the coin there have been times
when people called me sweetheart or honey and I felt like they were doing it in a condescending
or demeaning way.
And whether they were doing that because of my size because I’m short
whether they were doing it because they assumed that they were in a position of authority
above me and could talk down to me whether they were doing it just because I’m a woman
and
it came out of some kind of sexist feeling that they had I don’t know.
And I try very hard not to
assume the intent of the other person but I can say that in those experiences I did
feel like it
was a condescending tone and it did make me feel uncomfortable.
And you know when I think
about someone being called honey or baby girl or something like that in a workplace situation
where your colleagues on an equal level I can see where that would be maybe not appropriate.
Even if it wasn’t intended in an inappropriate way.
So I guess what I’m saying is I can see both
sides of the coin with this one so I’m interested to hear what the Naked Army has to say.
You
know on some level I’m sure a lot of people feel like that’s something that’s reserved
for a very
close family member or my partner in a very intimate relationship and strangers shouldn’t
have
that assumed familiarity with me.
And I understand that me saying back to the beginning of this
that maybe that assumed familiarity is an over idealistic thing that comes from a good
place.
I
really don’t know.
So my default nowadays I really don’t say that nowadays because I’m not in
the service industry anymore but also because it’s I do understand it offends people and
if it
offends people then I don’t want to be the person who offends so I kind of scaled that
back a bit.
I think it has to do a lot with where you were raised and the culture you came from
and whether
that’s a normal thing or not.
Again I’m really interested to hear what you guys have to say being
that you come from all over the world all different backgrounds and what seems normal
to you
what doesn’t seem normal to you what may offend you or make you feel closer to someone.
And also if we say these things to people and it offends them then why is it okay to
say it in a
closer relationship?
I don’t know.
These are all things I’d like to explore and I’d love to hear you
guys explore.
So my question to you guys this week is what is the worst best pet name you’ve
ever been called or used to someone else.
And I say worst best because you know it all
depends on your viewpoint of whether pet names should be used or not.
And it just occured to
me by pet names I did not mean Fido or Fluffy but those are probably awesome pet names too.
So anyway I’m going to wrap up the Naked Truth with that and if you guys want to make
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Yay welcome Jab.
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that's
fine too.
So thank you guys so much for watching and I will see you next week.
Actually I’ll see
you before that I have a tech video going up Monday and then I’ll see you next week
with more
Naked Truth.
Okay bye guys.