Do you find yourself in a lot of meetings with higher up stakeholders,
where it is important for you to contribute to the conversation,
because that is going to demonstrate your knowledge and expertise and
take your career to higher levels.
But you're noticing that when you go to share and express yourself and
share your ideas, that you're noticing that you have people
interrupting you.
Well, if that's your experience, then this is the video for you.
Because today in this video, what I want to share with you is how do
you stop others from interrupting you.
And therefore you can be heard and you can share your ideas with that,
with that space, right?
So I'm going to share with you three ways.
And at the end of this video, you will be able to implement them and
notice yourself in meetings to be able to divert that away from
happening to you and to, for you to be able to have the space, to
share your ideas.
Alright.
So let's go.
Before we begin on the three ways, there is something very important
that I need to share with you.
And this is really important because there's a lot of misinformation
out there when it comes to communicating in meetings and when it comes
to having your space to share your ideas, right?
So let's look at what I want to share with you is looking at why this
happens.
Why are people interrupting?
Why are their powers authorities and power stakeholders, right?
Colleagues and so on.
Why does that happen?
And I really want to get into this because it's important for your
empowerment, because I want you to know that this has nothing to do
with you when you are being interrupted by another person is not
because you are shy is not because you're introverted is not because
you don't have the required, necessary knowledge is not because of
you.
In fact, when you really look at it, when someone else is
interrupting, you, it's us, it's someone other than yourself causing
that, that particular situation or the disruptions in that
conversation.
There's a whole variety of external factors why that is happening.
And so, rather than focusing on the reasons why that's happening and
making assumptions about why they're doing it, or making assumptions
about yourself, that there's, there's not good enough, right?
There's a whole lot of external reasons.
So the whole name of the game is not to take that blame, not to take
the blame for their choice to interrupt you and not to take the blame
on self or not to take the blame on other people.
Right?
So I just wanted to really share that with you because when you get
into that space, that is one of the most empowering things that you
can do for yourself that will help you open up, to share your ideas
and for you to be able to handle, should interruptions do come up
again, for you to be able to handle it and go, come out on the other
side with that empowerment, right?
So I want to hear from you comment below.
This is really important because knowledge alone is not power, applied
knowledge is power.
So comment below.
I want to hear from you.
Are you noticing that there's interruptions when you share your ideas?
I want to know if that is a struggle for you and what are some of the
ways that you've been trying to do so far to overcome those things?
What are some things that you've been trying, I want to hear from you,
and we're going to go through and go through the three ways on how you
can stop others from interrupting now.
And I want to let you know that this video, in terms of how you stop
others from interrupting you, this video is a sequel to a previous
video I did on how you can stop being the person that interrupts other
people.
So if you want to see that, just click on the link above, it's either
in this corner, or that corner, that is the previous video I did on
how to stop yourself from interrupting others so that you can have a
meaningful dialogue.
So catch that not right now, but catch that.
And let's go to the three ways to be heard in a conversation.
The first technique to stop others from interrupting you so that you
can be heard is to optimize your pace.
Your pace is the speed at which you speak.
Now, everybody has a different natural pace.
Some people naturally speak faster than other people.
Some people naturally speak slower than other people.
If you notice it.
And if you've been following me for a while on my YouTube channel,
you'll notice that I have naturally a faster pace.
So this is where you want to understand that sometimes your natural
pace is not your most optimal one.
So if you do notice that in meetings that you are consistently feeling
and hearing people interrupting you, chances are your pace is not
optimal.
It is a little too slow because when you are too slow, there could be
long pauses between your ideas.
There could be long pauses between words and chances are, it could be
possible that your audience member, the audience doesn't know when you
have finished or they assume you're already finished.
Or it could also be that some individuals, because those that think
faster, talk faster, those individuals tend to be a little bit more
impatient around individuals who talk at a slower pace.
So that's why it's important to understand the feedback from your
audience to be in the moment, in present, and looking at their
reactions to you, looking at how they receive what you're saying, how
they respond to it.
And an interruption is a response.
So chances are, this is where you got to look at, where is my pace
right now?
What does it natural have been?
And is it the most optimal?
And you'll know that your pace is optimal when your audience can
understand when you are done, when you are not done.
And when you are still in conversation that you can still hold their
attention there, right?
So that is technique number one is to optimize your pace.
The second technique to stop others from interrupting you is to
optimize your authentic delivery.
So what do I mean by that?
Delivery, by the way, is delivering your content.
How do you deliver it?
Which is the actual speaking part, authentic delivery has nothing to
do with being articulate or fluent.
There's a lot of misinformation around there, out there about
communication that you need to be fluent.
You need to be articulate, but if you are an executive, you, if you
are an established career professional, it is already the basic bare
minimum to have fluency.
And to have that, that, that, that articulation.
And if you've gone so far in your career path, did you look through
the resume so far?
Right?
Chances are, you are a manager, a senior manager, you're an executive,
or you're in the running for an executive.
Those successes on your resume didn't get there by accident.
You already have the bare minimum.
You already have the basics in terms of articulation and fluency.
It's not about that.
That's already expected, authentic delivery is going above and beyond
that.
And this is where you are understanding, how did those successes on my
resume, how did they get there?
What are the principles that I have been following all along?
So this is taking your knowledge and your expertise, your decades and
years of knowledge and expertise, distilling them down into the root
principles on how you can transfer that.
Cause the principles, your principles are the wisdom that you have
developed over your years of your career path, is the wisdom.
And the wisdom is what they're hiring you for.
The wisdom is what they're looking for in those meetings, when you're
brainstorming and sharing your ideas, they're not looking to hear your
methodologies and your processes.
They want to hear what's the wisdom, what's the principle behind it.
And when you share from that perspective, it is authentic because they
are the truths of what you have applied that got you where you're at,
right?
So if you are understanding this, you're starting to see, yes, that is
what I need to share.
That is the depth that I can contribute.
The highest level of content that I can create and share in the
meetings.
If you are seeing this right now, and you're still wondering, well,
how do I distill my knowledge into principles?
How do I know what my truths are?
How do I know?
How do I withdraw that from my knowledge, how do I do that?
And if you want to be able to be successful at that and take your
communications to the highest levels beyond just fluency and
articulation, then I invite you to work with me below this video in
the description, there is a link, the first link, by the way, and that
is an application to apply for my coaching program.
And this is an executive coaching program where I'm going, where I'm
going to walk you through the steps on how to distill your knowledge
into their core principles, how to communicate those knowledge as
well, and ensure that what you share is wisdom in your understanding
wisdom that you have collected beyond the years.
And when you share it, that's how you capture your audience by the
way.
So every single week I teach classes on how to have that high level of
communication and how to be able to share your wisdom, not just your
ideas, but the thinking behind your ideas as well.
And that is a truly highest level of communication that you can
achieve.
So if you're serious, only if you're serious about achieving that
outcome, then apply the link below.
And I look forward to working with you on the inside.
The third technique on how to stop others from interrupting you is to
optimize the redirect, the redirect.
What do I mean by that?
Right?
This is where remember in the beginning, I talked about this at the
start of this video I said, it's about not taking any blame, not
giving any blame as well.
So if you are in a conversation and you do notice that there is
somebody stepping up to interrupt, stepping up to insert their idea,
or insert their opinions, this is where you can redirect.
What do you redirect to?
Redirect back to your idea.
You redirect back to the outcome you can provide in that conversation.
So it's simply like saying something that sounds like this, you know,
and let's say somebody is interrupting you and you say, I appreciate
your enthusiasm for sharing your opinion.
That's a really great idea.
Is it all right if I just have two more minutes to complete my
thought, and then I'm happy to pass the torch back to you.
I will pass the torch back to is that alright?
And it simply redirecting back.
And in that case, you don't sound desperate.
You don't at all.
You're not interrupting them back again.
In fact, you are acknowledging their contribution first and giving
them acknowledgement and affirmation that what they're sharing is very
valuable.
But now you're just simply saying that, is it okay if I just spend a
couple more minutes, and this is important because now they know how
much time that you need, and you're just going to finish your thoughts
wrap up.
And they are now they know what to expect, right?
So optimize that redirect and it's really important to do so, because
sometimes it could just be genuine that they didn't know you weren't
finished.
And they assumed that you were especially if going back to the first,
the first optimization is at your pace, right?
So what have I covered so far?
Three techniques.
First technique is to optimize your pace.
Second technique is to optimize authentic delivery.
And the third technique is to optimize the redirect.
By the way, if you are looking for, how do I redirect?
One of the best ways to redirect by the way is to ask great questions,
your ability to ask great questions will also prevent others from
interrupting you, because questions are your answers.
Questions are ways that you could insert in dialogue as well.
And to expand upon your ideas through these questions.
So if you want to find out how do I ask great questions, how do I ask
better questions, then watch out next.
The video that I have coming up next is that will give you some
strategies on how you can ask better questions and therefore have
higher level, better conversations.
So look out for that video coming up and I'll see you there.