The creation of attraction starts and ends with this concept called flirting.
Flirting is a word that gets thrown around a lot, but not a lot of people can really
successfully define what it means and why it's important.
That's what this video is all about.
And I'm going to be giving you a really cool line to say that embodies what flirting is
all about so you can start the attraction process.
I'm Tripp Kramer from www.trippadvice.com and today you're going to learn about flirting.
The idea behind flirting is that flirting creates tension, I'm going to say that again.
Flirting equals tension.
The reason why flirting equals tension, because flirting, whether it's verbal or nonverbal,
creates this kind of push pull.
You're doing things that are metaphorically pushing her away and pulling her close to
you.
And I'll be giving you an example of what that looks like.
Before we get into that, let's start with some floss.
Tension floss, here's the idea.
Let's say you have a piece of floss, and you're having no tension at.
You're kind of pushing it together and then you're pulling it, there's more tension, and
then pushing and pulling, pushing and pulling.
Understand that if you push too much it becomes droopy and there's no tension at all.
And if you pull too much, it ends up breaking.
We want to make sure there's a balance between push and pull and you're not pulling too much,
not pushing too much.
What does that mean?
Let's say you're doing this push pull method, which is flirting.
When you're pushing, you're showing non interest and when you're pulling, you're showing interest
as if you're pushing her away with this interest or you're pulling her towards you with interest.
Again, this is the push pull method.
And like I showed you with this broken floss, you don't want to push too much because there's
no tension because that means you're showing her no interest at all.
And you don't want to pull too much because if it's too tight it breaks.
And then what happens is there's no tension because you're just showing so much interest
in her that there's no mystery and you want that mystery.
That's what flirting is.
This idea of does he like me?
Does he not like me?
That's what sparks attraction.
One of the reasons that sparks attraction is because when she's not sure if you like
her or not, you're not showing desperation.
That desperation is what is unattractive.
Here's what you're going to say to a girl.
If you're talking to her for the first time, this is an initial interaction, this is a
cold approach, so to speak.
When you're talking to her at the bars, on the sidewalk, in the grocery store, coffee
shop, and you guys are talking for about five minutes, you're going to throw in this flirty
sentence.
You're going to say to her "What would your boyfriend think of you talking to me right
now?"
And you're going to say it with a smile because you're doing it in this way, where you're
showing her that you're flirting.
If you're too serious then it's going to look like you're scared or something's off.
But if you say "What would your boyfriend think of you talking to me right now?" this
is going to kill a couple birds with one stone.
First of all, you're gonna be asking her if she's single.
Again, you don't have to use this line.
But if you are really interested in finding out of the girl is single fast, use this line.
But that's not the powerful thing.
What's powerful?
Is the follow up to this question.
She has two ways of responding.
Either one, she's going to say, "Yeah" she might.
And she's going to say that she has a boyfriend, or she's going to say, "No, I don't have a
boyfriend."
Your response is going to be this "Great.
Well, you can be my new girlfriend for the next 5 minutes, but only for the next 5 minutes.
Because you know what, I'll probably end up getting bored and just looking for someone
else."
That is your push pull line.
So again, finding out if she's single, but you're also pulling her towards you, because
you're saying, "Great, you're going to be my new girlfriend."
But then you're going to push your way and say "But only for the next 5 minutes, because
I'll probably get bored."
It's like you're showing interest, but you're not showing interest.
This is the epitome of flirting.
One thing you have to understand about flirting is that it's an art.
It's an art form.
And I mean that because there's not so much of a structural progression to flirting.
I gave you the concept.
I gave you the technique.
This idea of push and pull.
But you got to be able to read where she's at in the interaction.
If you're seeing that, you're doing too much pushing, maybe you're teasing her too much
or showing too much disinterest and you're going to see she's not that interested.
Then you're going to have to use more pull which means you're gonna have to maybe throw
in a compliment to earn a little bit more interest and go back and forth.
So you got to read the situation.
A really good way to do this is just by practicing, by going out and talking to a lot of women,
doing a lot of approaches and making sure that you're implementing some of these techniques
to see how it goes.
So for the first time you ever tried maybe this technique or another flirting technique,
you need to see kind of what's going on and then analyze what happened when you did that.
Don't just go in thinking like "I'm going to flirt with some girls and magically all
these women are going to want me."
You're gonna have to practice, this as an art.
I talk about this quite a bit and in depth in my Hooked program.
If you don't already have that, you should check that out at www.getherhooked.com.
You'll see in my Hooked program that I have a bonus.
It's called Effortless Flirting.
When you go into Hooked, you'll see Effortless Flirting.
It's an entire mini-course teaching you how flirting works and how you can use it to your
benefit and going more into detail than what I've done on this video.
If you just start there, it's a good place to begin.
I hope that gives you some ideas on what flirting is, the entire concept around it, why it works
and the example of how to implement it when you're talking to a girl.
Leave a comment down below if you think this is helping you and don't forget to check out
the Hooked program if you want to dive deeper into the topic of flirting.
For now, I'm signing off.
See on the next video.
Lights out.