(clapping)
Well, Lisa and I have spent a lot
of time together talking
and I thought this was a great time
to introduce you to my audience
and to these wonderful and deserving women.
So I sent transformational coach Lisa Nichols
to meet one on one with Tammy and Taylor
before the show to find out more about them.
Hi.
This is just an opportunity for me
to just get context to find out,
to discover, it just support Dr. Phil
and I to understand more.
First I just want to let you know that
I admire your courage.
Thank you.
And your daughters.
Thank you.
Would you say right now,
like if you looked at your life,
and living a full life
was a 10,
where would you rate yourself?
At about a point five.
So you're not even at one?
No.
I feel like a shell
a lot of times.
Okay.
So I'm gonna show you
a series of words.
I'd love to hear
how you define this.
What comes to mind?
Grocery store
feels like somewhere where
I run into people that I know.
I'm very afraid
because I don't know
how to communicate anymore.
Is there shame or is there embarrassment?
I feel like it's been two years
and I should just be over it
and it just makes feel so weak,
and everybody's always telling me how strong I am,
and
I'm just not.
Okay.
Why do you start crying as soon as you see the word bed?
What did it trigger for you?
I really have not slept in my bed since this happened.
What's your fear around laying in a bed?
Afraid to lay in the bed and
have to think.
What are you afraid of when it comes to thinking?
Missing people feeling guilty.
Who's people?
All of that family,
and
my daughter,
and Chris.
But not really Chris.
Not the real Chris.
I just miss the friendship that I thought
we were gonna have.
Thank you for being so forthright
and honest.
I know that this isn't an easy conversation.
I've learned so much about you today.
Now I'm gonna meet Taylor.
Hi, Taylor, how are you?
Good, how are you?
I'm good.
My request is one that you know this is a safe space.
If it comes up, let it come out.
I'm sorry
that you had this experience.
I'm sorry that
you were robbed from a part of your youth.
You pulled away from your mom a bit.
Why?
I feel guilty for what happened,
just when I see her, sometimes it just hurts.
'Cause I remember what she looked like
that night.
What are you afraid of?
I'm afraid that I just don't know how to get past this.
It just hurts all the time.
Like it happened yesterday,
but it's been two years.
It doesn't feel like two years.
Well, Taylor,
there is a long road ahead of us.
I'm looking forward to what can happen now.
Thank you.
Dr. Phil has a lot of work ahead of him.
And when we think of a new and a new you,
it's a perfect time to do it.
Perfect time for them to be committed to it.
Lisa let me talk to you for a few minutes here.
This is not all foreign to you.
You've been through
some of these things.
Fortunately not all of them,
but you've been through some of these things yourself.
As you've listened to me talk to them here today,
and listened to
them when you sat with them before,
what jumps out at you the most
as needing to go on a to-do list?
Number one is give yourself permission.
That it wasn't your fault.