- What is the most beautiful healthy relationship
in all of "Friends"?
Is it Ross and Rachel?
Chandler and Monica?
Chandler and Joey?
Mended Light.
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Welcome to "Friends Gets Therapized",
where I'm gonna break down the friendship
of Chandler Bing and Joey Tribbiani
through the lens of psychology
and healthy relationships.
Let's do this.
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Aw, so much hugging.
- Okay, I'm making a break forward.
I'm going out the window. (audience laughing)
- No, no, please don't.
- I've been waiting for forever to go out
with Lorraine. (audience laughing)
- Just calm down.
- Calm down, calm down.
You set me up with a woman I've ducked twice
in the last five months. (audience laughing)
- Can you stop yelling?
You're making me nervous
and... (Jonathan laughs)
(audience laughing)
I can't go when I'm nervous.
- I'm sorry. - It's a real friendship,
right there.
This is the real raw gritty stuff.
Oh, I love this.
- (shouts) Come on! Do it! Do it!
(Jonathan laughs) (audience laughing)
- This is a little extra something
for always being there for me.
- Wow. I don't know what to say.
(audience laughing)
Wow. I don't know what to say.
(audience laughing)
- Eh, what do you say?
- I don't know.
(audience laughing) (Jonathan laughing)
It's a bracelet, isn't it?
- And it's engraved, too.
Check it out. - You bought me jewelry
- "To my best bud."
(audience laughing) (Jonathan laughing)
Thanks, best bud.
- Put it on. - Oh now?
(audience laughing)
No, no. I think something this nice
should be saved for a special occasion.
- Oh no, no, that's the beauty part.
It goes with everything.
You put this on,
you're good to go.
(audience laughing) (Jonathan laughing)
Oh man!
You are so wearing that bracelet.
- I so am. (audience laughing)
- You have any idea what this will do
for your sex life?
- Well, it'll probably slow it down at first,
but once I get used to the extra weight,
I'll be back on track.
(audience laughing) (Jonathan laughing)
So, you want me to help you unpack your stuff?
- Nah. Okay.
- When your friend gives you a gift
that you don't want,
how do you manage that?
Depends on the friendship.
I have a buddy.
He and I have a pact
that we give each other the same thing every year
for our birthday.
And what we give each other is nothing.
My gift to you is that you don't have
to go birthday shopping for me.
And he gives me the same gift and it's perfect.
- Oh, and just so you know,
I'm not moving back in
because I have to.
I mean, I do have to but...
It's just that place,
it wasn't really, I mean, this is...
- Welcome home, man.
- Aww. He missed him.
It's not the place.
(Jonathan laughing)
Real men aren't afraid to show physical affection
and hug and stuff. - Absolutely.
- What happened to the foosball
- I hug my bros. (indistinct)
(audience laughing)
He's wearing all his clothes.
(Jonathan laughing)
- Okay buddy boy, here it is.
You hide my clothes?
I'm wearing everything you own.
- Oh my God!
- That is so not the opposite
of taking somebody's underwear.
- Look at me.
I'm Chandler.
Could I be wearing any more clothes?
(audience laughing) (Jonathan laughing)
- Well anyway, I gotta go change.
I'm meeting some of the cast for drinks.
- Excuse me? - What?
- I stayed home from work today
while you were at rehearsal,
so somebody could be here with our chick.
- Hey, who was up from two o'clock this morning
until five o'clock this morning
trying to get her back to sleep?
- You don't think I get up when you get up?
- Oh, here it comes.
- Yes, here it comes.
I'm stuck here all day.
And then you come in
and spend two seconds with us (audience laughing)
and then expect to go off gallivanting
with your friends?
- Close friendship is very much
like a marriage. - Oh I don't think so, Mister.
- It's pretty much the same thing.
- Can I use your eyelash curler?
I think I lost mine. - Yeah, its over there.
(audience laughing)
- Joey just figured out
that Chandler and Monica...
- Joey, can I talk to you for a second?
(Joey mumbles) - Are together.
(audience laughing) (Joey mumbles)
(Jonathan laughing) (Joey mumbles)
- Yes.
Yes.
- You
and you?
- Yes, but you cannot tell anyone.
No one knows.
How? When?
- It happened in London. - (shouts) In London?
(Chandler shouts)
- The reason we didn't tell anyone was
cause we didn't wanna make a big deal out of it.
- But it is a big deal.
I've to tell someone.
(audience laughing)
- You can't.
- Please, please, we just--
- So, (chuckles)
ideally your best friend
would be the first person that knows
that you're in a relationship
and you would tell them willingly.
That's not the case of what happened here.
- We just don't wanna deal
with telling everyone, okay?
Just promise you won't tell.
(audience laughing)
- All right. (audience laughing)
Man, this is unbelievable.
I mean it's great but...
- I know it's great.
(both chuckle)
- Oh, I don't wanna see that.
- But the idea that if you have to tell somebody,
tell your best friend and Joey could have
kept the secret no matter what.
And I know they didn't want people finding out,
they didn't want blowing up in their face,
and I get that.
But my best friend and I,
we have this thing that's called "The Vault"
and there are secrets of his
that nobody knows and nobody could get out of me.
There are things that he has told me and I him,
that it's a sacred part of our friendship.
We got this from Seinfeld
that "it's in the vault", right?
And so I would hope that Joey could have evolved
and Chandler could tell him,
but he doesn't have to.
- You're upset because you think I chose Ross
over you?
No, I knew you could take care of yourself.
I mean, Ross, he needs help.
He's not street like us.
(audience laughing)
- When comes down to it,
you would risk your life for Ross
before you would for me.
That's the bottom line.
Well, no. Not exactly.
All right. Look,
I wasn't trying to save Ross.
- So when I say that a best friendship
is like a marriage,
this is what I'm talking about.
There are jealousies,
there's territoriality, there's boundaries.
We have something special
that's not to be shared with anybody else.
There's the bickering, there's the fighting,
there's the arguing because you let your lives
become entwined and you become reliant
on each other.
And that's a beautiful thing.
- Okay?
My sandwich was next to Ross.
(audience laughing)
All right?
I was trying to save my sandwich.
(audience laughing) (Jonathan laughing)
- From a bullet? (audience laughing)
- I know it doesn't make much sense.
- Much sense?
- Chandler, it was instinct, okay.
I just went for it.
- So you risked your life
for a sandwich?
- I know it sounds crazy,
but Chandler this is the greatest sandwich
in the world.
(audience laughing)
- So you didn't choose Ross before me?
- No, I would never do that.
- I chose the sandwich before you
- You're like my brother.
- Really? - Yeah.
- Please tell me you got the message.
- What message?
- The actor playing Mac couldn't do it.
They needed to see you at two O'clock.
- What? It's six o'clock.
- The... (speaking in gibberish)
I wrote it on the board.
I wrote it on the board
and then I went all over New York City,
looking for you.
I went to Ross's.
I went to the coffee house.
I went to any place that they made sandwiches.
(audience laughing)
- I can't believe this, Chandler.
- Sorry. I don't know what to say.
- Well, you might say,
"Congratulations."
I saw the board.
I went to the audition.
I got the part.
(audience laughing)
- Is that supposed to be funny?
I was really worried over here.
- Oh, well...
- You know sometimes that fake out thing is just me.
- Oh wow. Okay man,
I'm sorry.
I did not mean to make you feel bad.
- Well, that's good because you didn't
and I'm incredibly happy for you.
That's mean!
(audience laughing)
You really had me going there.
- We could do this all day.
- Yeah. You're right.
(audience laughing) (Jonathan laughing)
Okay look, let's talk about
what a huge star I'm gonna be.
- But real friends are truly happy
for each other's successes.
Not threatened by each other's successes.
We're at different places in our journey,
that if you're succeeding,
it doesn't mean I'm failing.
And if you're succeeding now
and I'm struggling now,
I'm still happy for you because I love you.
And two years from now,
three years from now, things could be different.
It's just life.
And a lot of friendships get sucked into petty.
"Who's got more success?"
"Who's having a better dating life?"
Who's having a better career?"
Versus just I love you
and I want you to be happy,
which is also how friendship is like a marriage.
- I live here today to join this man
and this woman in the bonds of holy matrimony.
I've known Monica and Chandler for a long time.
And I cannot imagine two people
more perfect for each other.
- Except for maybe Chandler and Joey.
- And now, as I've left my notes
in my dressing room, (audience laughing)
we shall proceed to the vows.
- I missed this.
- I don't think we've actually done this before.
(audience laughing) (Jonathan laughing)
- And I miss hanging out with you.
- Well, we still hang out.
- Not like we used to.
Remember you and me used to be inseparable.
Oh, now it's like,
things are different.
- I feel this.
- Things are different.
I'm married now. - Yeah, sure.
And hey, don't get me wrong. - And it evolves.
- I'm so happy for you guys.
But I just miss hanging out,
just us.
- When I left college for graduate school,
my best friend cried and we hugged each other
cause we knew it was never gonna be the same.
And it never was.
- We'll make time to hang out with each other.
- You got it.
- I mean the relationship is but the...
- Yeah, I'm gonna be a junior copywriter--
- The bro time isn't...
It's times and seasons of life
and you mourn them and you move on
and real friendship survives that type of thing.
Like real close friendship is...
There are people that I'm friends with,
but I don't really talk to anymore.
Cause we were buddies.
But the true deep friendships
like you make time for each other,
and sometimes it's months
or even years without talking
and then you get back together.
It's like you pick up where you left off.
- You got it.
Come on here.
Yeah, I'm gonna be a junior copywriter.
(all scream)
- Oh I'm so proud of you.
- Does that mean I get the good loving tonight?
- You bet!
No TV or anything.
(audience laughing)
- Hey, that is so great about the job.
- Thanks, man.
- See! - I'd like
to think I had a little something to do with it.
- Joey's happy for him.
- Well before with the wishbone,
I didn't wish we would win the lottery.
I wished you'd get the job.
- Oh yeah?
Listen. Don't tell Monica.
She'll rip your heart right out.
- Oh no.
Are you happy with the house?
Do you wanna go see your room?
- What? I get my own room?
- You don't think we'd buy a house
not having a Joey room, do you?
- Oh my God.
Can I have an aquarium and a sex swing?
(audience laughing)
- No. - Why not?
I'll keep the tank clean.
(audience laughing)
It was nice having birds around again.
- Hey, you know what?
Maybe we should keep 'em here with you.
- What?
- Yeah. I mean, if we got a lot going on right now
and plus here they'd have their own room.
- I could get a goose.
(audience laughing)
- I think you're set with the poultry.
- Thanks man.
You hear that, you guys?
You're gonna get to stay here.
And--
- What would you give for your friend?
What would you sacrifice?
Are you happy for what they have?
- Cause now you have a reason to come visit.
That's sweet.
- I think there may be another reason.
- Aw.
It's you. - So.
Awkward hug or lame cool guy handshake?
- Yeah. Lame cool guy handshake.
(audience laughing)
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(Jonathan laughing) - The tension.
Oh, bring it in.
I get that.
For you watching at home,
what does your relationship
with your best friend look like?
How is it similar to Chandler and Joey's?
How's it different?
How do you know you found someone
that will be there for you
for the rest of your life?
Let me know in the comment's below.
If you enjoyed this video,
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I've got going on.
I really enjoy this show.
I actually didn't watch it that much
when it was on.
I caught an episode here or there
but as I've just been going through it,
I'm loving it.
It's good times.
Until next time folks.
Keep shining.
We need your light.
Be a friend.
And there's that video I was telling you about.
Check it out.
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