can you be default aggressive and relaxed in jiu-jitsu okay yeah this
seems like two opposing things that you can't do at the same time but the actual
fact is yes you can and you should so you want your maneuvers to be
aggressive but you don't want to be using a bunch of strength to execute the
maneuvers right you want to aggressively escape your opponent's position before
your opponent gets settled therefore you don't have to use strength you can use
relax it you can relax you can you can be proactive same thing with defending a
submission attempt you want to defend that submission attempt aggressively
before this submission attempt gets settled in you want to move aggressively
again I'm not talking about strength and spazzing I'm talking about moving
aggressively before your opponent moves and get ahead of them on their loop when
you get ahead of them on their hooter loop they're gonna have issues with you
and so yeah absolutely you can be default aggressive and at the same time
you can be relaxed and you should that should be your goal do you sometimes
have to use strength in jujitsu yes you do yes you do sometimes you got a power
out of something why did you the reason you had to power
out or something is cuz you were too late because you weren't moving
aggressively enough you weren't moving quickly enough and then you got a power
out of something gotta call all those hands claw that guillotine off your neck
you know I'm saying you want to get Agia telling someone they're clawing your
fingers away from their neck yes yeah so when that happens that person was late
and and now they're clawing they're resorting to strength or resorting to
panic clawing at your fingers you sometimes don't usually doesn't even
matter I can claw it doesn't matter good I like
that sense of panic that I feel what they're clawing yeah I'm sure you do you
really so that's what that's what it is and by the way this is true in life as
well right you like if if you are maneuvering correctly correctly as a
leader you don't have to get aggressive at people
because they're doing what they're supposed to be doing yeah you don't have
to be you shouldn't have to yell if you have
to yell as a boss guess what your your intent wasn't followed your plan wasn't
understood there's so many mistakes that you made if you're yelling as a leader
do you never have to yell yeah so sometimes you can yell because you got
to make sure you get that emotional point across sometimes you got to make
sure that someone real like someone doesn't seem to realize that the mistake
they made is severe enough that that it warrants yelling and therefore it
doesn't matter to them because their dad yelled in their whole
life well so if you're not yelling they don't get it so can you couldn't can you
run to that cake problem occasionally occasionally very occasionally very very
rarely should you run into that situation because if you're doing the
right job being default aggressive as a leader you should be in situations where
you never have to yell because your people because you people understand
what it is that they're supposed to be doing they understand why they're
supposed to be doing it they understand what the plan is they understand what
the contingencies were they understand what the what the intent that you had
was they understand this the way that this fits strategically into the
situation they understand all those things and if they understand all those
things then they're gonna do the right thing and if they don't if they
understand all those things and they still do something that that doesn't
make sense well me maybe they do deserve get yelled
at but again all the first person our check is myself and say obviously to
make this clear enough mm-hmm so yes relax harder so yelling is to leading as
using strength is to jujitsu someone gotta do it everyone yeah everyone so or
if you lay maybe you'll act on your technique earlier you're gonna kind of
but think about this you hurt your stamina yeah he's your strength right
yeah when I yell at you because something went wrong you're my
subordinate when I yell at you I paid a little price for that too yeah
cuz I better be important and I better really think about it cuz I
didn't do anything to build our relationship in a positive manner by
yelling to you right didn't do anything yeah just like you didn't improve your
jujitsu just see chronologies or or really you I guess you improved your
situation for a moment right because you were safe but now you're more tired just
like if I yelled at you to do something and you get it because you real you know
you were okay we'll find when you yelled at
anymore someone's gonna do this the thing that he told me to do that it's
temporary fix it's a temporary fix yeah you know how like JP will say aggressive
it isn't or default aggressive isn't towards people it's towards making
things happen so like so dude it's the same thing so it's like I don't regress
Li like it's an it in a way you kind of can narrow it down to the timing thing
it's like it's like it's either taking action or hesitating kind of thing so
you just don't really hesitate you can lay back if that's part of the strategy
and stuff like that you can relax once for the strategy but
it's about making things happen like what are you trying to make things
happen timing wise so you know like you have a thing Tim Ferriss asked what is
the disrespect remember you asked me
that what's the disrespect oh you're do they
you made up but yeah you made up the terminology as well so the disrespect is
as basically at when a guy pulls guard or you're in a guard scenario it's
actually not even a guard scenario yet it's like you essentially treat that
person like they don't even have a garden like the guard doesn't even exist
that's how little respect you have for the guard and then you just pass but
when you kind of think about it when I think about it when you've done it to me
three times you have it is literally that so before I can establish any kind
of position to establish guard you're just wrong just yeah you're past it
you're done you know you don't even consider the guard you know what's weird
is is where people get confused on this though is they think oh so you're saying
move faster yeah right that's the weird thing
yeah it is it's not it's I'm sure I'll think of this at a later time but it's
not about moving faster it's about moving more aggressively yeah it's not
faster it's like being proactive and being aggressive and and shutting down
the situation before before it even becomes the situation that you know
what's going to become you know so if you take well you said like like if you
take taking action and hesitation you take those two it's basically your
narrowing the hesitation down to zero it's possible just literally what it is
yeah just take action and again you can relax
you can wait but it's not hesitation waiting it's waiting that's like more
like being patient or waiting for a very specific reason you can do
all those things but there's no hesitation that's what I think that is
and then obviously it's gonna vary this is something you hear over and over and
over again in combat leadership philosophies like doing something now is
better than waiting I mean doing something doing something that's pretty
good right now is infinitely better than doing something that's great in two days
yeah the aggressive make something happen yeah like that is so important
can you overdo it yes you can can you make stupid decisions because you rushed
yes you can is there a dichotomy in this absolutely
there is the that's there's a dichotomy in every part of it so in every type of
leadership there's a dichotomy and jujitsu right there's a doctor because
if I just rush to a situation well that might be the situation that you want to
be to rush it gave me the opening the trap yeah so it's like you know when
you're like helping your friend move and then you get like three four other
friends you know and everyone's waiting around to be like okay where do we start
okay where do we put you know where do we start who's starting first kind of
thing the default aggressive guy he's just
gonna start moving stuff yeah and that seems like okay that's like a little
light-hearted scenario but that's real that's what I would run into it you know
when there's a bunch of people and we're all capable of making the decision it
kind of paralyzes everyone because oh this is so true it that scenario that
you're talking about it happens over and over and over again in the business
world it happens over and over again on the battlefield it happens on the
training field where there's a bunch of people no one's taking leadership
position yeah like all it takes is someone to say hey we're moving this
over here to get all the stuff off the truck right now boom guys are like okay
cool we'll make it happen yeah like your oil rig scenario the main
exact same thing yeah and if your default aggressive meaning that's your
default that's the that's your zero you hear that hundred percent then you're
just handling business right your whole life until you take it too far yeah and
you're trying to run stuff that other people might have a better vision of
what to do like if I might be if I'm only moving for the first time ever mmm
on our moving team and I come in I'm like hey guess what hey we're gonna
start getting this to heavy stuff and you're like eh actually
that's not a good idea yeah we should do this we should get this stuff in here
into the truck first or whatever right because you've been doing it longer so
even though it's got to be your default mode again there's a dichotomy you can
push it too far better keep your eyes open