Heya playa, are you trying to convince your parents to let you start dating?
Different parents have different perspectives so depending on how old you are, that's definitely
going to affect whether or not you start dating.
But, hold on there is something you can do.
Something you can talk to them about that will convince them to let you start dating
so I'm going to share that with you right now.
For those of you that are new here, my name is Josh and every single Monday through Friday
I make videos sharing tips, ideas and stories teaching you how to be your best self.
Now when it comes to having that conversation with your parents, firstly just letting them
know that you like someone it can always be kind of awkward and difficult.
The first challenge you run into is actually letting your parents know that you like someone.
That can be a weird thing to do because you don't know how they're going to react.
Are they going to make fun of you?
Are they just going to shoot you down right off the bat?
Or are they going to be encouraging and tell you to pursue that person?
There's no way to truly know how your parents are going to react beforehand when it comes
to telling them that you want to start dating.
But you can test the waters by letting them know that hey, my friends who's conveniently
my age wants to start dating, what do you guys think about that?
If they tell you something like "oh but they're too young" or "they're too immature" or "they're
not ready" or "it's going to interfere with school" or any of these type of reasons, that
can give you a bit of an indication as to how they're going to respond when you tell
them.
If you want to actually convince them rather than actually getting shot down, what you
need to do is ease into it.
Let them first know that you like someone, that you have feelings for them and you've
been thinking about them a lot.
Don't mention anything with dating just yet.
The idea is to get your parents warmed up to the idea that you are starting to have
feelings for other people.
If they can come to understand that, then eventually dating is just something along
the line.
What your parents may not understand is that you actually want to start dating, you want
to start exploring those feelings and see where they can take you.
A lot of parents just kind of assume that hey, my kids are still young, they don't have
feelings like that, I don't even want them to start thinking about dating at all.
And that creates a bit of a challenge because your parent's perception of you doesn't really
match up with the reality of how you feel so, you want to try to blend those two as
much as possible.
Let them know that you are someone who wants to pursue your feelings and that dating is
just the natural course of action that you want to take.
So now let's say you already brought up your feelings, your parents know that you like
someone and they know that you want to date.
How exactly do you go about dating because you can't really travel anywhere on your own,
you kind of need your parents to take you there.
This is where you're going to see a bit of blended responsibility.
Because you rely on your parents to help you get from point A to point B if you were to
go out on a date, you need to kind of openly communicate with them.
Let them know what you want to do, where you want to go, how much time you want to spend
with that person and even try to introduce that person to them if you can.
The more your parents are in the know, hopefully, they'll be less likely to ask you so many
questions, to tell you what to do and just be all up in your business.
Ideally what they want to know is that you're being safe, you're being smart and that you're
not in this just to hurt someone's feelings or use them, you genuinely want to build solid
relationships.
Basically what I'm saying is that your parents don't want to see you out there breaking hearts
and they don't want to see you out there with a broken heart.
So, they're going to be cautious of whomever you date so make sure the person that you're
choosing to date is someone that they can get along with.
Let's be real though, some parents are going to tell you flat out that you're too young
to start dating or to have a boyfriend or girlfriend.
So the way that you can kind of compromise with them is to let them know that hey, you're
still going to have feelings for people and you do want to get to know them but you promised
them you won't put a label on it out of respect for their decision.
From there hopefully, the two of you can see eye to eye.
Your parents can't tell you not to have feelings and not to talk to people that you like.
But they do want that assurance that you're not going to jump into something that's either
gonna hurt you or ruin up your process in school.
I started dating when I was a sophomore in high school and even back then I could say
that I didn't really know how to be in a relationship so I think a lot of you want to start dating
but you don't really know what it takes to be in a relationship just yet so don't worry
about jumping into one.
Get into the process of just getting to know people better first, that's how you're going
to learn to build relationships with others.
But now I really want to know what do you think?
What do your parents think about you dating and do you feel like you're ready for a relationship?
Leave your comments down below and we'll talk about it.
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On that note, I'll catch you guys tomorrow.
As always, love and peace.