- Hi I'm Adam.
- I'm Tee.
- And we have eight month old twins, Rev and Sky.
- In this week, we are switching roles.
- Hello Sky. Hello Rev.
Hello, Hello.
We met on an app.
It was an instant connection.
- The attraction was definitely there.
I mean, we became like, friends,
I will say like, you know, we dated.
- We spent like pretty much every single day together
after that.
So whether it was friends or lovers,
we were very much together. - (laughing)
- I've always known that I wanted to be married.
And when I met Tee and we started dating
and spending a lot of time together,
it became pretty apparent to me that
I would like to be married to him.
- I just never thought that I would get married
because I always have just seen or growing up,
seeing like marriage like, a man and a woman.
For me being gay, I'm like okay,
there is no room for me.
But now I'm discovering being with Adam,
obviously he changed my mind. - (laughs softly)
- And we're sitting right here.
- Hello, hello, hello.
Hello, hello, hello.
Kids? I know I always wanted to have kids.
- [Adam] That was one of the first things
that we talked about when we went on,
I think it was like our second date.
Tee brought it up
and we both knew that we wanted to have kids.
That was a nice green light for us.
- [Tee] Yeah.
- [Adam] It was a very long journey for us
to get to Rev and Sky.
We talked about all of our different options.
We talked about surrogacy.
We talked about adoption.
We both wanted kids that were biologically ours.
So one of my best friends, Amy,
agreed to be our egg donor, which was an amazing gift.
One of Tee's really good friends, Iya,
agreed to be our gestational carrier or surrogate.
And the pregnancy itself went very smoothly.
- High five.
Yes.
High five, high five.
Yes girl.
Let's do this.
Rev and Sky are just amazing.
Like, I know everybody say their kids are amazing,
but truly these are.
These kids are just phenomenal.
- [Adam] Sky right now is kind of the talker
and Rev is the explorer.
So Rev is all over the place, moving everywhere.
- Leave it, leave it.
Leave it, leave it.
- Sky likes to just sort of plant
and just babble and scream.
- (crying)
- [Tee] Sky
- And she actually gets a big kick out of watching Rev
move all around.
It's sort of like she's living vicariously through her.
- Sky. You gonna be good?
Say 'hi' to the camera.
There we go. Yes.
- I grew up in Papillion, Nebraska.
It's a suburb of Omaha.
I have two brothers, mom and a dad.
My parent's parenting style was very loving
and affectionate and supportive, but also very strict.
We knew what the boundaries were.
- And I grew up
in West Africa, Senegal.
My dad has two wives,
so, my mom was a second wife.
So basically, we lived actually in a family home,
where basically grandpa, grandma, cousins...
It's like, it was a huge household.
- We are alike in a lot of ways,
but we are different in a lot of ways.
We're different in the way that we clean the house.
We're different in the way that we dress
and we socialize and...
- We are different only even like how we raise the kids.
- So preparing for the twins, I read a ton of books.
The way that I operate is I just wanna
try to be as prepared as possible.
And the way that I do that is by doing a ton of research.
- I read zero books, zero research, but I am doing great.
I mean... - 'Cause you have me.
- (laughing)
I'm really social.
Adam is not.
- When it comes to finances,
I would say Tee is definitely more on the frugal side
than I am.
- I don't know what side you are,
but it's definitely not frugal.
I truly think Adam believed that money grows from the tree.
- Oh Lord. - (laughing)
- [Adam] Switching roles this week was a lot.
I'm not a morning person at all.
Good morning.
It is seven am.
I am Tee today.
Good morning.
And good morning Sky.
Got our bottles going.
Oh yeah.
One of the real joys in the morning
is when you greet them in the morning.
They are the happiest people in the world to see you.
It's the sweetest thing.
So, that makes the morning bearable.
- It is about nine o'clock
and I am about to get up off the bed.
It just felt good, like...
I will actually get up, just lay on the bed
and play on my phone, for me be like 30 minutes.
I got my smoothie and I will be sitting here
getting my work done,
(baby crying) until my shift starts.
I don't know if you can hear the kids crying.
But it is not my business right now.
- One of the things that made the mornings difficult
was trying to multi-task
so many other things at the same time.
Like, Tee does a lot of cleaning
during his shift with the girls.
It's like, something he actually really enjoys doing.
He's told me many times.
- If I do a morning shift,
I basically wanna finish every single thing.
- Tee is very good at multi-tasking.
I will give him that.
Just put the girls down for their first nap of the day,
which means I have about an hour and a half now
to get some things done.
Doing some laundry, a few other chores.
Hopefully get a little workout in and do some actual work.
We are up early from our nap.
Should still be sleeping but apparently
they're ready for a party.
These girls woke up early from their naps
right at the end of my workout.
So, I haven't even had a chance to shower.
I'm pretty gross right now.
That's part of being a parent.
- When I went to the store to buy pineapples,
of course I am seeing two different pineapples.
But they all cut.
They are Adam style cut.
The only thing is, one of them was 4,99
and the other was 8,99.
But today we are not gonna do this.
I'm still doing Adam,
but I'm gonna just do the eight dollar one.
- Start one of my favorite things,
sweeping the floor.
They're just over here playing
- Another thing that I actually kinda enjoy
and really respect,
is actually him making sure the kids have their meal
in the afternoon
and always kinda like trying to find like
what the kids are gonna eat.
I am feeding the kids some bananas.
I got you.
I was Adam and I'm like,
let me just kinda do a little shopping and just buy things.
So this is what I got today,
when I went to the store.
These miniature tongs.
Since I was Adam today,
I ended up buying these small bitty ones
just to have something cool for dinner and such.
Just something extra for the house.
- Oh yeah.
The little baby tongs are great.
They're so adorable.
And they're so functional.
I've already used them like seven or eight times
since you've gotten them. - (laughing)
- They're great.
- So I just put the kids to bed.
It's about seven 10.
Sky literally just had to blow out.
And pee is all over everything that I had on.
That's how they telling me, "Goodnight Papa."
- There are definitely days where it's like,
"Give me that drink!" - Yeah.
Like, it has been a day.
- We got our margaritas.
We are gonna chill.
Have some adult time.
We will see them again at 7 am in the morning.
(soft music)
- [Tee] It's around nine 40 right now just woke up.
I stayed up until 2 am, googling things online.
Yesterday wasn't too bad.
According to Adam
the morning shift was actually really hard for him.
- I am reorganizing my closet for the spring summer months,
getting stuff moved around
and these girls are sitting here watching me,
helping me out.
Okay. So this is why I don't bother trying to multi-task.
They've been arguing over this wood block
taking it back and forth from each other.
Under normal circumstances
I might look up how to address this.
But since I'm Tee I'm just gonna go on instinct
and let them figure it out themselves.
Here we are on the floor.
I think we've calmed down slightly.
No multi-tasking today.
- So I went to get coffee in the morning
and I did a Adam style.
I took a stroller.
- Tee is doing this like one handed steer on the stroller.
- And they are having a good time, yes.
I made a meal and the meal had honey,
so I gave the girls honey.
Adam is telling me you can't give kids honey.
We literally did it all the time when I was growing up.
Honey is a natural product.
Why can't we give it to the kids?
Yeah, so I looked it up and it says,
you cannot give babies honey until they are one year old,
which was quite shocking and disappointing (chuckle).
- Bath day.
Normally when I do a bath for the girls,
I use our baby specific tub.
But when Tee gives the girls a bath
he prefers to use our double sink.
- Sky - (crying)
- Really Sky.
Sky just wouldn't stopped crying.
I'm googling to find like,
a way to help her like, overcome this whole,
whatever that's going on.
I feel like,
just like the research that he does and all those things,
I think it really, really helped me also not do the research
because somebody's doing it.
But like also giving me information
that I actually truly need.
This is information that I really, really need, you know.
So I'm getting it for free.
Aw, look at that.
Look who is sleeping.
- I definitely gained even more appreciation
for the amount of things that Tee is able to do
in a very short period of time.
The fact that he can do it
and take care of the girls, to me is very impressive.
- To having Adam's shift,
kinda showed me some ways of doing things a different way.
Now I'm doing actually more research on things.
- I've been taking more mornings
and I'm becoming more of a morning person
if I dare say that.
So I learned that I'm similar to Tee
in a way that I thought we were a little different,
in just the amount of effort that we put in.
- Yeah.
Just the way that we take care of the kids and like,
make sure like they get everything that they need.
- You know, while we do both do things our way,
I think that's actually a really good thing.
Because what's best for us
is probably best for the kids too,
because it allows us to be our best selves.
That to me is just really stuck with me
and I think brought a nice new perspective
to our parenting journey.
We are definitely different.
- But being different is how we learn from each other.
- And one thing that we can always agree on,
is that when it comes to the girls, love always comes first.
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