How do you tell a guy that you like him, whether you just want to tell him you're crushing
a little bit or confess your giant, undying love. This is how to do it. Stay tuned.
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Okay, so how do you tell a guy that you like him? Well, we did do a previous version of
this video, but I wanted to give you an updated and expanded version so that you have more
tools and conversation pieces that you can use to tell the guy you like him so that nothing
is awkward at all. Now there's generally two situations. If you've come to this video wanting
to know how to tell a guy that you like him. You're either in situation one where you don't
know the guy that well, maybe you're in his class or you work with him or you know him
in your friendship circle. You probably know his name but you haven't chatted a whole lot
and you want to tell that guy that you like him or you're in kind of the opposite situation
where you've known the guy a long time, you spend a lot of time together and you've started
to develop feelings and you want to tell the guy that you like him.
Two different situations. And I'm going to go through both of them for your specific
situation today. So let's start out with the guy that you don't know that well, but that
you might be crushing on a little bit. The first thing with this guy that you have to
remember is you've got to do all the normal stuff. You've got to get talking to him. So
the best thing, the first thing you can do, step number one is to just get into conversations,
get into conversations, start conversations. If he's in your class, you can use things
like class topics, assignments to start simple conversations in a simple way. If he's at
your work, you can use work-related topics. You know, if he's in your friendship circle,
you can talk about mutual friends. It's not weird to go and introduce yourself and talk
about a common topic. If you're feeling more confident, you can use something in the environment
to just open up a conversation with him. It might be something outside or if you're at
a bar, you talk about something in the decor or you're feeling extra confident, you can
just go up and say hi.
Okay, so once you've got talking to him once, step two is to get talking to him regularly,
so you want to go in his mind from that random girl that talk to him to that girl he talks
to a lot. Once you've made that association, it's going to be easy to move on to step three,
which is figure out if he's single. We had a video last week on how to ask if a guy's
single, so for info on how to do that, go check out that video. Step four is to get
some one on one time with him. You can't tell a guy you like him if you guys aren't hanging
out one-on-one or if he's just sitting in class or at work.
So get some one-on-one time. If you're talking to him regularly, you know you're going to
know some of his interests. He's going to know some of yours. Let's say he talks about
something that he did on the weekend. You can say, "Hey, well it was my invite?" Make
fun of him for it, and then he says, Oh, you'll have to come to the next one and you say,
that'd be great. Here, give me a phone. I'll put my number in, and you put your number
in his phone. Or maybe there's something you wanted to do. Maybe you wanted to go zip lining
or rock climbing or something. You say to him, Hey, I've actually been really wanting
to go rock climbing and I've been looking for a friend to do it with. Would you like
to come? He says, yes. You say, sweet. What if I pop my number in your phone, you text
me, let me know when you're free.
You've got to get that one on one time and once you've got it, once you've got that one
on one time, step five is to tell him you like him non-verbally. So you're in much more
of a normal dating situation in these circumstances where you don't know the guy that well. And
that's where you can tell the guy and use your sub verbals to practice giving the guy
green lights and telling him you like him. Remember a lot of attraction is done non-verbally
and these are the skills that if you want men to come to you, if you want men to kiss
you, approach you, ask you out, that's when you want to be able to communicate a lot of
these things non-verbally. So give the guy the green lights, use your eye contact, check
out the how to get a guy to kiss you video, use those green lights and tell the guy flirting
videos as well, How To Flirt With A Guy, that you like him non-verbally. I'll put the links
to all those videos in the description. Okay. But what about if you do know the guy that
well, if you've been hanging out a lot, if you've been good friends perhaps for a long
time, and you've started to develop feelings? Well, this is a trickier situation because
men in this situation tend to not read green lights very well. They tend to excuse things
you do as you just being friendly and they justify to themselves that there's no way
you could be interested. So in these situations, you've got to step it up a bit. First step
simple, make sure that he's single. If you know the guy well, you should already know
that fact. Step two is make your hangouts suddenly and obviously more intimate. So if
you usually hang out with him with friends during the day, then see if you can hang out
with him one on one at night.
There's going to be a change in the dynamic that he will feel. Maybe you usually hang
out with him one-on-one when you're out, so you hang on him, hang out with him one-on-one,
when you're at home. You just hang out, watch a movie. You make it suddenly more intimate
so that there's been an obvious shift in the dynamic. Step three is you tell him non-verbally,
but remember often this isn't gonna work and often the green lights aren't going to work,
so sometimes you need to cut through this step and go straight to step four, which is
tell him verbally, tell him verbally that you like him. Obviously you've got to wait
for the moment and you've got to know when it's appropriate based on the two of you hanging
out. So wait until you're feeling vulnerable together. Wait until you feeling a bit connected.
Wait until obviously you're alone and not going to be interrupted. And that's when you
can tell him you like him verbally.
Okay, well you're probably thinking that's great Mark, but how the hell do I actually
say it so that it doesn't come off awkward? Well, here's a couple of ways to phrase it
that will really help you out. You can say, "The more time I spend with you, the more
I find myself attracted to you." That's number one. Number two, you can say, "Have you ever
thought about me and you together?" Gauge his response. Number three, you can be more
direct. Ask him, "Can I say something?" And he says, sure, yep, whatever. And you say,
"I think I'm really falling for you." Three simple little ways to say it that aren't awkward
and as long as you're in the right intimate environment, the guy's going to take it well.
Okay. And step number five is gauge his response.
Now obviously if he gives you a negative response to saying one of the things we just mentioned,
or if he's not even keen to hang out in more intimate environments and manners, then you
probably want to dial back and back off. But if his response is positive and you've known
this guy for a long time, what you want to do is shift the dynamic quite quickly. You
don't want to say this thing and then have it just drag on and you guys keep hanging
out in the same dynamic. The reality is the dynamics been one way for a long time, so
it needs a bit of a shock. It needs to change or it's going to fall back into the same pattern
and the guy will convince himself that you're probably not into it and that he's probably
friend-zoned. So my advice to you would be aim for him to kiss you or even for you to
kiss him within one hangout of you telling him verbally that you like him.
That means when you tell him verbally, either see if you guys can kiss each other that night
or the next time you hang out. It's the kiss that's going to change your dynamic and show
the guy that, okay, I'm definitely not in the friend zone. Our dynamic has shifted,
we are now more than friends. Well, that's it. Thank you so much for watching. That is
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