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Hey guys on Ask Japanese this is Cathy cat and today from the depths of jungles of Tokyo
now you know Japanese people are being quiet and nice and shy and all of that but Japanese
people can get angry too anger is a human emotion but they are the masters at hiding it
in fact Japanese people can be so subtle with their emotions that you might totally miss
the fact that they're super angry at you and that way you can ruin it with your friends
with potential dates or partners or even your wife so don't miss these things so let's go....
5 subtle hints that Japanese people are angry with you
Number one "moto hayako itte kurereba yokatta no ni".
Imagine the situation you were supposed to go on a date with a cute person and what
happens though is you realized last minute on the day itself oh my gosh you got tickets
to that musical where you're going with your friends and you cancel on them the last minute
so in that point in that situation here or she they might come to you and say "motto hayame ni itte kurereba yokatta no ni"
which pretty much translates means "I wish you told me this earlier it would have been great."
if you could have told me this earlier" and it doesn't sound angry to you does it?
No but it
Don't forget Japanese culture is a culture of harmony so you won't go "oh come on you could
have told me that earlier" you might say it in a nice way but actually want the other person
to realize that they kind of messed up there so "motto hayameni itte kurereba yokatta no ni!" could actually
express that they're really disappointed
In Japan canceling on someone last minute is really really
not appreciated... so for example if you promise to meet someone and you cancel on the same day
they call it "Dotakyan" meaning you'd canceled on them on the same day which is like the worst way of getting
told to that something's not happening always always always keep in mind Japanese people are
extremely busy: the students they have like several extracurricular activities after school there's
maybe some classes in ballet, music, piano you call it, and people who work they work a lot they work
extra overtime maybe even unpaid or less paid over time they have a lot of things to do so if they
take their time to meet you and see you you need to live step that one up and actually go out and
meet them and don't cancel and then last minute is really one of the worst things you can do
With many things like that the person might actually say "oh it's fine don't worry could
have told me earlier but it's fine" but it's really not fine to the point of that they
might actually not want to see you again I heard that a couple of times people will
say it's fine and it's so much not fine then we'll never ever see for a date again so don't
turn them down last minute if you have tickets for a concert or a musical with your friends
maybe see that you get an extra one and get that invite that person in introduce her or him to your
friends similar things like that but don't cancel last minute there will be angry
Tokyo is a big city and people have to live together in a very close environment so you avoid friction you avoid
direct confrontation you avoid shouting at people throwing stuff at people outrageous behavior and
you avoid actually getting physical as well but you can still get very angry
number two "Sou itte kureru to arigatai desu!"
This I can explain to you guys on a situation that happened with me and the director of ask Japanese
we were out in the hydrangeas it was about a year ago shooting in a park for hydrangeas
and we had wonderful pictures there up on our instagram be sure to check that one out anyways
what happened is the director put down the camera he's filming with right now very expensive thing
carefully on the ground on the side of the street and picked up his other camera with which he takes
instagram pictures to come and take pictures of me
there was a guy who was pushing his bike he was
like on pushing the bike around and he stared at me and kept walking and just staring and
walking and staring so he didn't look wasn't what it was in front of him his bike drifted
to the side of the street and he ran over this super expensive camera that we're filming with
the director was FUMING
so we were instantly scared that we can't take Ask
Japanese videos anymore but the guy that ran over our camera instead of saying whoops sorry
he was like "whoops well you shouldn't have put it there in the first place"
so he was not sorry and so the director picked up the camera carefully with both hands
actually the director was fuming he was super angry but because he said it in a polite way
there was no way the other man could pick that up as an offense and start a fight right
so the director managed to express that he's super angry yes putting out the sirens that he's super
angry but without actually starting a conversation or a discussion or a fight that would maybe lead
to problems you know maybe you know the other guy will go and start punching him or whatever you can
avoid it that way by being very sarcastic because he didn't say anything that would bring an offense
but at the same time he managed to express that he wasn't happy with that non-apology
Number three: Pun pun
Japanese people can get angry in very subtle ways but if they say
Pun! Kousuruto Punpun shicyau zo!
pretty much meaning if you do that i'll go "punpun" which pretty
means i'll be grumpy or will not be happy or i'll be a little bit angry with you
if you've ever seen a Japanese drama or Japanese anime or manga when an anime girl would do this
blow a puff up her lips like this so she has like big puffy cheeks that is called pun pun
Japanese kids do too it's kind of a childish expression of being angry kind of like puff puffs
I am angry pupupupu
that kind of sound that you can associate with me is more of an onomatopoeia
and that's actually a thing of people very subtly saying "I would be angry if you did that" or "i'm a
little bit angry" but it's not in the "whoa i'm angry with you" more more and a little bit ah
"no that's not cool kind of thing" so you can maybe make it up to them
Number four: Chotto Chotto
Now imagine a situation you've been standing in front of your favorite restaurant for about like
half an hour because they're really good they do like the best sushi that you know in town
and you look down at your wallet to see if you have enough money to maybe treat your date and
you look up and suddenly someone cut into line .... you're not quite sure whether they
did that on purpose or they kind of just didn't look at you when they stood in line so you say
Chotto chotto
which pretty much means "hold on" like hey hold on ...that's all
Chotto chotto is generally used to call people out on something
so for example if someone cuts in line or does something maybe they might not have done it on purpose
but just because they weren't really paying attention to similar things like that or if someone
is walking way too close to you because they're checking out their smartphone or similar things like that
or in trains when people do something that is not on you call them generally out with saying "chotto chotto"
which pretty much just means like hold on oh hey hey there hold on and that is usually there to
kind of make people realize what they're doing so it's not too confrontational but it's a good
way of calling people out without going "hey what are you doing in front of me in the line i'm so angry at you" kind of thing
and chottochotto is helpful in that way because it's two little small words and you're not accusing anyone of anyone
just yet also what might happen if you are standing in line or if it's for example at a convenience store I had a lot of times where
people were just cutting the line in front of me and I would just go "all right" sometimes i'll
just let it slide because I don't want to be that kind of foreigner but what then the staff will say
"Okyakusama wo jyuunban ni annai shimasu" meaning
I call our guests or customers to the register in the order they were waiting in line which means
sometimes the staff will see that and help you .... so there's no reason to get really angry if you're
about to get pun pun yourself maybe just say and people will realize that
they've done something wrong and sorted out themselves
number five "Mou shiranai"
So that is one that for example can happen you're in a restaurant and you're just about to decide
what food to get you're like um shall I get the A menu or shall I get the B
menu and you keep talking with your friend or your significant other and asking A menu has this but B
B menu has that and you just really can't make up your mind ... so just when the waiter comes in
and asks you what you want to order you go what turn around to him or her and go like
"How about I should just get the C menu what do you think?" in that situation they might
say "mou shiranai" which pretty much means "I don't care anymore" like you sort that out yourself
so Japanese people are really really really really patient but that's the moment when you
know you've exasperated their patience and you really need to sort that out yourself
don't go there, don't don't overstretch that patience
bonus round number six
Ikagen ni shinasai.
now with the other words you might have not quite known that you're in trouble but with "Ikagen ni shinasai!
you know you are in trouble things are going to come down that's the word that for
example mothers use to reprimand their kids so if the kids are lying around going crazy and she told
them off a couple of times and they still haven't listened that's the point when "ikagen ni shinasai! comes in
Cut it out director!
Those explanations of how they're angry, subtle yes they are but you if you come to Japan
or if you want to date a Japanese person should know about these to avoid being the foreigner
thinks "everything's fine everything's fine we're doing great, yeah I came late and she
was totally fine with it!" no she's not ....so be sure that you watch out for these very very subtle
signs of when Japanese people are angry ...now next time we might do a word or introduce you to a
couple of words that actually express proper anger and similar things like that if you want
to that is though so please let us know in the comments down below if you want to hear proper
Japanese fight words when people really really step on each other's toes and cause some ruckus
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I hope you enjoyed this video and i'll catch you soon for more stuff from Tokyo with ask Japanese. Bye.
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