- Oh!
- Pff what a perfect next question, amazing!
- That's so great.
- Who wrote these questions,
who is this? This should be a board game.
- OK.
(cards shuffle)
(computer mouse clicks)
- I need...
I really just need you here.
- Yeah?
- I need you here like,
I'm holding it back
(laughs)
I just need you here,
that's all.
I think things are just gonna get so much better,
when we are,
like together in one household.
I'm ready for all that,
I'm like ready to get all that started,
(laughs)
but I'm impatient,
(laughs)
- Yeah
- We joke about it,
we talk about it,
and I really hope that out of this whole
like quarantines thing that,
maybe the military will have a change of heart
and you'll be able to just be here.
(sighs)
- The craziest thing,
our daughter is three and a half and,
"Social distancing."
(laughs)
Ya know?
- Yeah.
- When we were that age we were learning
cat,
bat,
rat,
sat,
and then she comes out,
"Social distancing."
- Mm-hmm.
- Never dealt with any of this kind of shit growing up,
I mean--
- My mom has kidney failure
and she's on dialysis three times a week so,
me and my mom are very close.
I will go to her home every morning
sit there,
drink coffee with her
for at least a hour or two
and then I would go to work
and I don't go over there anymore.
I miss her very very much,
she's not far from me
but I don't go to see her,
- Yeah.
- And the scariest thing
for me would be that with her medical conditions
and she has COPD and diabetes and many other things,
that she catches the virus
and I am so terrified of that,
that she begs me to come just wear a mask
and I refuse and I feel so bad
every time I say no to her,
but it's I wouldn't be able to--
ooh OK.
I wouldn't be able to forgive myself
if I was the reason,
so that's the scariest thing for me.
- I think this quarantine,
this lock down,
is actually providing us with the chance to
skip all the usual couple stuff,
because we are so deprive of each other,
like,
physically.
- Yeah.
- We're only 12 kilometers apart,
it's not far,
I could drive up to your house in 15 minutes
30 minutes probably,
but its so far,
it's so,
but then us being apart actually kinda
okay let's skip all the usual couple stuff
and then just go to the hard stuff right?
Like we were given this intensive,
very demanding task
and then we have to score
otherwise we won't come out of this as a couple.
- I guess there's something inside you
that is giving you resources for this.
It might be the fact that you are,
used to live in between things.
- Mm-hmm.
- You said before,
you are from Africa but also from Europe,
you are from Europe from also from Africa,
and you kind of explore different
worlds at the same time.
So it seems like there's some sort of
resource inside you that's coming from it.
Normally there's something there
in between the big crowds,
that you give to,
that's part of who you are so I'm assuming that's
what you're missing,
and what you're questioning yourself
how to rebuild?
If that's not gonna come any time soon.
Yeah.
- Yeah.
- Maybe that's--
- That actually,
I haven't sort of thought about it that way
but that's true I'm very used to be in between things.
I didn't never phrase it that way,
- Hmmph.
- Or do it professionally,
personally or geographically.
(laughs)
I don't even.
(laughs)
So yeah.
- I just want us all to be in the same house
and squabbling,
and laughing,
and joking,
and eating,
(laughs)
and playing games.
That's all I want.
- Yeah.
I really really really wanna hug,
- Yeah.
- All of you so,
much isn't that so,
it's so strange that
that connection is so required
you know that touch that,
- Mmm-hmm.
- It lends so much reassurance that somebody
is OK without any words,
without any,
just touch,
it's just so amazing,
I never even realized how much I would missed a hug
I have Warren so much every day like,
to hug everybody!
- (laughs)
- And I hold them so long he's like,
"let go!"
(laughs)
but I know why 'cause it's,
you're hugging the person
for all of the hugs that you're not getting
so I just want you,
to get some hugs.
- Yeah I haven't had any hugs.
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