- Morning. - Hey.
Good morning.
Come on in.
Have a seat.
How are you doing, Josh?
I'm all right. I'm good.
I'm better today.
I want to apologize for how I was yesterday.
OK.
I was totally out of it.
I wasn't feeling as well, but I'm back.
Oh, good.
I'm glad.
Let's talk about what happened in your tasks.
Tiffany?
My stepdaughter Maya felt that her father
was not there for her.
And she probably feels abandoned is what I heard.
But it feels like her more emotional concern is
that her dad doesn't love her.
Yes.
She wants you to see she's hurt.
That's it. - We're all hurt.
And I know she's hurt. - OK.
She's only 14.
When you say we're all hurt, it's not being the parent.
We don't go I'm hurt, too.
Now, what about when you said to Maya,
you create problems in the marriage?
I shouldn't have said. That was wrong.
She's a child.
Yeah, that's not right.
A kid might activate a problem, they don't cause one.
But Josh constantly blames me for getting the lawyers to look
into it so he can get custody.
So every time she doesn't call him, I get the blame.
So if it's Father's Day, she don't call him, Josh is see,
she don't even call.
Me that's a bag of worms you should never--
Yeah, that's grown up problems.
14-year-olds shouldn't even know about that.
That's a resentment you have against him.
I don't have a resentment for her.
I do not have a resentment-- - I know.
It's against him.
I do love her.
That is my stepdaughter.
I mean, you are mad.
There are ways you're relating to Maya that are part
of the issue that need to be that-- you're
about to shake your head.
You're already shaking your head.
WOMAN: I'm sorry.
Not so fast.
But I love her.
I really fought for her. And I really love her.
I really want her to live with me.
You got to just get with reality.
Reality is she's got a mom in another state.
And this is how it is.
So how do we help her feel loved where she is?
So the other thing I wanted to say is to you, Josh.
So I know you said to Maya that she didn't
call you when Legacy died.
Yeah.
But she was only nine.
I mean, she also lost a brother, too.
It wasn't just like--
I know.
So you believe a nine-year-old should be coming to the adult
and making sure the relationship is happening?
That's what you're saying?
OK.
As soon as you start thinking a child
is supposed to be doing things for you, other than like run
and find my glasses, you know what I'm saying?
You're creating a dysfunctional family pattern.
So that's just a no go.
OK.
The other thing that came up in your task that you said
is that Josh is not himself anymore, that he's
a shell of who he used to be.
Yes.
WOMAN: Ever since--
The baby, his mom, Maya, and even the new kids being born.
He's not funny anymore.
He used to be.
He used to be more of a friend, too.
Do you think that Josh hates you?
Yes.
Why?
He probably feel like I've caused wedges between him
and his family, because I went digging
in his personal business with his daughter.
I didn't leave that alone.
And I just don't let him be who he is.
Is that true, Josh?
I love her with every bone in my body.
I'm here today to fight for this relationship.
I'm here today to fight for this marriage.
If I wouldn't have been I wouldn't have showed up.
I believe you.
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I'm sorry.
Don't cry.
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