The Consequences after Walking Away! Stick around to the end as I'll reveal real life consequences
you might be facing after finally deciding to walk away! Welcome to The SCG Show! This video is
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Either you've walked away or seriously you're considering doing so...
credit to you for being so brave in a world where people settle for such mediocrity!
We live in a very scarcity mindset driven world... where "you need to settle down for anyone that
you can... better the devil you know!" What nonsense! Typically we might go into relationships after
long dry spells, spouts of loneliness or because we had past miserable relationships and we
settled for whatever we can find... making letting these new people go AKA walking away very hard!
Nevertheless every single day there are people doing so or there are people like me who have done
so and stayed away. It's been several years since I walked away from a toxic relationship, originally
it was one of the hardest most difficult decisions I've ever had to make, but in hindsight it was the
best and I have no regrets! I personally define walking away as literally physically, emotionally
and spiritually leaving someone behind for good... cutting them out of your life through no contact
blocking, deleting etc and if you wish to, making new romantic relationships friendships and bonds!
Make no mistake, walking away is easier said than done... even if the relationship was really toxic and
bad it's still very difficult. You have some sort of bond, you have an emotional, or trauma bond, you
have feelings, you have some history and memories even with family.... years and years of memories,
stories, trials and tribulations... it's not simple to just pack up and cut that person out of your
life, because there are consequences. But I believe they are worth it in the initial stages to get to
the end result, and the end result is a better life overall! Here are the consequences of walking away!
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Laura walked away from her abusive, cheating and disrespectful partner of five years... enough was
enough... she couldn't handle how little she was appreciated or how immature and entitled he
was or how he'd go out and cheat to swear revenge on her. She was done and finally walked away from
him for good! "I was unhappy for years, we lacked intimacy, we fought all the time... I had checked
out ages ago," said Laura. Then much to the surprise of her friends and family, Laura once she finally
walked away, started grieving... she cried every day, had no enthusiasm for anything was miserable and
just wanted to be alone and cry and grieve the relationship. "I don't get you" said one of her
friends "you left... you walked away! Why are you upset? Why are you grieving? You should be happy!"
Don't get me wrong it was the right call for Laura, but initially she was hurt. When I walked
away from my toxic relationship I too grieved like Laura in my own way, I was emotionally
drained, very exhausted with low energy... all the time... what I wanted to do was nothing... I went
to work, went home, saw friends and family but that was just about it. I didn't want a date, I
couldn't be bothered, I didn't want to do anything, I chose instead to grieve... I grieved the time that
I wasted... all those stupid petty arguments and years pursuing the wrong person for me
You will never be good enough for the wrong person! I lost my dad tragically six months
after my breakup, bringing on a whole new wave of grief for me in my personal life
Grieving is perfectly natural, healthy and normal after a breakup and after walking away
Even if you have decided to walk away, even if you know it's the right choice,
the consequence here is there will be a period of grief!
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Whether you're walking away from a relationship, marriage, friendship, don't be surprised to
experience some loneliness, but bear in mind this is just part of the season and seasons don't last
forever! They come and go! I'm a relationship type of guy, meaning I go all in on my partner, otherwise
what's the point in dating them? I see friends when I can and I'm close with family, but my partner
and me prioritize each other and that's how my relationships go. So when I walked away from my
relationship at 32, things were different, most of my friends were settled down, some had moved out
of town, most of my family had partners etc. I was really the only single one and a few months later
in the lockdown I had nobody... I was totally on my own and it sucked big time. Not only was I grieving
a relationship and miserably single, but that my dad passed away in a lockdown entirely alone
That was tough, I cannot begin to tell you how difficult it was so extreme that I had to face
my decision AKA my decision to walk away and remain no contact when I was at my lowest, when
I was on my knees desperate for a hug, affection, attention anything... but I survived... I pulled
throug...h I pulled through an intense level of loneliness, as did plenty of other people as well.
When things started going back to normal, I forced myself to go out and socialize... I forced myself to
date even if it meant getting rejected, because the alternative is loneliness and presently I moved
on and have the happiest relationship to date.... making it totally worth it in the longer run! Yes
you might eat, sleep and live alone for a period of time, but understand it's all part of a phase
and a realistic consequence of your actions... a good action the action to walk away!
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What is toxic shame? Toxic shame is a feeling that you're worthless, it happens when other
people treat you poorly and you turn that treatment into a belief of yourself.
We are typically our most emotionally vulnerable after a breakup, even if we're the ones initiating
it... same goes for walking away from friends and family... we feel ashamed, embarrassed, we question
our motives and feel somewhat insecure... that is where the toxic shame will typically rear its very
ugly head and almost kick you when you're down! The following examples are examples of toxic shame I
endured after walking away = "What if you never love again?" That's not true and false thinking
"What if she was the one and you let her go like a fool?" She wasn't the one I did the right thing
"What if you made a huge mistake?" It was the best decision I've made in my life. "Was the relationship
really that bad?" Yes it was. "Are you sure you're not the problem and they're okay?" I'm not perfect but
we were not a good match at all. "If I were you I'd take her back!" No thank you! Toxic shame can come
from anywhere and anyone, okay sure it can come from toxic people who want to kick you when you're
down and wind you up and so on and so forth, or it can come from people who have literally no idea
what they're talking about or experience. My advice is to not buy into it, have some pride, boundaries
self-esteem and respect for yourself. You made this big brave call, because ultimately you know
it was the right thing and the only option so let people talk.... try not to take it too seriously,
try not to take it personally... these people don't really know what they're talking about!
Typically the more empathetic, compassionate person needs some intense healing and recovery
after walking away. I advise therapy with a trained medical professional, something that
happened to me far too late... if I could turn back time I would have done it right at the beginning!
I became more self-aware than ever before the moment I walked away. I evaluated everything about
myself my life choices, personality, wants and needs. I wanted to build myself back up again to a level
that had long been dorman,t but Rome wasn't built in a day... it took quite some time and my healing
and recovery stalled even more with the lockdowns and the loss of my father... but I finally got there
in the end! I became a far stronger, courageous, wiser, better man as a result of that Journey
You will too, God forbid another pandemic happens or tragedy strikes for you just like it did for me...
but Healing and Recovery are necessary to heal some deep rooted wounds and scars from
your experience! You will get back up again, you will rise up once more... better days are just
around the corner. You just need to look after yourself take great care of yourself as well
as you become the healed and better person you need to be after bravely walking away!