hey guys welcome back thanks for joining me this week so in this week's video I
wanted to answer a viewer question someone had sent me a question and asked
me how do I know whether or not I should do business with someone again I really
loved this question because while it's a business question topic it's actually
just a relationship question in general and this is something that you know how
we can know whether or not we should do business with someone is really similar
if not completely similar to whether or not we should get involved with someone
romantically you know a sustained a friendship with someone they're one in
the same now before we get into the video if you haven't already subscribed
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give this video a thumbs up if you liked it so I loved this question because what
we do in terms of starting a business relationship with someone is completely
similar to when we're starting a relationship with someone and I'm gonna
give you three things that will help you decide whether or not you should do
business with someone or whether or not you should have a relationship with
someone so the first thing to consider is and this is really important is is
this person qualified so if we want to know whether or not we should do
business with someone the easiest thing right off the bat is qualifications is
this person qualified to do the job that they say they're going to do and in
terms of are they qualified for the position do we know what the
qualifications are and this is huge because in any relationship whether it's
business or a personal relationship if you don't know the qualifications of
what you're looking for in a business partner or in someone that you want to
do business with or in a person you want to have a relationship with in general
then what's the point on even knowing whether or not someone's right for you
so you have to get really clear on what it is you're looking for
so getting really clear on what you're looking for is absolutely huge because
if you don't know what you're looking for and you're just looking for an
outcome which is I want to hire someone to increase my sales I want to hire
someone to do this for me to help my business right you're looking at that
overall picture I want to find a mate so I can get married and be in a
relationship because I don't want to be single or I want to have children or you
know I've been dating for a while whatever it is right so if you're
looking for that end result but you don't know the type of person that's
going to get you there or that is qualified to be with you and have a
business relationship or a romantic relationship with then you're gonna
really take whatever comes your way because you're really desperate for that
end result you're really desperate to bring your business to that next level
um you're very eager to be in a
relationship so definitely knowing whether or not someone's qualified do
they have the qualifications to do what they say they're going to do so
qualifications really is do we share the same goal do we share the same values so
in relationships you know do we share the same values do we want the same
things do we want the same outcome to happen you know and in terms of a
business relationship qualifications your resume what's your background what
are they what's the experience that you've had that is gonna show me that
you can actually do this job so in relationships you know what are people
saying to you and more importantly what are people showing you so it's very easy
for someone to walk in and say of course we share the same values like I want to
get married too and I want to have children too and this is the type of
relationship I want and it's so similar to what you want but at the end of the
day are there actions matching up with their words and that's something that
most people don't really pay attention to they just kind of pay attention to
all the words and all the you know glitz and glamour of what's going on in the
interview you know or in the beginning phases of the relationship and they
don't take a step back and say okay is this person showing me by their actions
that they share the same values so that's step number one
is the person qualified to be the person you need them to be so this isn't about
changing anyone and this is actually about loving
yourself enough to know what you need and what you want in a partner in a
business partner in a business relationship in a romantic relationship
and going out there and looking for that in people and not just taking whatever
comes along the second thing to always remember when you're trying to decipher
whether or not you should do business with someone whether or not you should
get into a relationship with someone is you have to go off your intuition you
know someone can give you the best resume someone can walk in and in the
first six months you know show you the best version a version of themselves and
they can check the box on everything that you're looking for but there's
always a vibe you get from people you either feel very comfortable with the
person and you're you're really trusting of that person and you know intuitively
yep I believe this person is going to do what they say or you have that little
tiny whisper or voice within yourself that's saying yeah okay everything looks
good but I'm getting a vibe here I'm getting a feeling that this person
actually isn't who they say they are or just isn't right for me period and so so
often we don't listen to that and I know I've had this in my life and I can
almost guarantee most of you have as well where you've been in situations
where you know you just didn't listen to your intuition and it ended up nipping
you in the butt at the end and then in hindsight you always say I knew this I
should have listened to myself but we didn't and so really going off your
intuition is absolutely huge in business in personal relationships in every
aspect of your life because that inner voice is guiding you towards the right
people the right decisions to get you to that end goal you know and it's just a
matter of trusting not anything else but yourself your intuition is essentially
your soul your essence that voice inside of you that's always guiding you and if
you don't trust that that means that you're not trusting yourself and you
know it's very easy and I know a lot of people have said
this to me well you know what if that's a missed opportunity well it's not it's
not a missed opportunity because there are no missed opportunities when you're
trying to decipher the people that aren't right for you from the people
that are right for you for you and the last thing really is you have to give it
time so you meet someone okay they're qualified they check the box on
everything that you're looking for and you trust your intuition you're like
okay I feel good vibes here I'm gonna go with this because I don't see any huge
red flags that are you know prompting me to not want to do business with this
person and or not get into a relationship with this person but at the
end of the day sometimes we just have to give people time to really prove
themselves and in business we call this you know I think it's like the 60 day or
90 day grace period basically where some companies don't even give you you know
real perks or benefits to the job until you prove yourself and it's the same
thing in relationships when we meet someone okay they're checking the box
and to ative lee I'm not getting any fives I feel really comfortable with
this person and we're getting along so well
but at the end of the day this person still needs to really show me who they
are they need to prove this to me over time this is really just about not
jumping the gun not saying okay this is gonna be the end-all be-all and we're
gonna have a business relationship for the end of time and we're gonna be you
know together forever and ever this is about saying okay we're vibing we share
the same values you have all the qualifications that I'm looking for in
order for you to take my business to that next level and now it's just a
matter of proving it you know walk the talk and do the things that you say
you're gonna do and you can't really know that unless you get some one time
so when you're out there dating taking a step back reeling yourself back in and
say okay we're just dating we're just getting to know each other and this is
the time where yes the beginning phases of a relationship are always amazing and
we're putting our best face forward or best foot forward but over time you
really see who a person is because if someone really doesn't share the same
values really doesn't have this goals as you they will expose themselves
over time because someone cannot play a character forever so just being a little
cautious when you're going into these relationships and not putting all your
eggs in one basket would be absolutely huge for yourself so definitely just
giving it time and let a person you know show you that they're capable of doing
the job that's really all you can do you can't no at the end of the day you know
if there are no red flags and intuitively you don't feel anything and
this person's qualified you just have to give it time for them to really show
themselves and and expose themselves essentially if they're not right for you
so I hope I've answered that viewers question and if you have any questions
or comments please don't forget to leave them in the comment section below and I
will see you next time