Confidence is the most overused and misunderstood word in the dating world.
That’s because it’s the most important word in the dating world.
Without confidence, success with women or in life is impossible.
But true confidence is exceedingly rare.
To some people, confidence means faking it ‘til you make it.
To others, it means putting on a nice pair of clothes, and having a grooming routine.
While all of these can create confidence in one way shape or form, they inevitably fall
flat.
Although they capture bits and pieces of what confidence is, they never capture the true
essence of confidence.
If every man could truly capture the true essence of confidence then they’d become
unstoppable.
I mean think about it, what would YOU do if you were unstoppable?
Who could you become?
Oxford defines confidence as “the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or
something; firm trust.
A feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities.
Achieving this is a whole different story though, and there’s no shortage of bullshitters
out there claiming to know the truth about confidence, so I thought it’s time that
I, Zeus, the Confidence Sage, sets the record straight once and for all.
Here’s a harsh truth, my disciples: Confidence isn’t about feeling good.
That’s just bullshit marketing that people made up to sell you products.
On a micro level things like dressing better, taking care of yourself, and vanity routines
CAN help you maybe 5 or 10% but they can’t fix your character or the substance of who
you are
Without a foundation of capability as the bedrock to add these things to, you have nothing.
A capable man is a confident man.
Confidence comes from being capable.
Physically capable, mentally capable, or spiritually capable.
Firm trust in your character and your ability can’t be faked.
“Fake it ‘til you make it” is another common trope thrown around, but it does have
some truth to it. is about removing self-imposed limitations and limiting beliefs.
Firm trust can’t come from thin air.
It comes from a deep understanding of who you are, and what you’re capable of.
You can mentally hype yourself up and remove or move past insecurities temporarily but
that won’t create firm trust in yourself.
You have to get to the root cause of your insecurities before you can move past them.
Insecurity is a positive survival mechanism.
It’s your body’s signal telling you, “hey bro, I don’t know about this, we’re not
so great at this, this might not end well.”
It’s your job to separate whether or not your brain is doing it’s job correctly,
or overreacting.
If I force you to approach a girl, your insecurity is probably a mix of both.
You’re scared of messing it up and maybe you haven’t talked to enough attractive
girls you’re interested in to make you feel secure in your ability.
The only way to move past it is through repeat exposure, until you have a proven track record
for yourself of being able to talk to girls or accomplish things without falling apart.
When you feel insecure, don’t run away or ignore the feeling.
Explore it.
Dig into it!
Ask yourself, “why am I feeling this way?”
Is this fear and insecurity warranted?
Or am I just making this up?
The only way to solve insecurity is to confront it.
Now let’s talk about the reason most guys in the modern age lack confidence in themselves
and are frantically insecure.
Here’s a scenario.
If i put you on a plane to fly across the country for 7 hours and told you you it was
the pilot’s first time flying, you’d be scared as hell and running to get off the
plane.
But if i told you the person flying was a 20 year veteran who’d been flying his entire
career with no issues, you’d sleep easy on that flight knowing you’d be fine.
DO you understand why?
One of the pilots is clearly capable, and the other you’re unsure of because it’s
his first time flying.
You have no reason to believe he’s capable of pulling it off.
You can’t be confident in him or his ability if you have no reason to be.
In the same way, you can’t be confident if you’re not capable in some aspects of
your own life.
One of the most common things subscribers say to me is:
“Zeus I’m not confident in myself or around girls”.
Yeah well no shit dude.
You watch videos on youtube all day, eat junk food, and probably can’t even do 10 pull
ups.
What do you have to be confident about?
Confidence isn’t something that just magically comes out of thin air.
You have to actively do things in your life that display your capability to yourself and
thus instill your sense of confidence.
Why would you feel confident in yourself if you don’t have your life together?
You have no plan, no goals, no direction of where you’re going.
You don’t even have an understanding of why you do the things you do.
How the hell is that supposed to give you a sense of confidence?
You’ve probably never even tried approaching more than 3 girls in your life.
Why would you suddenly feel like James Bond with the 4th girl you’ve ever talked to
romantically?
On a fundamentally deep level, confidence comes from ACTION.
Actions display your abilities, your abilities dictate how confident you feel.
The reason most guy’s life sucks and the reason they’re insecure is because they
don’t take action.
In dating scenarios, confidence comes from a deep understanding of who you are and what
you can provide in a romantic relationship.
Your standards, what you’re looking for in a romantic partner, what you will and will
not put up with, and your willingness to walk away if you’re not satisfied.
Knowing who you are and what you’re capable of attracting.
If you don’t know who you are, you’re not gonna feel confident that somebody should
like you.
You don’t have a strong understanding of who you are, so you’re just as confused
as to why another girl would like you!
Do you have a strong sense of character?
Strong values that you live your life by?
Are you physically capable?
Are you in good shape?
Can you fight and defend yourself?
Are you spiritually capable?
Are you emotionally intelligent, cool-headed, calm, zen-like??
Are you really smart?
Intelligent?
Able to solve problems, and understand the world around you?
All of these things are what create a firm trust in yourself, your abilities, and your
qualities as a person.
Find out what you’re good at, and constantly do those things.
If you suck at any one thing that you’d like to improve, then start taking action
and getting your feet wet doing those things.
Because right now I’m gonna pose a question to you, and you need to seriously consider
the answer for yourself…
What do you have to be confident about?
If you don’t have an answer then you got some work to do bro.
Work that takes priority over women because it will actually help you get more women and
solve most of your girl problems.
If you don’t like the answer to that question, then that’s OKAY!
It’s not reason to get upset and down on yourself, it’s reason to inspire you to
take action.
It’s motivation.
It’s a call to adventure.
To start becoming the man you want to be, and accomplishing the things you want to do.
So go off, my disciple, and start your journey.
The journey will instill more and more confidence in you by the day, as you learn more about
yourself, and what you’re truly capable of becoming.
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