Heya playas, are you planning on going up to your crush and completely spilling your
whole heart out in the hopes that they'll feel the exact same way?
Don't do it, trust me.
There's a very good reason why you shouldn't and I'll explain why after this.
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Imagine someone showed up to your door and told you that they loved you ever since the
first moment that they saw you, what would your first reaction be?
In a case like this, it might make you feel like you've been put on the spot.
What if you don't know the person?
What if you don't feel the same way?
What if they get upset by your response?
There's a lot of pressure in that moment to not just respond, but to respond in a way
that eases the tension created.
That's what you're putting your crush through every time you confess your feelings to them.
When we have crushes, we tend to focus our thoughts inwardly.
We think about ourselves, how we feel and what we want from the other person.
But, how often do we stop and think about how they'll feel if we just unload these feelings
on them out of nowhere?
That's why a much better way to approach the situation is to ask the girl out.
By asking a girl out, you're not delivering a single sided confession, you're creating
an atmosphere where both of you have the ability to express your feelings openly.
By asking a question instead of giving a statement, you're never explicitly tossing yourself out
there, instead you're creating a much more mysterious gateway for them to learn about
how much you actually like them.
Plus any kind of confession usually happens where you feel like you've been hiding your
feelings from them.
So re-frame your way of thinking.
Having feelings that you haven't expressed aren't you hiding them away, it's simply you
not acting on them.
So inviting her out on a date gives you a way to act on them rather than just saying
them.
"I just want you to know that I've always secretly liked you" isn't as powerful as "I
don't know what is it but I find you really adorable right now.
I found this really cool place that I want to take you out to sometime."
The first response leaves her open to saying something like "Aww thanks" while the second
actually pushes her to either give you a yes answer or a no answer.
And the reason why the second situation is so much better, regardless if the answer is
a yes or a no is that her answer is so much clearer.
What do you guys think though, have you ever confessed your feelings to someone?
Leave your comments below so we can talk about it.
The next time you want to tell a girl how you feel, think about things from her perspective.
If you want your feelings to manifest into something, you need to create a situation
where you can act on it.
Because simply talking about it, just ain't being about it.
As always guys love and peace.
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Ooh, I've made the fatal mistake of confessing my feelings to a girl and it did not work
out for me so please, take my advice.