- Hey, what's up?
It's me, Jessica Jay I was just wondering if you've ever sat
and thought to yourself, uh,
what are some simp moves out there
that not working out for me?
Well I'm glad you asked, because today I'm going to go
over the six simp moves that make you look the pathetic
and that you should cut out of your repertoire right now.
Stay till the very end, because you will be pretty surprised
on what these actually are.
A lot of you guys think that telling a girl she's beautiful
or I don't know, being an understanding compassionate
human being are things that make you as simp.
They're not.
In fact I hope you are those things.
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Okay, so the reason it's so important to
know what these are is because we want to,
we're not judging you off of your looks as much
as we're judging you off of how we feel about you.
And these six things are going to make us cringe at you
no matter what you look like, no matter how,
okay you look on the surface,
no matter how many Maseratis you've got
we're just going to be like ew, next.
And speaking of which let's get right down to it.
Number one is talking about how alpha you are.
I'll tell you right now
I can't tell you how many guys I see
out and about either on Instagram or YouTube
or on dating apps talking about like, yeah,
I'm an alpha guy.
I spit on you.
But maybe you're into that.
Listen, it's like one of those things
if you have to say it, you're probably not it right?
You, no guy walks around being like
yeah I'm a tall guy.
You either are or you aren't.
And if you have to say it it's because you're not.
So any time a guy talks about how alpha he is,
talks about how much money he makes,
talks about how much puss he's slaying
or how many T-Rex's he's slaying.
If you have to talk about it to us
that puts you in a position of needing to prove yourself.
And any time a woman catches a whiff
of a dude trying to prove himself
she automatically thinks it's probably
because he's not that great to begin with.
So you don't have to talk any type of talk
if you can walk the walk.
So let's just be more mindful of that.
Number two is contacting us more than we contact you.
Now I talk about this a lot in my videos,
take a look at the text to text ratio.
Is she texting you far less than your block of text?
Or are you the one always reaching
out first in the day.
I was talking to this one, dude, one time, bless his heart,
he would call me like six times a day.
And as much as it pains me to say it
I didn't have a lot of options back then, so fine.
I was answering, but you never want to be just
the guy she keeps around because she's got nobody else.
And we are very aware of this stuff.
We're very aware when you're contacting us more
than we are contacting you.
When you're texting us more.
When you're the one thinking about us more,
calling us more, giving more of yourself.
And again the more you give
the more we realize fuck I don't have to give anything,
look he'll give me anything I want
and I don't have to do anything.
That right there is becoming her servant,
becoming her puppy, her beck and call.
That is not the man slaying the T-Rex
and slaying the puss in pound town.
So stop doing it.
Number three, nothing, this,
nothing turns me off more than this,
is guys who still try after we say we're not interested.
I have so many clients that come to me
and they're like, well no he said she just wants
to be friends but like I just want her to see
that I'm like there for her.
I'm like, bro, like you're either the doormat
or the toaster.
And if you're not familiar with this channel yet
the toaster is just there to serve her when
she so needs it.
And how often do we need our fucking toaster?
I know for me I use my toaster like maybe once a year.
And again, I just said it right there.
I use it.
She is using you.
If she already told you I'm not interested
and she's still talking to you.
Now this is not to be confused with girls who are like
oh my God, I hate you.
Or even I'm just totally not into you.
You're like so bad.
Me, I always tell dudes I really like
I hate them because I have issues.
That is not the same as me saying,
listen I don't feel a connection between us.
I don't want to date you.
We could be friends only because I'm scared
you might murder me in my sleep.
So she gives you the whole I'm not interested
or even the let's just be friends
don't even be fucking friends with her.
You don't need any friends.
You don't need a her as your friend.
And if you think you do, you need therapy, let's just,
there's nothing wrong with that.
Everybody should be in therapy.
I'm in therapy.
Number four is something I really want to address
because I see it a lot
when guys go on my channel and pay me compliments.
And number four is complimenting without context.
So there is a big difference
between seeing her wearing something gorgeous
and you're like oh my God
you look really beautiful in that.
Or even her showing up to the date
and you being like, yo, you are so fucking gorgeous.
I can't take my eyes off you.
That's fine.
We're into that.
That's cool.
However, if you are complimenting in a way
that is completely unrelated to the context at hand
where it's like yeah you know I was just thinking
about you because you're so fucking gorgeous.
I can't believe you're even talking to me.
That's simping.
If it's super random and it comes out of nowhere
and it's unrelated to the moment on hand
that is seen as simping simply because
most guys do it to try to get her feeling good
about you because you have no other way to
get her feeling good about you.
What you're doing is you're to make her feel good
and therefore get something out of it.
Get feelings for you out of it
versus being genuine and reactionary to the moment at hand.
Again, if it's not within context it's weird.
Anything out of context is weird.
Anything random is weird.
So you want to be particular.
You also, a really great way to compliment a girl
is to say the effect it has on you.
I think I mentioned earlier, like,
oh my God you look so beautiful
I can't fucking concentrate right now.
That's great.
We love that shit.
But to be like fire emoji, fire emoji, mommy.
You're so fine.
Oh my god.
I'm just thinking about how fine you are.
And girls are like, okay.
Okay.
Number five is making us take the lead.
I hate this shit because I don't like making decisions.
When it comes to dudes I'm talking to
or seeing or in a relationship with, I just, I dunno.
And I tell all my clients is any girlfriend
of mine who like gets into a relationship
or starts talking to a dude
like she doesn't even want to drive her car anymore
all of a sudden.
Now it's his turn to drive because we want you to lead.
We want you to slay the T-Rex.
We don't want to have to slay no mother fucking T-Rex's.
So the second you start saying stuff like,
yeah whenever you are free or even,
yeah, whenever you want
or whatever you want or you make the decision
'cause I'll do anything you tell me to do.
I'll just be like yeah I feel like talking to a dude
who will tell me what to do actually.
Again, we want to, we don't want to beat
we don't want to drive your car.
Like you drive your car, just let us get in it.
If you know that you're having a little trouble
understanding how to take the lead without being a dick.
There's taking the lead
and then there's being a complete jerk about it
and always needing to have your way.
There's a big difference.
Don't be that guy.
And to find out the difference
in each and how to properly ascertain yourself
as the leader in our lives
check out my speak to spark arousal system
at speaktosparkarousal.com.
I go over the entire thing in module one
which then brings me to number six.
Simping move, worst one is hesitating.
I will tell you right now I've been in plenty
of bars and clubs where I will see that dude over there.
I think I mentioned this in the last video
maybe the last two videos.
Like if I see you looking at me,
I'm aware that you're hesitating.
I now see you not talking to me or even making a move.
If you and I are having a great time, have had great laughs,
we've had a lot of fun,
we've been like touching each other and flirting all night
and you haven't kissed me in fucking four hours.
I'll be like, alright, this is weird.
You probably, you probably feel anxious in the hesitating
to make a move.
And I promise you, we feel it too.
And I've taught, again I talked about this in my
speak to spark arousal program.
Any time don't make a woman feel good
you make her question what she's even doing there.
When we first meet you we divide our feelings
into good or bad.
That's it.
If we're confused, bad, if we're waiting, bad,
if we're bored, bad.
Very quickly we women are so much more in tune
with our feelings than y'all.
So if you're hesitating, we feel that.
Remember your energy is contagious
and we feel anything you feel.
If you are hesitating and a little apprehensive
about making a move or talking to her,
we're going to feel apprehensive about you.
So if you know that you need a little more like gusto
in regards to approaching or making a move, kissing her,
not waiting fucking four hours
and then making a weird move check out
my speak to spark arousal system
which is an entire step-by-step guide
on how to get excited to do it without fear,
without hesitation so that we don't feel fearful
and hesitant about you once you do.
So those are the six things that you can simply
stop doing to simp.
Thanks for watching as always
and I'll see you guys next time.