Hello, my wonderful friend, and welcome to a very special episode!
As a Christian dating coach, I'm about to reveal some of the top love secrets that you
must know today if you want a long-lasting, loving, tender, Godly relationship.
So get ready for some of the best and most effective Christian dating tips, like, ever.
Dating and relationships can feel a little overwhelming sometimes, right?
For instance, how do you set physical boundaries, and what are the appropriate physical boundaries?
How do you find the right one? Like, how do you even begin to do that?
And how do you trust God to help you, and see God's hand in your relationship
without feeling like a victim to his timing?
These are powerful questions. Have you ever wondered these things?
Get ready to have your mind blown as we talk about some of the most
misunderstood yet powerful secrets about love.
Honestly, by the end of this video, you'll have some real clarity.
And I think you'll both be very surprised and very happy by what you discover.
So make sure you stay with me until the end of this video.
Before we dive in, make sure you subscribe and ring the notification bell.
My name is Melannie. I'm a Christian dating coach for men
and creator of Attracting Lasting Love Academy.
I'm your go-to source to learn how to find the love of your life, make her
fall deeply in love with you, so that you can come home to her soft touch every single night.
So make sure you subscribe and ring the notification bell. And if you'd like to
learn more about working with me in my Academy, just go to coachmelannie.com.
Now to further set you up for success, I'm going to mention two other videos
that are also going to touch on some of the topics we'll be talking about in this video.
If you haven't yet, make sure you watch this video on 13 places women want to be
touched. And these are very appropriate physical boundaries, so give it a watch.
And make sure you watch this video on things you did not know you needed to know about kissing.
That one's going to surprise you as well.
I'll put links to both of these videos in the description below.
So are you ready to dive into some of the most little-known
Christian dating and relationship tips and secrets? Let's do this!
The first Christian dating and love secret you need to know is that intimacy is good.
Like, really good.
As Christians, we tend to hit one extreme or the other.
One extreme is that intimacy
is evil. And like, you shouldn't have those desires, you shouldn't have those feelings,
and that it's, like, something you should suppress, and it shouldn't be there.
And then we hit sometimes the other extreme where we're like, "Of course they're good.
And so there really aren't any boundaries or appropriate
limits with this. So just, you don't have to wait till marriage. Just, like, do it."
In reality, the truth is much more in the middle, rather than at these extremes.
In reality, intimacy is beautiful. It's wonderful. It's a gift from God.
Those desires were designed by Him.
This brings us closer together as a couple. This- Obviously, those desires help the attraction
process start, help us want to get married, and want to commit our lives to someone.
This helps us create families,
and God loves families. God knows that families are the foundation of society and our world.
And so when you have good, loving, strong families, you have a good, loving,
strong world. These are good things that God wants for us.
The key is that this should only be experienced within the bonds of marriage.
And there are a lot of reasons for this. And some of it is honestly for your protection.
This is obviously the most intimate experience
we can have as humans. It's a very special and even sacred experience.
It's not something that you should just give to someone or share with someone
who is not 100% committed to you.
And I mean committed to you
on the deepest level, meaning she wants to spend her life with you, she's married to you.
She has to earn the right to be intimate with you.
Just like you need to earn the right to share that with her.
So never ever share that with someone who's not your wife.
And just to be clear, this should never be about shaming someone who has made a mistake,
and who has shared that with someone they're not married to, whether it's you or someone else.
The beautiful thing about our Savior Jesus Christ is that He always stands there with open arms,
waiting to heal us and cleanse us and forgive us and make us whole and well.
So this should never ever be about shaming. However, you need to start today and not continue
to experience that with someone who's not your wife.
So always remember that those feelings and passions and desires
are good. They're incredibly good!
It's never something that you should suppress. It's just something that you should set boundaries
with. And that boundary always needs to be she's got to be your wife. She needs to earn that right.
It's healthy and good, just keep it appropriate.
This leads us right into secret number two. This secret is that attraction is important.
I'm going to go past attraction just being good. It's actually really, really important.
This is one of the reasons why when you join me in my Academy,
I teach you how to turbocharge your attraction so that you're more attractive to her,
and so you can attract the kind of woman you're attracted to.
It really is an important part of dating and relationships.
Now because these are things I do talk about in detail in my Academy,
I've had several men reach out, one in particular who said,
"Holy cow, Melannie, thank you so much for explaining that this is normal and this is good."
He always thought that that desire to be attracted to his wife was wrong,
and there was something wrong with him, and that was something he should just suppress.
Have you ever been told that too? That's an incredibly common misunderstanding.
You should want to be attracted to the woman you marry. You should
be attracted to the woman you marry.
Some people are afraid that that's focusing on the carnal man or the natural man.
Here, let me clear it up for you.
The natural man or the carnal man is when you give into those feelings and desires and temptations
before you're married to her.
If you wait until it's appropriate, which is marriage, well then it's not carnal at all.
As a matter of fact, as I said earlier,
it's a very sacred thing and a very sacred gift that God has given us.
So it's not that the feelings and desires are carnal. It's doing it at the inappropriate times.
So here's a good way to look at attraction. Let's say that you did
decide to settle and marry someone you are not attracted to.
That's not fair, okay? That's not fair to you, and it's not fair to her.
She deserves someone who is physically attracted
to her. Just like you deserve someone who's physically attracted to you.
And when that physical attraction is not there, um,
there are problems in the relationship. And that intimacy and that closeness,
it just, it doesn't work right because you're not attracted to each other.
So rather than settling and then having her struggle and you struggle and your children
are going to sense it as well that there's problems here, don't do that.
Instead, just skip all that heartache by finding a woman and committing to a woman
who is very physically attractive to you and attracted to you.
Attraction brings us closer together as a couple. So it's something that has to be there.
Obviously, physical attraction is not the only important thing, but it's a very important thing.
So this actually brings up a really important
question that maybe you're already thinking in the back of your head.
That's great, physical attraction. Awesome! So, how do you find the
kind of woman you are attracted to, and how do you become so attractive to her
that she wants to spend her life with you? That she falls deeply in love with you?
How exactly does that work?
You want that attraction, right?
So why can it feel so difficult to find her, to get her attention,
and make her fall in love with you?
These are the life-changing secrets I help you master in my Academy.
If you're serious about finding the sweet, gentle, good love of your life,
making her fall deeply in love with you, so you get to wake up to her gentle touch
every morning, then those secrets are the key you're missing.
To learn more about what these secrets are and how you can start mastering them
today, watch my new free masterclass.
All you have to do is go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass and
start watching. Like, it's free. You can watch it right away. I will put a link in the description
below and the link and the pinned comment. Or again, just go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass.
What you learn there is going to shock you and change your love life forever.
Are you ready for our Christian dating secret number three? This secret is that God wants
you to have a loving, tender relationship. God wants you to be married. He just does!
God wants you to be happily and completely in love.
Let's be real, sometimes it takes longer to find the love of our life than we want it to.
This can cause us to feel like a failure. It can cause us to feel like it will never happen.
And sometimes even feel like maybe God just doesn't want it to happen.
Have you been there?
As a Christian coach, this is one of the things I hear the most frequently. "Well,
maybe God just wants me to be single."
Something you need to know and never forget is that God is your loving father.
He wants you happy. He wants you happy on the highest level,
crazy in love, and He wants someone to have you as well.
As I've said several times already, He gave you those desires for a reason.
God wants his children happily married.
A loving, tender, loyal marriage is the sweetest experience we can have
on earth. And, of course, God wants that for us.
It's true that sometimes some people for certain reasons are supposed to be single. However,
that is the vast minority, okay? That is very very few people.
So the truth is it's not even worth considering and thinking about.
Instead of giving up and using that as an excuse, yes, I know a little bit of tough love,
but I love you enough to be the one to say it. Instead of giving up and using that as an excuse,
instead, focus on how you can prepare for the insane amount of love God wants to give you.
Rather than giving up, focus on preparing.
Honestly, that leads us right into our next secret. However,
I have a question before we get there.
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Okay, this Christian dating and relationship secret might be the most powerful.
This secret is that you don't have to be a victim to God's timing.
If you were being super honest with me,
would you say that sometimes you just felt like a victim to God's timing? You're just like,
"Why can't I have this happy relationship already? Like, why is it taking so long?"
Have you been there?
If you have, you're pretty normal.
So many people say, "Just wait on God, and it'll happen."
And there is some truth to that. You obviously have to
involve God in your love story. That's how it becomes the most beautiful love story ever.
Here's a good way to think about it.
Let's pretend you're in the car and you're driving down the highway.
And all of a sudden, you get a flat tire.
And so you pull over and you've got to fix this flat tire. So you sit there, and you say a prayer,
and you're like, "God, I need a new tire. Will you please just replace my flat tire?"
And you sit there, and you sit there.
Is your tire going to be changed? Well, not very likely.
Could God do it? Absolutely. He's God, of course He could do it.
However, it's much more likely that you'll get your flat tire changed
if you show your faith to God by getting out and changing the flat tire.
Of course, God is going to help us in every phase and stage of our life. But it's really
disrespectful to God to just say, "Hey, I'm just going to sit here. You take care of it."
Instead, we actually show our faith by putting in some effort. All the while, relying on Him
because He can make so much more of our efforts than we ever can.
In all honesty, one of the biggest reasons why people say, "Well, just wait on God,
and it'll happen," is because they don't actually know what else to say.
So often when we reach out to friends or family members and they tell us this it's because
they honestly don't know what else to say.
That is one reason why having a Christian dating coach
is so effective and helps you turbocharge your love life so quickly.
But isn't that exciting? You don't have to be a victim to God's timing.
God doesn't want you to feel that way.
So often it's not that God doesn't want you to have love.
It's that he knows you're not ready for it yet.
God's not going to give us a gift before we're ready for it.
So if you don't have that gift yet,
well, you need to do what you need to do to get ready; to prepare.
And if you have no idea how to do this or what that even looks like,
don't worry. I've made it incredibly simple for you. This is what I do all day every day.
I'm here to help you master these secrets incredibly quickly.
The truth is nothing makes me happier than hearing from a man who's been in my Academy
and having him say, "Holy cow, I'm getting married!"
Like, literally, I do a little happy dance I get so giddy and so excited.
And I would love to share these secrets with you too, so you can hold that sweet,
feminine, beautiful woman close every single night.
To learn more about how I can help you do this
and what those strategies are, go to coachmelannie.com/masterclass.
There's a link in the description below and a link in the pinned comment.
Okay, let's sum up these incredibly powerful Christian dating and relationship secrets.
Secret number one is that intimacy is good. Those desires are normal and natural and beautiful.
Number two, physical attraction is very important. It's not just good or okay,
it's important. It's something you need in the relationship.
Number three, God wants you happily married. He wants you to have a relationship. Far too often
we think, "Oh, maybe I'm just supposed to stay single." Don't use that as an excuse. Instead,
focus on preparing because this is what God wants. It's a gift He's always willing to give.
Secret number four is that you do not have to be a victim to God's timing. Rather than
feeling like a victim, focus instead on preparing. God will only give you the gift
if you're ready for it, so get ready for it so he can give it to you.
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