It was truly a huge relief to discover that there are other people like me in the world.
What's it like? 20) I'm a lone wolf:
I never get too close to people. 90% of the time I'm alone, and 95% of the time I prefer to be alone.
I’m that girl who goes out to lunch alone. 19) I have tactics to keep people from getting
to know me: I generally avoid eye contact and I generally tend to avoid others who
I sense are showing too much of an interest in me, if he or she is not: a family member,
or… a guy that I’m attracted to. 18) I'm obsessed with being the best.
I am a perfectionist. I have to hide the level of perfection that I strive
for so that other people don't think I'm crazy. Coming in second
place on things I care about gives me heartache. That's how I got into one
of the top Ivy League schools in the US. 17) I see patterns that other people don't. My
boyfriend is amazed at how quickly I can tell exactly what country someone is from and what
they are mixed with or who they look like. 16) I'm a creator. I create systems and concepts
meticulously. I love doing it. I spot holes in systems and attempt to develop
processes to fix those holes. 15) I dislike children. Again,
something I can't express publicly or people will look at me like I grew horns. However, I
do want kids of my own. To be fair - I don’t hate children, I just don’t find their outbursts to be
entertaining or obsess over how cute they are. 14) I'm intensely private. I am young and all my
peers have Facebook and Linkedin accounts. But I just can't do it. I feel so exposed. I had a
social media account once, but then I took it down because I felt so uncomfortable.
13) People can know me for years and never know the real me. Again,
that depends on my attraction to that person. If I am attracted to a guy, then it will still
take a long time for me to open up, but I do in fact let my walls down and show the real me.
12) I wasn’t abused. People assume that I must have gone through something traumatic
as a child. I had a very nice childhood (outside of being bullied for being quiet and different).
I grew up in an upper middle-class family. I went through a couple of ordeals, but nothing
that would explain why I think the way I do. 11) I'm practical and imaginative. I seek to create
ideas that change the world. I love art, but I’m a software developer too. Code to me is like a piece
of art and I want it to stand the test of time. 10) I philosophy a lot. I take long introspective
looks at various issues and topics and try to understand all sides before I draw
a conclusion. Even after that, I’m open to my conclusions being corrected if someone presents
a better argument in a more logical way. 9) I have feelings. But I hide them very well.
I hate small talk and tend to avoid it. However, that doesn’t mean I haven’t learned how to fake
it. If I’m in a group of people, then I will make small talk to be sociable, but generally, it
wears off pretty soon and I just want to leave. 8) I am uncomfortable around most women. Especially
the emotional ones. I hate outbursts. I love men and predominantly hang out
with them. I do have female friends, but the friends I have to be ok with,
I’m texting them about 2 to 4 times a year. 7) I'm very sarcastic and love someone with a
quick mind and someone I can debate. 6) In my relationships, I am surprisingly
playful and very loyal. 5) I've been misunderstood my
whole life. Growing up I felt different and I couldn’t explain it. After taking a mandatory
class at my job, I decided to uncover who I was and that is when I stumbled upon INTJ.
4) I can count on one hand the number of friends I have.
Do I feel alone sometimes? Yes, I do. And when I feel very alone I do get very emotional about it
and can cry about it when I am alone. But that rarely happens and I quickly bounce back.
3) I feel trapped sometimes. Sometimes a part of me wants to reach out to others, but then
another part of me does not want to open up.
2) I’m a meticulous dresser. I love fashion. I very rarely wear jeans. I’m drawn to really feminine attire and I
like to wear elaborate outfits and gowns. 1 Not all aspects of my life are meticulously
planned. I can’t comprehend why people spend days researching a product before they purchase it.
My life is fine… I’m in the process of developing a mobile app for my very own
tech startup. I have also started real estate, since I see long-term benefits in that area.