when Gary and I were talking about having kids I had this whole idea of how
my kids are gonna look like the way they're gonna behave what they're gonna
say how I'm gonna be the super father mom and I won't have to raise my voice
and we are going to travel and my kids were just gonna listen and obey and you
know my life is not gonna change at all like at all just like in the magazines
and then we had kids and I feel like the universe and people around me didn't
prepare me for this stage in my life but I've also learned with the years that no
one will ever be able to prepare you no one will ever tell you that you're gonna
pee your pants when you jump no one told me that I'll have to rearrange every
single day around my children no one told me that I'm gonna be having chicken
fingers every single meal or have their leftovers of chewed up food the day all
of a sudden decided they don't feel like swallowing these are the things I wish I
would have known you become a slave for real you become a slave you completely
rearrange your days around their activities even if you fight it in your
head and you give all this excuses and you like make it look like you're not a
slave and you are so my day really revolved around oh if they have martial
arts they have art classes there there's obviously we now have help at home so we
kind of have another person that can help us out but honestly the amount of
like rearranging that we do is mind-blowing is it necessary no but this
is 21st century parenting your weekends are gone no more weekends you know how
everyone at the office are like oh my god today is Friday I'm like oh my god
because every kid on this planet Earth have their birthdays on Saturday and
I am Saturday at 12 p.m. Saturday at 3 p.m. Saturday at 6 p.m. Saturday at 9
p.m. and then you crash and then that goes same for Sundays you break all your
rules everything you told yourself you're gonna stand by all your values
your morals your rules it all goes rushing down the toilet once
these children are there looking at you and say you can't you can resist with
food it's kind of the same thing I feel like probably three times a week
I'm deciding that you know this is what I'm gonna make for dinner and if they
don't want to eat it it's fine but then I know that when they go to sleep hungry
they're gonna be whining and then they want to snack and then they want to
cheese string and then they want to milk then they want Apple so I'm basically
breaking my own rules and I'm making them chicken fingers and then I'm ending
up eating chicken fingers six times a week so your body does things you would
have never thought a human body can do so not only you're going through this
process of carrying a child and growing a child in side of your stomach but also
all these other stuff are starting to shift and move bones are moving things
are cracking some leakage happens and then you go to this amazing experience
and this child is out there in the world and you think that's it you think it's
done my body's gonna go back to its harmonious state and then hair loss
night sweats you pee when you sneeze you pee when you jump you pee when you skip
you pee when you go down the stairs your nipples hurt they feel like they're
gonna fall out I'm not even gonna mention the obvious like stretch marks
and loose skin and just things that just never went back to the way they used to
be so for my third pregnancy with Maxie I decided to document
actual Body Transformation that I've went through it was such an amazing
experience and yes although all the things that I've mentioned are probably
not the place you want to find yourself in but you are also so so aware and
empowered by your strength and your resilience and you walk around honestly
feeling like conversations will change all of a sudden it's no longer high
valyrian how are you I'm so happy to see you it's hi Valerio how's the kids is
everyone good is everyone sick is everyone healthy where is it go where's
Ben going to school what kind of programs do they do and then it's like
you don't matter and it's fine it's fine it's not fine ask me how I am and you
think that it ends there you think that it's only the people that you see and
your friends only ask about the kids but it's also pops out at thick nights when
it's like Gary you and I really need time just alone one on one and then we
sit down we start looking at pictures of the kids and then we start talking about
what they've been doing this week did you see the letter that he showed us
today did you hear about his new friend did you see how he fold his socks today
we are so proud this sums up your life I wrote the pattern and I found this one
friend who doesn't have kids but she is a pediatric doctor so yes but we're
talking about a dinner show and then there's mom guild it's like this new
organ that you acquire once you push this baby out to the world that is just
very big and takes over everything else in your body especially your brain and
you can't help but constantly feel like you're not doing enough you're not
spending enough time with them they're not eating healthy enough there's not
organic bananas today so you suck as a mom and my victory that you might get as
a person on your own or in your career it really equates to nothing because
then you look at the time that you could have spent with the kids rather than
working or doing anything for yourself but honestly I feel like we are lucky to
there are much more conversations today about mom guilt about how we need to
start controlling it and not being so hard on ourselves I even look back at
you know my childhood my mom was a single mom and she was working and she
had a life and it was fabulous to watch it and I've never felt like I didn't
have enough of her so I'm trying to remind myself that every single day when
I do something that it is for the kids that I am portraying
to them an example of women around the world that can be whatever they want and
you know some days that great tactic works most days it doesn't but you do
what you can honestly I don't mean to scare you but I
want you to be a little scared because that will get you prepared a little bit
better you're still not gonna know what the hell you're doing but it please to
be like valaria did mention it this is the most rewarding the most important
thing I've ever done in my life yeah I wouldn't want it any other way
you guys so much for watching the video I hope I didn't scare you too much it is
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