Hi, I'm Nicholeen Peck and I teach all about parenting and self government all over the world.
And in this video, I'm talking about how the body voice deceives us.
So we have multiple different voices that we have to keep track of within us,
we have a lot of opposition going on. And one of those voices is the body voice. People pay a lot
of attention to the body voice nowadays, but the body voice can deceive us. In this video,
I'm going to share with you four ways that the body voice can deceive. If you've seen my video
about the three voices and self mastery, then you'll remember
that each person has three voices. So we have the brain voice, which we call the puppet.
We have the heart voice, which is the will of the person. And then we have the body voice.
The body voice is the voice that controls all of the feelings and cravings and sensations
that a body might have. Now, when a child is very young, the child actually is driven by the
heart voice. Many people do not recognize that. But a child does not learn to walk,
because they're thinking it through logically that they need to balance themselves on their
feet and then shift their weight and lift up one foot and take a step forward. They don't
think through any of that. Now, it is true that they have to have a little bit of body awareness.
But why is it that they really take those steps forward? It's because they're there thinking,
Mama, Mum, they want to go to their mom, that's what they're doing? Or maybe it's their dad,
they want something that's over there. Why did they roll over? Because they want some toy,
or they want to see something that's from a different angle. So why do they pick up things
with two fingers, because they want to get it to their mouth, and they're trying to figure out the
best way to do it. And so this desire, this heart voice, this will of the person is what actually
moves them forward. The brain voice is a key voice. And I talked about this in my other video,
it is the puppet and it can be controlled in multiple different ways. So the body voice can
control the puppet. The puppet will rationalize anything that the body voice tells it. So
let's say that I'm in bed in the morning and I'm sleeping and my alarm goes off. Beep, beep, beep.
What does my body voice immediately tell me? My body voices, no, not yet. Right? And then
immediately my puppet or my brain voice will say, Yeah, I didn't go to bed until late last night.
I woke up multiple times, I'm going to need more sleep in order to really do well today. So
no, I can't get up and then it will turn the alarm off or it will press snooze. That's what
your body voice does and your brain voice, how it rationalizes what the body voice
wants. So what would happen when you use the heart voice instead of the body voice?
Well, you would be sleeping in your bed, and you would hear beep, beep, beep.
And then what would happen is that beep, beep beep would trigger something. You had planned
ahead of time that when you heard that beep, beep, beep, that you would immediately sit up,
stand up, put your feet on the floor and not touch the bed again. So when you hear the beep,
beep, beep, you sit up, stand up, put your feet on the floor, look back in the bed and say no,
I will not touch you again. Because you already made a decision with your heart, with your will
the night before that you would get up when that alarm went off because you had to. Didn't matter
how tired you were in the morning, you would wake up and your brain said yep, do this. Remember,
this was the plan. So the heart prepares the brain or the puppet for success in the morning and it
controls the body. That's how the voices are supposed to work in order for us to have optimum
freedom. Okay, so when we follow the heart voice, we get freedom. But when we don't follow the heart
voice, we end up in bondage. So following this body voice can actually really hurt us. I meet
with a lot of people, children and adults all over the world and they talk to me about what's going
on in their families and in their relationships. And you know what I hear a lot of? Excuses.
Sure, they're trying to figure out why certain things are happening to them. But oftentimes they
end up getting to excuses. Well, they, you know, do this and so that makes me do this. In fact,
just the other day, I was talking with a woman who said that her husband was actually convinced
that someone makes him do certain things, that someone else's behavior or words, or, you know,
whatever it is, lack of respect makes him behave in a certain way. And I thought, but that's not
true. That's a lie. And she knew it was a lie, too. So we had a little discussion about it.
He is not wanting to listen to the heart voice, he is not wanting to acknowledge
that he actually has a choice. So instead, he is making excuses, blaming others for his behavior,
that is something that can happen because the body voice can deceive us in so many ways. So
let's talk about how the body voice can deceive us. But before we talk about the four different
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also learn when new videos come out. Alright, so let's talk about these four voices that deceive
us, they are all part of the body voice. And I want you to know, I could talk about a lot more
than four. But I'm going to talk about the four main voices that we might be contending with.
So the first voice that might deceive us, is what I call the lazy voice. Okay,
this is the voice that is just done. It's tired. It wants to give up it wants to go back to bed,
it doesn't want to handle it. Maybe the body is worn out in one way or another whether
it's emotionally, or whether it's physically in muscularly. It's just done. And just so you know,
your emotions and your chemicals are all part of the body voice, not the heart voice or the
brain voice. When the body feels like it's done, it wants to give up and it gets lazy.
This lazy voice will play guess all the time, it's always going to be giving us messages like
just don't do it. You don't have to, somebody else will, you can do it later. This is the voice of
procrastination. This voice gets us in a lot of trouble. And we often regret living listening to
it. Especially if really inside we are a driven person. We're just having a bad moment. So then
we end up beating ourselves up to because we listened to the lazy voice in the first place.
The second voice that can deceive us is the craving voice, the craving voice. So
we focus a lot on our senses when we're listening to this craving voice. Ooh,
that would taste good. Or, Oh, I really just want some of that time on the couch that downtime,
or ooh, I need more chocolate, right? I want some of that drug maybe or I want to
get on the computer or the screen. You're craving to see if somebody liked your post on Facebook or
if somebody is there to play a game for you in an online game or something like that.
This craving voice is huge. People are battling it every single day, every single day, how many
apps are dedicated to losing weight? So many you know programs are out there to suck you
in, how many social media platforms and games and stuff like that. So so many, how many new foods
do people keep coming up with what the tastes are never ending? Just when you think that surely
they've come up with every taste possible? No. And we have whole programs that show us there's
more and more and more tastes that we're not done with coming up with taste yet. In fact, people
take foods, and then they remake it into other foods that nobody's else has ever made before, they
just make it up on the spot. Oh, no, a whole new taste. Oh, now everyone wants to taste it right?
are craving voice, this voice gets us into trouble. Because lots of times we end up focusing
too much on these little teeny details right? The detail of smell, the detail of taste, the detail
of touch or how something feels, if it's scratchy or soft or something and then we crave for it
to be a certain way. And when we get hyper focused on those details. We will not hear the heart voice,
we will not our brain will be completely consumed with the details that our body is processing and
sending to the brain. So at some point we have to say but what are we to be focusing on right now?
What is going to be productive and useful? What is going to make a positive impact
for us and for the world? Right? Those are the types of things that we need to be considering.
And those are thoughts that come from the heart voice, not the body voice. The third voice that
can deceive us, which is again, remember a body voice is the offended voice or we could call it
the fight voice. Okay, so this voice is a big troublemaker. All right, something happens.
Maybe it's a feeling that we get like somebody, it didn't feel kind what somebody did. Or maybe
we feel like somebody didn't help us. We felt a need that wasn't met or something like that.
So we get a feeling in our body. And then our brain immediately rationalizes what's happening,
that feeling in the body with this thought that's offended. We have to program
the brain voice, to say, every time I get this feeling, I'm going to be offended,
we have to do that. Okay, but the puppet now is being offended. And at that point,
the puppet decides that it's a victim. And when it's a victim, it starts to fight. Now, I don't
know if you've noticed lately, but I certainly have that a lot of the messaging that's out there.
A lot of the ideological and social debates that are ongoing right now are things that lead people
to feel like victims. So I'm a victim, therefore I must fight. And this is what people are doing,
what does that do to relationships? What does that do to unity and cohesion for a society, it ruins
it, it literally tears it apart. So if you think of yourself as a victim, then you immediately have
disempowered yourself, and you have nothing left to do, but either take it or fight. So you are now
broken down if you choose to be offended, it is a choice that we make. So this particular feeling
of offense or feeling that something has happened to us, no matter what it is. And I know there's
real things that can happen, that can hurt. I know that. But even so we cannot choose to process it
from a place of offense because that will just make our body get into fight mode, and everything
will be about fight and the puppet will only be used to pull us away from other people,
to not understand other people, to judge other people put them in boxes, this is going to be
terrible for our relationships. So this offended fight voice causes lots of problems. So what is
the solution that's in the heart voice. With a heart voice is the voice that is focused on
our morals and our principles. So hopefully, the voice is going to bring us some truth.
So if I get, you know, I get a feeling like I've been hurt, you know, or not
cared for in some way. And so I'm offended, and then I start rationalizing it up here,
I might train my heart to think, wait a second, I'm getting offended. What else
could be true? And so my heart is going to send now some truth. Okay, so what might be true is
that person that offended me might not know they offended me. Or even if they offended me, I can
still choose to be okay, and be happy. Those are some truths that I could learn as principles, and
then create new thoughts and the puppet to handle my problem, so that I don't have to be stuck
fighting everybody and getting emotional. If you end up using this voice all the time, you will be
emotional. And that takes more energy than anything else you do. Being emotional takes
more energy than physically running a race. In fact, oftentimes physically running a
race actually empowers you in ways that are spiritual, emotional, get your thoughts going.
But emotional, no, you can't think it tears you down, puts you in a wrong place. I know a lot of
people experience things like stress, anxiety, frustration, perfectionism, pain, fear.
There's a lot of things that we go through as people. I mean, it's just like part of life,
right? But those types of things don't need to be our primary focus. So the fourth voice
that can really be deceiving is the hyper focus voice. So the hyper focus voice
is the voice that gets us thinking again and again and again about the same thing. The voice that
just can't seem to leave the details alone. Now, I know some people may be people who have ADHD
or something like that. They may struggle a little bit more with this hyperfocus voice
or people who have OCD. They're definitely going to struggle more with hyperfocus voice,
but I had treatment foster care for a lot of years for troubled teens, and most of the teens were not
neurotypical. So they had things like ATD ADHD, OCD, ODD, RAD, FAS, kleptomania, compulsive lying,
anger control issues, sensory issues, bipolar spectrum issues. These are all types of
processing issues that end up having a person be more anxious so they have higher levels of
anxiety and stress. And they can hyper focus more. Okay, depending on what the circumstance is for
the person. This hyper focus voice was a voice that I got to work with a lot. They came to my
home for treatment, can I just say, Well, you have anxiety? No, I couldn't just give them an excuse.
If I give them an excuse, I'm going to feed the lazy voice, and we will not get anywhere. So
instead, I would have to say, let's understand the hyper focus voice. Let's see what's going on. When
we keep thinking the same thing again and again and again. Okay and then that hyper focus voice
is something that we can tell is not truth, we can say, No, that's not true. There's something else
that might be true. And where's that going to come from? Real truths, real principles, from our heart
voice, okay. Our heart voice is gonna say you can do this, you can take one step forward, you can
decide to talk in public and say that one thing, you can make a new friend,
you can, whatever it is, you can try it, just try it, anyone can try it, you're not going to
get hurt. You have someone here to help you, you are going to be okay. And even if you do get hurt,
it's not going to be the end of the world, someone will be here to help you write, you have parents,
or in their case, foster parents, someone who's going to be there. So we were constantly telling
them the truths that they needed, in order to push off those fears and things that were coming from
the body voice with this hyper focus tendency that they happen to have. Now in our society, there are
many people who are very neurotypical, but they have learned to hyper focus, because our society
is hyper focusing on so many things. What we need to do is we need to recognize if we are hyper
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