What's going on?
Tripp Kramer here from Tripp Advice.com.
What I want to talk to you about on today's video is hypergamy.
I know this is going to attract a lot of interesting people because this is a term that is often
used in the red pill culture and the manosphere and things like that.
And I wanted to bring it attention to you and the reason why you want to learn about
this is because if you understand what hypergamy is, and we'll get to that in just a second,
but if you understand exactly what it is, it's going to help you level up in dating.
Once you understand what it is, it's going to not only help you get higher quality women,
but more importantly, this is what hypergamy is all about, it's going to get you to understand
how to keep them around.
There's a common saying in the red pill community that goes "it's just your turn."
They say "it's just your turn", meaning that a woman will ditch and leave for another guy
just like that.
And it's just your turn.
I don't think it's that intense.
But there is some truth to that.
We'll be going over that today.
You're going to learn this and you're gonna understand how to keep her around.
If you don't learn this, you don't understand how it all works, dating is going to be a
struggle for you.
You might be going through multiple partners, until you find one that's going to stick.
You have to understand how it all breaks down.
You're going to wonder why or you're going to actually learn why past relationships have
not worked out for you.
In fact, I want you to leave a comment down below after this video if what you've heard
here today is something where you're like whoa, this has happened to me.
I'm familiar with this.
What is hypergamy?
The basic definition of this is a woman is always trying to date up.
She's always trying to date up in the red pill culture.
It's this idea of she's always looking for the next best thing.
I look at it as a woman is always trying to date up and find someone who is of higher
status than them.
The idea here is she will leave you and drop you for another guy that she finds that has
a higher status than you.
I don't really think that's how relationships work.
I don't think that a woman is always seeking or just will always might run into another
guy and she realizes wow, this new guy is high status so the boyfriend I'm with, forget
him.
I'm going with this new guy because he's got more going for him.
I do believe that can absolutely happen.
If she's dating a guy who is very complacent with where he's at and not growing, not moving
forward and not being able to tap into some of these ideas that make you keep her around.
I'm going to give you some examples of what you can do in your relationship with the girls
you're with to be able to do that.
But just understand that if a woman is with you and a lot of guys do this.
They end up meeting a girl and they put on their best hat, their best game, whatever
they can do to get the girl.
They learn stuff like this on videos like these and then they get the girl and once
they get her, boom.
They stop leveling up, they stop caring, they stop putting in any work, they stop working
on attraction.
Because guys think that once you get her, once I get to this point, I got her, she's
attracted, game over.
All is well.
Now I can go back to being myself or being the "loser" that I thought I was.
Or whatever, you know.
Back to the low self-esteem guy who really is a loser and doing nothing with his life
and not putting things together.
So guys get complacent and women can get bored.
That doesn't happen 100% of the time.
There's times where women will do the same thing.
So I ask you as a guy, you should be doing the same thing here.
This is not just all about doing the things to get the girl to stay.
It's like yeah, do those things.
But also, if she's not doing those and she's acting crappy in the relationship, you should
be leaving her and going on to someone else.
Two way street with everything I'm always talking about here.
In a nutshell, a woman will stay with a man who knows how to provide her with a certain
set of emotions.
That's the reality.
A woman will stay with a man and won't leave a man or cheat on a man or go with another
man or break up with a man if he knows how to provide a certain set of emotions similar
to the ones that you provided when you first were with her.
Let's talk about initial attraction for a second.
Initial attraction works like this.
You're going to use my TED system.
I talk about this a lot in my Hooked program.
I'll give you a little breakdown right now.
TED is tension, entertainment and dominance.
A little acronym here.
Tension, basic idea is being a challenge and being flirtatious.
E entertainment, entertaining yourself, prioritizing your own fun in the interactions and that
fun and fun energy transfers over to her when she knows that you're having a good time.
And dominance, always being the one leading the interaction and being the one who's carrying
the interaction to the next level to sex to relationship, etc.
That's initial attraction stuff.
Now it's not like okay right, remember I said before you did TED and you got her, now you
don't have to do anything anymore.
Truthfully, you should always be doing that in the relationship.
You should always be challenging on things.
You should always be flirtatious with her and teasing her.
You should always be entertaining yourself, making sure you have a good time.
Here's a good example.
Imagine you're in a relationship and the girl sees you and you're depressed all the time.
You think she's gonna want to be around that?
Would you want to be around that?
No.
Unattractive.
So making sure you're... of course there's days where you have bad days and life happens.
But normally hopefully you're working on yourself and always prioritizing your own fun and having
a good time.
And D is dominance, always leading always being the one in charge of the relationship.
Saying hey babe, this is what we're doing tonight.
This is where we're going.
This is what's up.
Making sure you're always doing that.
That TED part does not end.
Here's where we get into the thick of it here.
This is the most important.
There's two unattractive traits.
I talked about the attractive traits, TED.
There's two unattractive traits that you need to learn about.
Those are neediness and predictability.
I'll say that again, neediness and predictability.
I think we all know that neediness is a very unattractive trait.
When you're needy, when you're texting her and calling her a lot and always trying to
spend time with her and being needy for her attention, unattractive.
Then there's predictability.
We get into routines, we do the same things over and over.
Boring, boredom sets in and attraction dies.
If you are being needy and predictable what happens is, you're not supplying her with
the emotions that keep her attracted and keep her in.
And guess what?
Most guys are needy.
That's probably why a lot of people who are watching and myself included, have lost relationships
in the past.
As well as being predictable.
And I can almost guarantee it that 99.9% of relationships have guys that are predictable.
Relationships get boring.
You get into the routine and it's always the same thing over and over which does not stimulate
her emotions, which makes the whole relationship boring, uninteresting and it just doesn't
work out.
This is where hypergamy comes in.
A woman is going to seek those emotions somewhere.
By the way, this happens with guys who get bored in the relationship.
All of a sudden you have a wandering eyes or looking at other girls.
You're doing other things to try to excite you because the relationship isn't.
So you got to do things in your relationship so it's not predictable.
I'm going to circle back for a second, I'm going to circle back on some of the original
definitions of hypergamy.
The idea that a woman will go for a higher status of a man.
Here's the deal.
Yes, you can play that game.
You can, you can play the looks, money, status game to try to keep a woman around.
And guess what?
It works.
It does.
It does work.
But let me tell you something.
That is a much harder game to play.
You're gonna be wasting your time because there's always going to be someone who's richer
than you.
There's always gonna be someone who has more status than you.
It's a losing game.
You enter that game and try to play that, you're already losing.
A lot of guys in the red pill community say... and then they go MGTOW which means men going
their own way.
They already say like, yeah it's a losing game yes, correct Tripp.
It is a losing game.
How are you going to compete with that?
There's always someone who's got more money, higher status, better looking than you.
However, what I'm saying to you is yes, always work on your outer qualities.
You should always be trying to succeed in your career and making more money.
You should always be working on your appearance and your grooming and your style and all those
things.
Yes, maximize that.
Maximize that to its greatest capabilities that you can.
Do your best, that does help.
What I'm saying is, let's play this other game where we're trying to supply her with
the emotions and work on your behavior aka. your inner qualities to be able to keep a
relationship healthy, attracted, around, working.
All those good things.
I want you to keep that in mind here.
Let's get into it.
How are you going to do this?
A few things.
We talked about neediness and predictability.
Those are the two unattractive traits.
How are we going to combat this?
Neediness, very simple.
You need to stay busy.
You need to be doing things in your life that keep you busy.
I'm going to give you some examples in just a second about how that works.
The basic idea of that is you need hobbies, you need things that you're interested in
doing outside of work and the relationship.
Things that you're interested in that's going to keep you busy and that's so needy for her
attention and also create distance in the relationship.
Not a lot, just a little bit, so she wants you more because you're not always going to
be available.
This works like a charm, especially if you're just starting off the dating relationship.
I want you to keep that in mind.
That's neediness.
I'll give you some examples in a sec.
Predictability.
This one's a little bit trickier, but I'm going to help you with it.
It's the idea of bringing more spontaneity and excitement and variety.
To clear that up a little, the spontaneity and the variety that you're going to be adding
into the relationship is going to help with predictability.
It will keep it more unpredictable, which will keep it more interesting which in theory
will keep her around.
Let's talk about hobbies for a second.
I pulled out my phone here.
This is pretty simple.
Just pick one.
Ideally it's best if you have three in total.
If you have a summer hobby, a winter hobby and a year round.
But that's kind of overwhelming right now.
I want you to get some results from this video.
I want you to do something here.
I want you to pick one hobby.
It can be anything.
Here's a list of ideas.
By the way, you can just type into Google "a list of hobbies" and just pick one.
Writing, photography, gardening, cooking, drawing.
Maybe learning a new skill of any sort, some sort of musical instrument.
Hiking, dance, painting, chess, calligraphy, I mean it just goes on and on.
There's a whole list of all those things that you can do.
That is going to be as simple as just picking one.
Now you're done.
You're spending time doing something else that's not keeping you needy in the beginning,
middle and hopefully not the end of a relationship.
So that's that.
Now predictability, I wrote a list of a few things that you can do here and this is beautiful.
You can implement this right away in your relationship.
This is going to help you.
You can come back to this video and once you're in a relationship (if you're not in white
one right now) and you can start doing this.
Here's what you can do.
What's predictability?
Routine, same thing over and over in a relationship.
How do you change that up?
You be unpredictable, you get things to be more of a variety.
What's one way that you can do right now to add more variety in your relationship?
Try a new sex position.
I can give you one that's specific, but really, it depends.
I think I would say for you, in your sexual relationship, what you want to do is pick
a move that you don't do that often.
A lot of guys are doing the same moves all the time.
It's very simple.
Just go into Google and find one that you don't do often.
I can't give you one specific because you might be like Tripp I do that already.
Figure out what your normal routine is.
And I know that a lot of guys have that.
You get into a sexual routine where it's the same thing over and over.
Pick one different move.
It doesn't have to be anything crazy.
I'm not talking about acrobatics or crazy things.
Just something small and different that adds a little bit more variety in the sexual relationship.
Now that's something you can do right now.
Here's something you can do every week or every couple weeks with the girl that you're
with.
Here's a great idea.
It's called red wine check in, or drink of your choice.
Red wine check in.
Basically what you do is every week, you guys sit down and you have a time where you're
just catching up.
You're just catching up.
And I know that sounds like it can be isn't that routine?
Well yes, if you're doing it every week.
But it's gonna be different every week.
You're gonna be catching up and talking about new things that are going on.
You'll be talking about the hobby that you're interested in.
You're gonna be finding out what's going on with her.
You can try a new red wine.
You can try a different drink.
You can add variety in this thing that you're doing every single week.
Another idea is a little bit of a book club that you incorporate into this red wine check.
So you guys check in, have a new glass of wine.
That's fun.
That's interesting.
It keeps things exciting.
Talk about what's going on.
Start talking about the book a little bit that you guys have been reading together.
Fiction, nonfiction, whatever.
That's something you can do every week or every other week.
Every month you can try a new restaurant.
So every month you guys pick a Saturday night, not hard.
Every month, one night out of the month on a Saturday or Wednesday, whatever's best for
you.
You guys try a new restaurant.
Shouldn't be too hard.
Doesn't have to be fancy.
Twelve new restaurants a year, shouldn't be too difficult.
That's your monthly thing to add into unpredictability.
And then every quarter, every three months, you do a trip.
Maybe it's somewhere where you guys go far and it's a long plane ride somewhere.
To Europe or wherever.
Maybe it's somewhere really close.
Megan and I, my girlfriend, we've been doing these Airbnb trips.
We'll go and rent an Airbnb.
That's like a three hour drive away somewhere different in the woods and just go there.
And it's nothing crazy, but it's fun and it's different.
So every quarter, a new trip.
All these things are going to help you here.
Imagine all the fun and newness that's entering in your relationship that's adding a variety
of emotions into the relationship.
When you're doing the weekly book club red wine check in.
You're trying new sex moves.
Every month you're trying a new restaurant.
Every quarter you're going on a trip.
It keeps things fresh and this is what keeps her around.
This is what's gonna keep you interested too.
This is a way that you're going to make things exciting in the relationship.
You're going to be off doing a hobby that's going to be fun and enjoyable to you that's
going to be separate from your relationship.
And boom, this will work.
I do this in my relationship, I've done it in past relationships.
It works very well.
Making sure that you are not needy, not being too predictable, variety of emotions and boom,
that's hypergamy.
If you want to learn more about how to get that initial attraction part down so you want
to learn more about how to attract her in the beginning and also keep things going while
you guys are in the relationship, you can go check out the Hooked program at www.getherhooked.com.
I'll put a link in the description down below.
Check that out if you want to learn the A to Z guide in terms of building attraction
with the women that you're meeting whether it's online, in person or in a relationship.
If you're still with me here, go down to the comments and write a comment and let me know
what you thought about this video, about this topic, your thoughts.
Have you ever been introduced to something like this?
Has this ever been part of something that you've experienced in any way whatsoever?
I want to hear from you.
Write it down below.
Thanks for watching and I'll see you on the next video.