let's imagine the scenario that you two were messaging each other the butterflies were dancing
their butts off and everything felt like you know what this is actually it this is going to be great
let's make this official so you get to that important part of the conversation
and initiate that you want things to be exclusive between you and the lady friend
but then the words i just don't feel the same about you hit you in the gut now depending on
how much investment you have in each other can majorly affect what steps you need to take next to
change her mind if you want to know more like and subscribe to the channel and don't move an inch
let's start off with if you guys are friends and nothing more if this is your situation listen
up closely you're both friends and you took the plunge and told her that you liked her and then
she shut it down so in this scenario you didn't actually give her any chance to fall for you
you didn't start any attraction techniques and you probably did scare her off and made her feel
a little bit awkward a lady needs to feel like you are a trusting person that you care about her and
you can share sexual chemistry together but right now you haven't built any trust and you've jumped
the gun with your feelings meaning she probably finds you a little bit creepy or worse a player
so you're probably thinking okay what do i do well let me tell you the very first thing to do
is to build up a flirty friendship your focus is to rebuild the friendship because right now
you've kind of knocked it down a couple of pegs you need her to trust you again as a friend
she needs to feel that you are a genuinely good person without trying to win her over
just so you can spend the night with her right now your job is to run those errands and do those
problem solving tasks for her listen when she's talking and find common interests to talk about
have an amazing time together that includes making her laugh and deepening the emotional bond with
open-ended questions now it doesn't stop here you need and this is a must to be a little bit flirty
so a little teasing and poking fun at her just ever so slightly will raise the stakes and get you
out of the friend zone but of course if you've built the friendship and you've created a playful
banter and she's not interested there might not be nothing more that you can do what if
you guys have already broken up maybe you two have previous history and you've had your time apart
and now you want to rekindle the relationship but sadly she is enjoying her time being single
and doesn't want anything to do with you but don't worry it is not all over providing you follow the
next steps closely now obviously you guys have history so she's more likely to get back with you
if she broke up with you and you know deep down that she does still like you she's just all up
in her emotions then time is on your side you need to initiate no contact refuse to reach out to her
and just get on with your most high value life in this time she will be thinking about you non-stop
and she needs that time to miss you so without you blowing up her phone she's gonna start thinking
wait brian hasn't contacted me for three days what is going on is he starting to move on and then she
will start to stalk your social media first to get an inkling of you moving on and if in those three
days you have posted and this is a hint a picture of say a healthy meal or hanging out with your
friends with no alcohol may i add or a group of people or you potentially standing next to a girl
in the friend group a girl that your ex doesn't know about this is going to make her reach out
maybe those previous scenarios didn't really add up to your situation perhaps you were in
a relationship and things aren't going too great relationship sparks do fizzle out but it does not
mean it's the end sometimes these moments rebuild the relationship better and stronger than before
so here are the things that you need to do you need to be confidently you that means take an
active interest in your life again pull away and focus on just you what do you like doing when you
know what it is go out there and do more of it having a high value life means that you don't
stop doing what you want just because you are in a relationship this will make your girl miss
you as she knows that all of a sudden she is no longer the center of your world when you spend two
evenings a week at your sports club or doing that hobby online with the boys do something a little
bit different let's be real clearly how you were acting in the relationship wasn't enough so you
need to do something different for the majority of those relationships that are close to breaking up
it basically means the other person has lost that spark of attraction maybe things got too routine
maybe you lost a little bit of self-respect by always saying yes and doing everything that she
asks maybe you became a little bit submissive now you need to find a way to reignite your
masculine energy in the relationship which is going to mean calling the shots and arranging
the plans and standing up for yourself it means going away and working on a project and
focusing on your career and then returning to the relationship for that closeness and breaking
away again usually though you will know what it is your other half has been complaining about
so this is your time to sit down and think ah that is what she was asking me to do now i know how
important it was i can start doing those things was it that you were never emotionally present
maybe you didn't really listen to her you always seem distracted during conversations well this
is your moment to engage fully with her but only for a small time limit so it leaves her wanting
more of this new emotionally mature version of you you need to impress her with your looks being in a
relationship with someone long term things do get stale so you want your lady to notice the newfound
glory version of yourself change your style just a little bit it doesn't have to be drastic
it could be something as simple as changing your cologne having a different hairstyle or putting
in a little bit more effort into what you wear so that she is going to really notice you because the
trick here is to not manipulate a lady to change her feelings on your demand you want her to feel
that she's changed her mind on her own accord so if you can get this attraction technique to work
well it's the perfect formula because she doesn't feel forced so regardless of what stage
of relationship you are in with your lady there are a couple of pointers that you need to stay
focused on they're very important and this is what they are don't take it personally i get it you're
feeling pretty hurt that she's turned round and told you she doesn't feel the same but let's be
honest you never truly know what the other person is feeling it could be for a series of reasons
they realized after some heavy thinking they don't want the commitment of a relationship anymore
they could have decided to work on themselves and remain single maybe to go through therapy your
closeness could have opened up an attachment wound and they realize they're not good enough right now
for a relationship or their ex came back sadly you won't get the closure that you want and your crush
doesn't have to be super honest either the best thing to do is keep your head held high and focus
on what's to come not what didn't work out and your next move could bring her back or change her
mind or maybe even reinforce her decision to not take the relationship further which leads me to do
not chase her it is vital that you remain composed in high value instead you could be super hurt in
ruminating on every detail did i do this wrong was it because i'd said this your crush could
be playing the hard to get technique she pushes you away so that you try harder we do have many
videos that go into detail about this technique so please check them out next but in a nutshell
she wants you to chase her women are engineered to chase guys so let this natural pace happen
get on with your life and let her miss you so she feels that she's going to lose out on you and she
will come running back so this means go in no contact no initiating conversations avoiding her
as much as you can that's being polite of course for example if you guys work together you just you
can probably say hi but you don't go over to her desk anymore and that's when she thinks damn i've
lost him i need to get him back avoid her social media tying in nicely with that previous tip you
need to not stalk her if you are going to go no contact and you want her to chase you you have to
remain high value she is no longer in your life because she chose it to be that way remember so
stop letting her live rent free in your head and do not check her social media she could be posting
things on there to make you jealous it could be out with a new guy or doing something that
you know she's secretly doing to hurt you so as much as you want to check save yourself the hurt
and do not check her social media accounts give her an authentic compliment you will need to time
this compliment perfectly because if she tells you that she's not interested and then you come
out with compliments it's a little bit weird and then you will definitely be friend-zoned
so you want to rebuild the friendship level first and then have that sexual attraction and then
that is the perfect time for these compliments now an authentic compliment is recognizing her
for her unique abilities if you just say hey you look really beautiful today yeah it's nice it's a
nice compliment to hear but it's not something that she's going to be thinking about all day
whereas if you can say wow you are the most intelligent person that works in this office
your presentation absolutely blew me away now this type of compliment is something
that is going to replay in the back of her mind over and over it will literally make her day so
if you can find an authentic compliment which shows that you are really in tune to her
and into her uniqueness it's going to get her to reconsider her feelings for you
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