You ever have those days or weeks or months where you just don't know where
you're going? Wait, tune in. And I'm going to show you
how to find that direction in life.
I don't know about you but I've had times in my life where literally I
didn't know where I was going. I don't know what happens to us to get really
get us into that place. You know, it's probably all different reasons. But what
do you do when you really don't have a direction in life? You know how do you
get back going again? Because even though I've made some big progress in my life,
I've still had those moments where I could felt completely lost. So, I want to
share with you what I do to get myself back on track. And this is Kirk's list.
You know if it can help you, I really do hope that it can help you like it helps
me. But I I had to create a list knowing somewhere in my life I'm going to run
into this again. And just because you have success in your life, it doesn't
mean it just stays that way for all of your life. You're probably still going to
have those moments like I've had where it's like what do I do?
So, this is what I do. Number 1, if I ever get stuck, I got to go back to
creating a wish list. What is it that I wish would happen? What does I wish would
things would be like? And so, I playfully just type out or write out really all my
wishes. And this starts my thought process to begin to move. Because if I
only write wrote down the exact things that I'd have happen and when I'm trying
to be exact, my mind could get all locked up and get
into that perfectionist thinking. Like well if I write it down, it's supposed to
happen. No. Just keep it nice and gentle and a wish list. But also keep it short
in time. What do I wish would happen this week? Or what do I wish would happen this
month? And I just write those ideas down. And they're all just ideas. I'm not
trying to make stuff happen here. I'm just trying to get my mind moving again.
Just trying to get it to move. Next, I then start to think about you know, now
it's a wish. How do I turn this into a hope? You know, the first one here is a
list. It's like a grocery list. Well, I'm going to take a couple of these and I'm
just going to type up pretty much like a half page of a hope story. You know, I
hope that this would happen and this would happen
and this one happen. And I'm taking some of these ideas, compiling them
together in literally just a half page. But I'm starting to put it in a little
bit more of a story form. Again, gently moving my mind so that it can get the
wheels turning again. You know, because stuff happens in life and it can shut us down.
Now that I have that half page hope story going on. And again, it's just
playful, it's not perfect. Probably not even spell-checked.
Probably not even grammar checked. Doesn't have to be that way. Because
we're just getting the wheels turning inside of your mind.
Then it's time to upgrade my music list. Right? You probably had some music you're
listening to that you you like and you listened to. But now, music is going to play
a more important role. Music is going to move you. Now, over the my years of
experience in life, I've had times where my music list was it's going to kind of
sound weird. But I had a music list once where it was a bunch of grumpy songs.
About songs about people who were upset about things, they didn't like what was
going on. Because that's where I was. I was in a place where I just didn't like
how things were. So, I found some music that I related to. But then I want to
keep a nice mix so I find some songs that have lyrics about getting back up
and get going. About a comeback story, about a guy who all odds were against
him and now he's starting to make it again. There's all kinds of songs out
there that can literally fit exactly where you're at. So, I like to find songs
that describe where I'm at and then I like to mix in a couple of songs that
talk about where I would like to get myself up to that next step. So, I've got
my wish list. Got my mind going. I got my half page story that I've written out.
You know, I've got a written and now I'm starting to listen to music. And let
really paying attention to lyrics. But it's very intentional music. This next
one, one of the reasons why we lose our
direction is because we don't know who were following. Sometimes we as leaders
or you as a leader, we're out front all the time. And sometimes we have people
who are listening to us or following us. And and sometimes we just don't want to
do it anymore. And then now we realize we don't have anybody that we're looking up
to. When a person loses their role model or their example out in front of them,
that actually can lose direction. So, it's time to find a hero or a role model. So,
this means I need to pick someone. Okay, who's going to be my role model? Who's
going to be my hero? And sure enough as soon as you start looking around, you start to
recognize like, "You know what? I wish I could live a life like that person?" You
know? Or I really like how so-and-so. It's really like their example. I really wish
I could be like them. So now, I've got myself a role model, I've got myself some
playful music. You know, that helps me you know, really... This is where I'm at this is
where I want to go. And I got myself a half page story of where I wish my life
was going. Now mind can start to get active. Now notice, I have not picked a
final destination yet. When you don't know where you're going and you've lost
your direction in life and you're trying to pick the exact destination, you're not
going to find it. I really believe and I have found I got to get my mind moving
before I can actually narrow in on what that direction looks like. And that's why
we have so many people really stuck in their life. They're trying to find the
absolute direction of their life to go that way. And you could be in that place.
These activities get your mind moving. And a mind that is moving can make
decisions and make choices about where you want to go next. Number 5, this can
really upgrade the experience too, is to take better care of yourself.
Maybe you've let your hair grow out. Maybe the last couple of weeks or a
couple months you just ate whatever you wanted to eat. You know how you can get
in that mode where it's like I don't care. I'm just going to eat whatever I want.
Well, it's time to make a little bit of adjustment there. Maybe it's time to take
a little bit better care of yourself about what you're eating, how you're
sleeping. You know, and get that haircut. You know get a little cleaned up. Take
care of yourself. The more you take care of yourself, you start to notice you have
respect for yourself. And that respect can move into helping you make decisions
about what direction to go in your life. So, take this one on in doing something
today to improve the way you've been taking care of yourself. And if I may
suggest, go to bed tonight one hour earlier than normal. Just one hour and
notice how you feel tomorrow morning. It's crazy how cool that is. One hour
earlier to bed tonight. Notice how it feels in the morning. It's like you can
think better. Your mind is much more clear and it's like your mind can
actually move a little bit faster. If you've gotten in the habit of staying up
late at night and watching the crazy weird shows on TV or you know you're off
doing something late, late at night. Give yourself a break.
Help your mind out by just going to bed one hour earlier tonight. You may start
to make a change about that because a little bit more sleep, sure helps the
mind in figuring out the direction to go next. So as you are looking at each one
of these activities, don't miss out on getting outside. Outside energy or
outside experiences actually help us look further and see things off in the
distance. Either a mountain range or the clouds or the Sun or even the moon and
the stars. And when we can start to be outside just a little bit more, we
actually start to feel like, "Wow, there are there are places to go. There
are people to see. There are activities to go and be part of." But usually when
you start to lose your direction and you don't know where to go, you probably
notice you've been inside way too much. So you get that caveman feeling,
right? If you live in a cave and work in a cave all the time, you start to lose
the idea that you can actually go further in life. But each one of these
activities will engage your mind and open up your mind to help begin the
wheels to turn. So what do you do with all this now that you got it all going?
Well, what will happen next... Even if you use three of these things.
What will happen next is your mind starts to move and because your mind is
moving and thinking and really starting to look at things differently than where
you were before, you're going to have more options here to choose what to move
towards. Upgrade your story as your awareness and your clarity starts to
come to you. A person who has a story that came from a wish list, you keep your
music playing because it's going to keep your thoughts moving and it's going to
keep that encouragement happening. If you have a role model and you have a story,
it engages your mind to point you in the direction you've always wanted to go. And
whenever you want, you can upgrade this story. But just keep it nice and short.
But first start out as a wish list. Something that you hope for and that you
wish for. And that will help you get back on track to having an idea of what
direction that you can go. And it's okay to adjust along the way. So, when you're
wondering you know, how to... You know, find that direction in life, be gentle at the
beginning. Do these kind of activities to get your mind moving then you'll know
what to do. Your clarity will come back. Your
confidence will come back. These are confidence building techniques because
it gets your thoughts moving, it gets your respect level back up where it
needs to be and with that confidence you'll make better decisions. So here at
3 key elements, we'd like to help people
be able to get up and get moving and find their direction in life. And be
careful not too big choose big, big things to do first because there's a lot
of momentum can happen with small steps. Use these
confidence-building techniques and notice how quickly it helps you find
that direction. So, if you'd like to learn more about how to even move beyond these
steps, come check us out at Master your Influence. We hold that class here in
Salt Lake City. We'd love to have you. It's a 3-day live event and you
would absolutely enjoy the training because it's skills that you can use for
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