So, there's a quote that says
texting is not courting.
Now, some of you might agree
some of you might disagree.
But I think we can all agree
that an over reliance on text
has made it harder for people to decipher
what they're dealing with in dating
and how someone truly feels about them.
So, I'm going to make it clearer for you
by telling you the things he will text you
if he really likes you.
My name is Stephan Labossiere
aka Stephan Speaks
back with another dating and relationship
advice video for women.
Like I said, we're going to be talking about
the things he will text you if he likes you.
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Give me some of your feedback
on things you think a guy
will text you if he likes you.
Now listen, I already know
what some of you guys are thinking.
So, just make sure you watch
to the end of video,
because I have a of course
an important message that you need to hear
to add on to this whole topic, all right.
But let's get to the fact that
yes, a lot of people are texting
and not everyone likes it
but everyone is pretty much dealing with it.
And so, I want to make it a little bit easier
for you to understand
what he's thinking what's going on.
What message his text actually sends, all right.
So, let's go over some things
that he can text you if he really likes you
or he will text you if he really likes you.
Text number one.
What's your cash app?
(Laughs)
I had to throw it in, I'm sorry.
And now, listen, this is
one of those times where
I'm joking and I'm
kind of not joking, all right.
Now, please, please, please
don't look at any man your dating
and expecting him to text you
asking you for your cash app.
But I will say that yes,
in today's world,
and maybe it's Zelle, maybe it's asking
for your Zelle, your Venmo, your cash app,
not promoting of a specific platform, just saying.
He's asking you how can I
send you some money?
And the reality is that
some men will do this, all right.
Because there is some level of higher interest.
Now again, this does not mean
that the men who do not
aren't serious about you,
don't misconstrue that.
And also it doesn't mean that
the guy who does do that
is serious about you.
It could be a sign of infatuation,
it could be a sign of
a high level of liking.
He clearly wants to impress you, all right.
No man is asking you for your cash app
unless he wants to impress you.
And it may be a moment of well,
maybe you guys were discussing some things
and something that you needed.
And he's like, okay, let me tell her
ask her what her cash app is because
I want to send us some money to show her,
I will provide for her,
I will take care of her in that way.
And so, he's trying to convey to you
that he's going to look out for you in that way.
And again,
it doesn't mean he loves you, all right.
Could it mean that... I mean,
could it be a part of
someone who loves you? Absolutely.
But it's just showing that extra light.
But let's get into a more...
I get not serious, no.
Because again, I'm kind of serious.
But let's get into a one A.
That was number one but let's go one A.
He'll ask you, do you need anything?
So, it's kind of an extension
of the whole cash app text.
In the sense that
he is trying to make himself
readily available for you, if necessary.
He's letting you know,
I have your back,
I will look out for you,
you know, I am here
to be support for you.
And I don't mind being support
in any way, shape, or form.
And that's why he says, do you need anything?
You know, let me know if you need anything.
He's showing you that he cares, all right.
So, again, a man who likes you will do that.
Now, the guy who does not like you,
who isn't serious about you,
he's not asking for your cash app,
he's sending you his cash, okay.
He's asking you for money, all right.
And he's not asking you,
do you need anything?
He's letting you know what
he needs from you all the time.
It's always about him.
But this guy again,
when men like you
they sometimes go above and beyond.
and this is one of those times.
And again, some people may say
he's just trying to show off.
But either way, he's only trying to
show off because he wants to impress you
and he sees enough value in you
to want to even try that move, all right.
The next thing a guy will text you
if he really likes you,
is a quick response.
So, here's the reality.
In today's world
and I am guilty as anyone.
Some of us take forever to respond, okay.
We are horrible with text.
And so, there's a part of me that
doesn't want to shed a bad light
on the late responders
because I know I'm one of them, right.
And I understand how
we can get real busy and sidetracked.
And I do have an explanation
for the late text, one of them.
and I'll tell you in a second
but I will say this.
When he is making sure
he responds very quickly,
that is typically a sign that he likes you.
That's typically a sign that again,
there's a level of value there.
Now, yes, some people could argue
he doesn't have anything better to do
so he has all the time in the world
to respond very fast,
while a more busy, active man
may have more delays, all right.
And let me give you one of my reasons
that I do believe would apply
to men and women out there
as to why sometimes there's a late text.
And I will say this, if you text me
or text someone a question
or something that requires a long response
or I have to process my thoughts
before I can respond.
And now, I'm dealing with so many other things,
that text is going to be put on hold
because I have to wait till I have time
not to just respond,
but to process.
However, I will say
for those listening who are late responders,
and I'm trying to work on it myself,
is if you are not available
to give a full answer,
simply acknowledge the text
and say hey, let me get back to you later
I'm a little busy right now.
That would be the best approach to take.
But again, I'm as guilty as anyone else
so I ain't judging nobody
when it comes to late response.
But getting back to the original point.
Yes, a quick response
is usually a very good sign
that he does have interest
that he does like you, all right.
The next thing on the list
of things he will text you if he likes you
is emojis with hearts.
Now, again,
I know what some of you all are thinking
so please hold your thoughts
because I'm going to address
what I know is scrambling around in your head.
I'm going to address at the end of video
but just stick with me here.
I do, I will say that again,
it's typically...
Typically, I'll say this,
when a guy does not like you,
when a guy does not
care whatsoever for you
or he's not serious or
maybe he just wants sex,
he will be more reluctant
to use the emojis that have hearts in it.
Because the heart conveys
a little bit more than just a simple
smiley face
or whatever other emojis
that people will use or the eggplant.
(Laughs)
If he's texting you with the eggplant,
I think we know where he's trying to go with that.
But when he's willing to
include hearts in the text,
that's usually a good sign of he likes you.
Now, let me also just say this
it's for my own defense.
If you DM me on Instagram,
I respond a lot of times with heart,
but that's just part of the business, all right.
So, don’t take my hearts
on the DM the wrong way.
But yes, if I'm texting a woman,
that I'm dating and I'm seeing
and I'm willing to include hearts in it,
heart eyes, and all these things,
that's at least saying I like you.
Again, this is never going to say that,
that man, he loves you or
he's 100% serious or has genuine intentions.
You know we can't always say that,
but again, I'll explain that a little bit more later.
But it's a good sign typically,
if he's willing to put hearts
and again, take that emoji game
to the next level
with the hearts included, all right.
All right, so let's keep this going.
And the next text
that he will send if he likes you,
if he really likes you,
is a text to make sure
you got home safely, all right.
So again, this will of course
have to include you actually
going on a date or seeing him, hanging out.
And then when you are leaving,
you know, he may say well, text me when you get home.
So, he may take a preemptive strike
and say, text me when you get home,
let me know you got home safely.
And others will reach out and make sure.
But either way, he's trying to show
a concern for your well being.
Again...
I know that you're saying man, there's a lot of guys
that can do all this stuff and doesn't mean anything.
We'll talk about that,
but let's just go with the fact that again,
when he's unwilling to do that at all.
And this is one of those that
it's a little tricky, because I will say
that there are men out there
who may genuinely like you
and they may not understand
the etiquette of
making sure you got home safely.
They may not understand that whole text.
Some of you might be thinking well,
that's ridiculous he's a grown man
he should know better
or he's a young guy he should know better.
Common sense ain't always so common.
People don't always understand
those little nuances.
So, it's possible that yes,
just because he doesn't text that
doesn't automatically mean
he doesn't, all right.
But I do think that typically,
it's a good sign that he is showing you
that he cares by saying
hey, let me know you're okay,
let me know you got home safely,
all those types of things.
So, basically any text that checks up
on your well being.
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All right, so next one is
a long text.
All right so, what do I mean by that?
I mean, the fact that
again, men who are
simply trying to have their fun,
who don't really like you,
who aren't trying to have any
or don't have any serious intentions with you,
they want things to be convenient.
And so, it's more likely for them
to have very short responses.
Now, again, this is another one of those things it's tricky.
Let me just make this clear.
I did this topic because
I do get asked these questions, all right.
So, I have to cover them.
But this is one of those topics
where I was a little iffy because
there's a lot of trickiness in some of this.
And again, I'll get more into that
I keep saying that I'll get more into that
at the very end of the video.
But listen, the long text
like I said one, when they're not serious,
there's typically going to be short texts,
quick one word responses.
They don't want to engage
in long text conversations.
Now again, I will be honest with you.
I'm someone who in general
doesn't care for long text conversations.
So, I know many of you can agree with me,
some of us view texting as
short convos, quick sentences, that's it.
That's the purpose of texting
as far as I'm concerned.
But I will say this.
When he is willing to send a long text
and it's typically a good sign.
When he is willing to sit there
and type out all these damn words,
just to express to you
or to respond to you,
at least he values you enough
to want to take that effort, all right.
Again, not to dismiss those who of us
who don't believe in all that.
But I do think that when we
really like someone
or when we're really into them,
we bend the rules a little bit.
And sending those long texts
or longer than usual texts
are now on the table, all right.
So, I do think that yes,
it is a good sign,
it is something that says all right,
he is willing to engage
and express and again,
type, type, type, type, type.
So, long text
another sign that he really likes you
or another text that he really likes you.
And as we continue on this list,
now we come to
the just checking on you text, all right.
So, it's kind of extension of what I said earlier
any text that checks on your well being.
So, when the guy can just
randomly text hey, just seeing
how you doing, see how your day is going.
They're texting you and they're...
They're initiating text conversation, all right.
They're trying to talk to you,
they're trying to see how things are going,
they're trying to let you know,
I'm thinking about you.
Because that's what that random text does.
It pretty much says
I'm thinking about you
and I want you to know that.
And I want to be able to
communicate with you right now.
So again, it is a good sign
that he does like you
when he's willing to do such a thing, all right.
And now it brings me to my last point.
And then again, I'll tell you
the bonus to all this.
But my last point is
a text to initiate a phone call.
So, this to me is
probably the most important thing, all right.
Because if we're serious about people,
we've got to be willing to have
phone conversations or FaceTimes
or whatever.
More intimate conversation.
And the fact of the matter is
text doesn't allow
for that to happen to the fullest extent.
And so, I think that
when he extends the offer
or wants to take things
from text to the phone
that is a very good sign.
Because again, the guy
who is not serious,
who just wants to have fun with you,
he's looking for a convenience.
And convenience is texting,
convenience is the quick stuff,
the easy stuff, anyone can do it.
When he's now willing to now
move on to phone conversation,
that is a great sign.
So, now let's get to this main point
that I wanted to make, this bonus point.
Listen, all these texts
can serve as good signs
but please, please, please, please
do not rely on just these texts
to determine what kind of guy
you have in front of you.
Or if this is going to be
a quality relationship.
It is very important
even if you're a woman
who enjoys texting
to not fall into the trap
of overly relying upon it.
You want to make sure that
you are pushing
conversation to the phone,
to face to face,
FaceTime all these things, all right.
Because you need as I just mentioned
a more intimate conversation.
And it's easier
to dive deeper into each other
through verbal communication
and by face to face
than it is by text, all right.
Texting has this
thing to it, where we naturally kind of
are restrictive and how
fully we express ourselves.
Because again, most people ain't trying to
type all of that.
But verbally it's a lot different.
So, you've got to make sure that
you make time for phone conversation.
Now, also, beyond just
the text and the conversation,
it's not just about him
doing those texts
that says if that likes you.
Please make sure that
his actions outside of texting
line up with the text.
So, my thing is if he's texting you,
how are you doing?
Let me know you got home.
Even what's your cash app, okay.
If he's texted you these things
well, how does he treats you
when he's face to face?
How does he treat you
when you are on the phone with him?
Is it consistent?
Is there a consistent flow?
Because if someone genuinely likes you,
then their actions and words
are consistent.
And they wouldn't be limited
to just sweet talking you on the text.
So, you've got to keep your eyes
open to all of it
and not fall into the trap of
well, he texts me this nice thing.
That's where women get in trouble
where the dude who's texting
10 women at the same time good morning, all right.
And you feel special
and I'm not saying
don't value the good morning text.
I'm not saying that sometimes
that text is a genuine
attempt by a man showing you he likes you.
What I'm simply saying is
if it's really genuine,
then that will show in his other actions.
That will show in the overall
relationship, dating situation.
So, you've got to be willing to look at
all of it and not get
caught up in just that.
One more thing I have to say, all right,
it's kicking my spirit,
I feel the need to express this, all right.
While you're sitting there evaluating
what he's going to text you
that means he likes you,
please make sure that you're giving them
something to work with, all right.
Please make sure you're not just
sitting back waiting for him
to text you all the time.
Waiting for him to be expressive,
waiting for him to say something sweet.
You can say something sweet too.
You can say hey, I would love to hear your voice,
you can say hey, I would love to see you.
You can say these different things
that make him feel appreciated.
Hell, you can text him a good morning,
you can text him to have a blessed day,
have an amazing day,
I hope everything's going great for you.
You can text him sweet things that say
I'm thinking about you.
So, don't just make it about
him and his actions.
Also, look at what you can be doing
and the goal hopefully is for
two people to be texting each other
loving, sweet things
that show that they both like each other
are serious, are genuine,
and can have a successful relationship.
Okay, one more thing.
I know, I said one more but one more again, all right.
Just follow me here.
So, as much as we acknowledge that
yes, there are some men
who could do all of these things
and it doesn't mean they're serious about you.
And that's why it's important
for you to evaluate
the overall relationship,
overall behaviour, all right,
and his overall actions.
I also just want to give you
a quick reminder to not
come into it with
skepticism in the moment.
And what I mean by that is
when he may text you that good morning
or when he may text you that nice thing.
In that moment
don't jump to the negative.
Don't assume oh, he's just being a player.
Oh, he's just texting every girl this.
I'm just one of many.
Like, don't think negative in the moment,
I don't want you to become blind
to the text
and the sweet things he may say in there.
But I don't also want you
to go about it in a negative approach
because that will then stifle your ability
to pour back into the situation
in case it actually is genuine, all right.
And again, you don't need to
over analyze his text
to determine how serious he is,
you need to keep your eye on the full picture, all right.
And what he's doing overall
and the consistency
of his words and his behaviors.
So, again, I just felt like I had to
give you that quick reminder because
some of you all might watch this video
and now, somebody might be texting you right now
and you're looking at it funny right now
you're giving the side eye.
Don't do that, don't do that.
Still embrace it,
embrace it as a positive thing.
But yes, keep your eyes open.
Hey, thank you for watching this video.
Be sure to check this one out right here
and I'll see you there.
There will be men who want you
but more importantly is for you to
receive the man who values you.
And when he's emotionally attracted to you,
that value will be there.
So, I'm going to lay out for you the seven signs
that he's emotionally attracted to you.