the risks of relapse welcome back I'm Dr Trish Lee in this video let's talk about the risk of relapse
here's what we're going to talk about number one early versus late relapse how they're different
number two is the schedule of reinforcement in your porn brain rewire journey is important
I'm going to talk about that and how that can put you at risk when you slip or relapse number three
we're going to talk about how this opens the door for the hijacker and what you can do about it to
get back on track okay number one let's break it down early versus late relapse so if you're
early in your porn brain rewire Journey relapse is part for most people it's part of the journey it's
prior for the course and I often use the analogy that if you're on a pathway and you it's a new
pathway and it's filled with rocks right it's filled with challenges it's filled with pitfalls
there there might be a rock here there might be a little hole here so when you're on this this
path for the first time it takes a little while to get your footing a while back the hubs and I went
to Grandfather Mountain in North Carolina it's absolutely beautiful there but we hiked a trail
and it was unexpectedly much more difficult than I thought it would be I'm like hike hike to me
is like another word for walk it was not though it was very up and down and over rocks and into caves
and across Rivers so at first I'm like yo I don't know if I'm up for this because I thought I was
going on a walk it ended up being awesome once I figured it out and I was wearing the totally wrong
clothing and Footwear but at the same time it was amazing because it did give my mind and my body
a challenge but I had to get my footing at the beginning of the journey I stumbled a couple times
and I didn't know if I was up for it but once I committed I had a blast and I was super successful
at the end of this path there was a rope where you climb up the side of this huge Rock on the side of
the mountain and you could sit there and look out at the most gorgeous North Carolina Mountain View
totally worth the effort of the journey but at the beginning I fell a couple times and that is
to be expected this is new terrain but then I figured it out and of course I should have had
the right tools techniques and proper gear to make it easier but even though I didn't I still
figured it out so when you get into a program and you have the tools and techniques if you
stumble a little at the beginning then that's to be expected but with every Pitfall and with every
uh you know ankle twist there has to come learning it's learn or win there is no win or lose in this
porn brain rewire Journey either you figure out why you're relapsing or having slips so you can
move forward in a new way or you win you don't slip or relapse at all so this is the difference
early relapse maybe you're figuring yourself out if you're years into this journey and let's
say you're using my videos on YouTube there's 500 plus videos on my YouTube channel if you're using
them but you're not being successful it's because you need more support not because it doesn't work
it means you need the proper tools and techniques strategies in a comprehensive program with people
to hold you accountable and to move you forward so if you keep slipping and relapsing it means
you are not learning along this journey it's time to learn so a late relapse tells you
you're not prepared you need more help that's what it tells you not that you can't do it
okay so let's move on to number two is why is this so important now we know from behaviorism
if you know about behaviorism uh Skinner kind of introduced it to the world behaviorism is a
way that's proven to change your behaviors I use it in my 90-day program to help you but basically
what it says is that there has to be enough positive reinforcement for you to change your
behavior that's why I'm always telling you to celebrate the small wins that's why I'm always
telling you to extend Grace to yourself while you're learning but you have to win enough to
keep moving forward if you keep quote unquote losing that becomes through slips and relapses
just to be clear if you keep slipping and relapsing it becomes you know degrading and
devaluing you feel like you can't do it because you don't have enough positive reinforcement
so number three what does that tell the hijacker that tells the hijacker that he can move back in
he can push your action into the passenger seat because you don't have your hands on the wheel
if you keep slipping and relapsing it opens the door for the hijacker and you might hear his
voice telling you you can't do this you'll never be able to do it just give up you're so old I
heard this from somebody who's 59 you're sold it doesn't matter anymore 59 you got 40 years left
you're 60 not dead yes you can do it I know it's challenging but all of those things that
you hear that's not you that's the hijacker when the hijacker tells you just to watch because it's
Friday and it's no big deal you'll get back on the horse tomorrow hijacker baby he's trying to move
back in do not let him you are stronger than you know and you can do this you have to set yourself
up for Success that comes from the positive reinforcement schedule that's why relapse is risky
you can relapse a couple times at the beginning but if you keep relapsing you're just bound to
slide backwards on the journey on the path that's why I program and accountability is so important
so go to my website Dr trishly.com check out the 90-day program it's affordable accessible
and Anonymous just like porn get in spend your time energy and money in an upward
spiral not a downward spiral that brings you back to the hijacker okay I want this for you
so join me in the program and as always control your brain or it'll control you