In life and the bumper cars, we go through and we run into each other and
we have experiences. Well sooner or later you're going to get hurt. So how do you
forgive someone who hurt you? I've got 3 really important steps that's
going to help you recover.
Just being alive and being on this planet, you're going to bump into people and
sooner or later, because we bump into people. We're going to get hurt. It's like
we're all in a big bumper car experience. And somewhere along the way, somebody's
going to run into the side of you emotionally, mentally, verbally, physically
and you're going to get hurt. If you've been hurt, you are not alone and it does not
make you a bad person. But you've been hurt. And the reason why you clicked on
this video is because you're looking for some insight of how do you forgive a
person who's hurt you. How do you do this? A big theme that I'm sharing in my last
videos here that I've been creating for you is about the understanding that
emotions don't have a timeline. Emotions. once we've been hurt and that hurt is
inside of us. it could have been from 2 3 years ago, 10 years ago. And that
hurt is still inside. It says though what happened literally today or yesterday.
And it's really difficult to get rid of that hurt. But if you do know some
insight about how this works and how the body works, you can make some progress.
Now, I've been hurt by people. You know, I haven't had anybody beat me up
physically or hurt me physically. But Wow, mentally and emotionally and verbally,
I've had my fair share of abuse from others. And so how did I forgive them?
You know, how did I forgive them and let go and move on? Wow, it takes some really
good focus on some very specific techniques to be able to make that
healing process happen. But I want to share with you just a couple things here
that I know can help you right now that will make a big difference. First is
to recognize that as you have been hurt in whatever form it's happened, it is
affecting your whole entire body. When we carry hurt inside of us, it can bring
down the whole system. So, when you feel like you feel it all over your body and
you're wondering, "Could this really be happening this way?" Yeah, I can. Because
even if it's a somebody verbally has hurt you and and it's you know it's in
your head and you kind of feel it on the inside, it literally will move out
throughout your whole entire body. And so your whole body can experience it. So you
overcoming this and moving through this in healing from this is getting to
literally help your whole entire body. And when I say your whole body, I'm
talking every finger, every toe, every organ, every cell and every DNA strand in
your body. So what does this tell us. If we hurt somebody else, we're not just
temporarily causing them discomfort it literally gets down to a DNA level. So, we
can learn from what other people have done to us that it's not nice. And we
need to do everything we can to be nice and to the people around us. But let's
talk about how to recover from this. And the best thing I can do. The best thing I
can do is share with you what I did. And what I do to be able to get through this.
Because I'm still in this life and I still get hurt. I'm not a... You know, a
hardened man you know made out of titanium and and people can just beat me
up and it doesn't affect me. I'm pretty tender.
I'm not going to be shy to say. I'm pretty tender. I get hurt pretty easily. I
need to know these skills and these techniques or the hurt takes me over and
and it can take me down. So, if you're feeling it all over, that's very normal.
Now, when it does move throughout your whole body, there are things you can do
to literally help your whole entire body. The first step to recovery for me when
I'm hurt is I need to express myself. Maybe the person isn't available for you
to express yourself to them and maybe the conditions just would
ever be right for you to go to that person and tell them how you feel and
what you're thinking. So I use an expression technique that helps me have
an outlet for the hurt that's inside me. Now, notice what I just said I have an
outlet. That means the hurt that's inside can come out. And it can literally drain
out of me. Just like if we had a barrel full of water. And we opened up a opening
in the side of the barrel. That now becomes an outlet. And all the water
that's inside the barrel can now leave the barrel. So what I look for is where I
can open myself up, create an outlet so I can drain out the hurt. Emotion can
sometimes be classified as a watery substance. And emotion can flood into us.
An emotion can be so deep. And emotion can come into us in a warm temperature
and also into a cold temperature. So, if you notice how people talk about emotion,
they literally use language that they actually would be describing water. So,
when I use the concept of a barrel with an opening with an outlet to be able to
drain, this is real. So I look for an outlet to let it out. So, I use an
expression technique of writing. I sit down to my computer. I open up a brand
new document and I just start typing. And I have permission to say whatever I want
to say in whatever form I want to say it in. And I open up that part and I let it
out. And now, imagine. If you have a 50 gallon barrel and you open up
and opening to allow that to come out, the first water that comes out comes out
rushing. So when I start typing, it comes rushing out. But just like a barrel, as
the water goes down, the pressure and quantity of the water coming out gets
less and less and less. But at the beginning it's in a large forceful
amount of pressure. And you're going to feel the same thing. When you go to open up to
express it's going to come out in a big forceful way. And there's me a lot of
thoughts and feelings come to you. And you just type as fast as you can type.
And if your start thinking like, "Oh, my gosh. This is never going to stop." Just
remind yourself 50 gallon barrel, drains and the pressure goes down until
it finally ends up with a couple drips at the end and you can drain. You can let
it all out. So I use this expression technique to literally drain. Because how
am I going to recover when I'm still filled in with hurt? Now, if typing is not
your way, the other way to go about doing this is you walk and talk. Get outside, go
for a walk by yourself and start talking. And start complaining. And I know that we
are taught not to complain. But in this moment, it is time to complain and to
tell everything you don't agree with of what happened. Why did they hurt you, why
did they do this? What were they thinking And you just unload. And at first, you
might not have enough speed to keep up with everything you want to say. But you
just keep talking. Either right or you walk and talk. But remember, you're
opening up and you're creating that opening so that you can drain. And just
remember, as it goes down, it gets less and less and less.
Next, after you've been doing the expression technique, it's time to
nurture. And what nurture means, it means your body needs some help.
Because that hurt has got into your DNA and it's gotten into your cells of your
body. And it's gotten into the very tissue fibers in your muscles and your
tendons and your organs. And hurt can actually get into your bloodstream. As
it seeps into who you are. You need help to get it out. So, what I do for my
nurturing is I get massages. And this isn't that, you know, stick your elbow in
my back kind of massage. It's a very healing nurturing massage. And if it's
just freaky for somebody to massage you. Get your feet massaged. Get your neck
massage. But if you could have your hands, your neck and your feet massaged, that
would help you because that is your extremities. Here's your neck that's
supporting your head. Your feet which is down at the bottom. And your hands which
are out here at the end of your arms. Massage the outer edges of who you are
so that can help you detox and you will start working out the hurt that's inside
your muscle tissues, inside your blood, inside your organs and just start
working it out in some form. Second part when it comes to nurturing. I soaked. It
sounds weird but I soak in a tub of water.
Nice, nice, nice warm tub of water. And I put a whole bunch of Epsom salt in there.
Epson salt pulls toxins out of your body. And as it's pulling toxins, it's pulling
out the hurt so you nurture. Get a massage and whatever form you can that's
healing and helpful to work out that in your body. Second part, you can soak. You
can stand in the shower and just let the hot water run across you. And just
pretend like it's just literally rinsing you off of all the hurt. Third part about
nurturing. I go outside. And I sit outside amongst the trees. I go sit where there's
grass and trees and get away from all the business of life. I just go sit. And
being in nature. Nature already has a natural process of pulling out of you
that hurt. Nature doesn't have hurt in it. Nature has love in it. When I go sit
in nature, it literally draws out of me the hurt.
And this is just nice, calm, peaceful experiences in nature.
So, after nurture, the third step is lessons learned. Now, when we have
something bad happen to us, we tend to think that has made us fall behind in
life. But when we really think about this in a bigger way and a higher level way,
everything that happens to us teaches us. Part of the healing process of forgiving
someone for who hurt you is to find what have you learned during this experience.
What have you learned through expressing? What do you learn through nurturing? What
have you learned through how they treated you and how you're going to treat
other people. There are lessons to be learned. And when you're still in that
intense hurt spot, it doesn't seem like there's any value from this at all.
Because you're the ones paying the price. You're the one losing from the
experience. But after you do these 2, you're going to change. You're going to be
different. You're going to be on your road to healing and recovery. And as you're on
the road to healing and recovery now, you're going to start looking at things in
a different way. But to finish off the experience of forgiving this person and
being able to recover from this, if you were to look for a few lessons learned,
to gain some value from it. You'll find that you can let go. You can let go and
finally completely forgive that person. Because you're realizing, "Okay. Whatever
happened... Yes, it seemed like it damaged me. Yes,, it seemed like it set me back. But
wait a second, I'm doing okay now. And wait a second,
I just learned some things. And wait a second, I actually feel like I can do
better in life." Every experience we experience in this life has value. And
after you're on the road to recovery and healing, take a look at number 3 and
see if you can find some lessons learned. Maybe of things to never do again or
situations never to put yourself in. But whatever and
however you find these lessons learned, you now will find yourself healing at
that last level. And you know, even when you go through life, something else might
happen and you get hurt again. And I know it sounds crazy. But I'm actually getting
really good at this. I'm really getting good at my recovery plan after getting
hurt. And I know it seems strange like, "No, you got to make this all go away." I love
people. And sometimes people do things that just hurt. But at least now you know
what to do. And just so you know, you're not alone. You're not alone.
But take step 1 and start taking some action. Because you're worth it. And
whatever they did to you, if they truly understood themselves better and
understood you, they would never hurt you. Just know that healing is always
available. And your body is really good at healing. It just needs a little bit of
jumpstart and a little bit of help. And you can heal from it too. Thank you for
watching and thank you for paying attention all the way to the end. These
3 steps have just been something that's incredibly been a major, major
blessing in my life and it benefits me to know how to help me recover from
these moments when you get hurt. Please take action on it it's really going to
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get inside your own thoughts and really help those heal too. Sometimes we pick up
negative comments and negative thoughts about ourselves when these things happen.
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