﻿The Biggest Problem Men Face In 2022 [0:00:00]
Make sure to stick around for the end of the video because the last problem I’m going to talk about
is one that I think really flies under the radar and has become
a big issue for guys in the future. According to Red_Trapezoid the biggest
problem that men face, loneliness. In fact, he said that expanding on loneliness
not remembering or knowing how to connect with other people.
So many men have no idea how to be friends with anyone anymore. Expanding on this,
you had one gentleman say, “This is me. After college, all my friends moved away. Then,
COVID hits, my job is remote. I’m no longer even hanging out with co-workers.”
He goes on to say that he was cooped up in his apartment for over a year and he forgot
how to socialize and meet people. Sadly, this guy says he feels unwanted, lonely, and purposeless.
And one guy summed it up by saying, “Man, if my girlfriend broke up with me,
I’m scared to think how lonely I’m going to be.” Now, I did see a lot of guys chiming in with
great advice on how to basically break out of this rut, how to get out of this cycle.
One gentleman made a really good point about joining clubs, but make sure that you participate
them in earnest. I can agree with this. If you do something half-assed, yeah, you joined the club,
but you don’t show up to the meetings, of course, you’re not going to meet people.
He also expanded on the fact you got to put forth the effort. You need to sometimes be the first
person to reach out, sometimes a couple of times. Wish people Happy Thanksgiving, know when their
birthdays are, have this in your phone. Be the guy that’s wishing everyone a happy birthday. Some of
it is going to come back to you. [Music]
Now, personally, I had a three-year period in which I was pretty lonely. Right after graduating
college, I joined the marines, but I didn’t really know the other lieutenants very well
didn’t have a whole lot in common. What I found worked for me is going
back to school. I actually took just random courses at the local college,
University of West Florida. I took a Buddhism course and I took a Women’s Studies course.
Seriously, I took a course on feminism. Two reasons why. One, I didn’t know a whole lot
about this one. I have pretty conservative value. You know what? I’m going to go in
with an open mind and learn something new. And I also figured and it was true in both
of those classes that 80% to 90% of the people in those classes would be women.
Now, gents, I’m not going to go into a lot of detail about my exploits that semester,
but let’s just say it was like shooting fish in a barrel. People were interested, who is this guy,
why is he taking this course. And it was actually a really good time.
And for me, it was just eye-opening. It was interesting to learn more about something that I
don’t necessarily agree with when it comes to the feminism. It’s something that I still use to this
day understanding Buddhism and meditation. But, guys, that for me is how I overcame
loneliness, I put myself in a situation to be around people and we just started talking.
The reality is, gents, men face a lot of issues. Over 70% of the homeless population,
men. About 80% of suicides are men. About 80% of murder victims are men.
And men make up 92% of workplace fatalities. And, of course, the prison system, almost 95% men.
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that guys face, dealing with trauma and having no one to support you.
Seriously, this part was really sad reading through the comments and just seeing
again and again story after story guy has an issue. He’s been abused, he’s been beaten,
something has just happened in this guy’s life and he goes to other guys and they say, “Yeah,
man up.” Worse, he goes to certain women in his life and they perceived him as being weak.
In fact, one gentleman wrote, “A lot of young men are traumatized by violence, harassment,
neglect, and [beeping sound] that there’s no one to help them out with. They’ve been
shattered to pieces and they just carry these wounds inside themselves year in year out.”
[0:04:55] Now, the ray of hope I saw with this one is a lot
of guys were saying, “Hey, it’s just great to talk to other guys. Have your guy friends.” And I agree
with this. It’s some things I just don’t discuss with the woman in my life. It’s just something
they don’t get, they don’t understand. So, I work hard to maintain a close
group of guys that I can call that will pick up. And, yeah, sometimes it feels like the
conversation is going one way because they seem to unload on me. But, the times I’ve needed them,
they’ve been there and it’s just – Guys, let us know in the comments,
do you have somebody another guy that you can call that you can engage with? I’d love to
hear from you guys and to know that you guys have something like this. And if you don’t,
maybe you’ve got some tips on how guys can deal with trauma. And for me, I just find being able
to talk with another guy really helps. Next up, we’ve got mental health neglect.
And one guy said it like this, “Men are human. They’re just as emotional as women
and they need help with mental health issues.” Now, personally this one is hard for me to accept
because I grew up in an area in which you didn’t ever talk about mental health issues. It was more
of a machismo, you kind of keep this in. You are a man’s man. You just don’t talk about this stuff.
But, there was one comment in particular I thought was interesting, it talked about
firefighters having all these issues. And you think about people in that line of work,
police officers, people that are around just dealing with trauma all the time.
They talk about how this firefighter basically did not get his needs met and ended up divorcing
his wife because of just information getting passed around what he thought
was going on. And it really was playing on him. And this guy is saying, “Hey, yeah, we even have
a division within the fire department, we try to deal with this, but it’s so difficult because
these tough guys these firefighters they do not want to let their guards down ever.”
And this comment right here really hit home, men and mental health,
most people view this as a joke. So, what’s the answer here? Well, gents, I don’t
have it. I am happy to see though that mental health and men talking about this is becoming
more common. I know I’ve worked with sponsors in the past they’ve talked about this. But,
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Next up, we have no sense of purpose or identity. We threw out the old gender models,
but we didn’t put anything in their place. These young men have no sense of who they
are or what their place in society is. Now, I’m not going to get into this point
about gender models here, but I am going to say that this is something I see with a
lot of young people is trying to figure things out and get it to make sense.
It used to be we gave a pat, we gave a direction and that made it really easy. As we’ve become I
think a more open information society, the most difficult thing people are wrestling with is how
to make up their own mind, how to make decisions. And if you don’t have a compass, for many people,
it is their religion, other people, it’s a strong family that actually has certain values that they
make clear. But, if you don’t have that, I can see how it’s very difficult for so many people
to be out on the ocean listless just feeling like they’re getting taken with the waves.
So, what’s the answer here? Well, this is a pretty big philosophical one, but for me,
I ascribe to the belief that life has purpose because we give it purpose.
And, you know, I go back with meditations and some of the old, you know, timeless wisdom out there.
There are tons of recent books on this, I think that have done a great job
talking about these points and going into detail. But this is something that you’ve got to find it
for yourself. You are not going to get purpose for your life handed to you on a platter.
Next up on this list, the inability to easily find romantic and platonic companionship. Now,
a few weeks ago, I put a video out talking about relationships. A lot of you guys give me a bunch
of crap about this saying I’m out of touch, so, yes, I am going back and doing my research.
I’m trying to see, okay, is there something that I missed. But, I’m still going to say when it comes
to relationships, one of the most important things the easiest things how to be able to find it is to
improve the relationship you have with yourself. Work on self-improvement. Look at the areas,
become the person that you would actually want to date. Well, you know, not fully, but you guys
get the point. Become a better person and you’re going to find that people will want to be around
you and you’re going to be all of a sudden have more relationship opportunities coming your way.
And, guys, I know that’s general, so if you’ve got a specific story about
maybe in the last couple of years how you made some great relationships whether it’s a platonic
relationship, whether it’s romantic relationship. Again, I love hearing those stories
down in the comments. And whoever put some of those great stories in, I’m going to make sure
to get you guys out a challenge coin. Yes, a beautiful Real Men Real Style challenge coin
for helping me make this community even better. Now, this next problem seems to fly under the
radar and I’m going to talk about why here in a second, but I think that this one is
going to become a big issue here in the future and that is more and more men are not going to
college and not going on to higher education getting a master’s getting a PhD. Why is this?
If we go back and historically look, the school in general the way it’s been organized for the last
hundred years seems to be more geared towards women. Men in general, yeah, we just don’t want
to sit the learning process, but just because more men are going to school, we just simply saw
a large number of men continuing to graduate. [0:10:00]
But, if you look at the numbers now, more women are in college, more women are graduating and
slowly we’re starting to see that it’s becoming a place which a lot of men
do not feel welcome in higher education. Now, a lot of people say that, well,
that’s not a bad thing that more women going to school and that’s why I think this flies
under the radar. I have no problem with more women going to college. That’s great. But,
not at the expense of not supporting men, not excluding men trying to purposely actually
set up a system that is hostile to men. I don’t know. Maybe I’m over thinking this.
Agree? Disagree? You guys know what to do. Let me hear your thoughts in the comments below.
All right, gents. So, what video to watch next? How about ten essential
grooming tools that every guy needs to own? Seriously, if you don’t own these tools,
what is up? Find out what they are, guys, in this video right here. I’ll link to it down in the
comments below. I’m sorry, the description. I’ll probably link to it in the comments as well. So,
guys, go check it out, it’s a good video, yeah. [0:10:55] End of audio