Uncle C, back in the office and in this video today we're going to be discussing the three
Cheat Codes any man can use to get over nice guy syndrome. throughout this entire presentation,
not only am I going to be explaining to you directly, why consistently being the nice
guy is going to harm you, in the long run not only harm your spirit, your morale, your
masculinity, but it's also going to harm your effectiveness in attracting a quality woman,
a companion, speaking your mind when you feel as if you have something to say, and everything
in anything in between. So the whole premise of this is number one, to get you to start
to speak your mind in a way that is not only authentic, but also communicates effectively
to each and every single person that you're with. The second thing we're going to be covering
is specifically why you must be tough in certain areas. And last but not least, why it's important
to do what scares you. Let's dive in.
Now, let's get into number one, the importance of speaking your mind. First and foremost,
this is the first way to start to beat nice guy syndrome. You speak your mind when you
have something to say, you don't suffocate it, you don't repress it, you let it loose,
you let it out. And here's what this does. First and foremost, I want to show you one
of the men that is inside my relationship blueprint mastery. What he said was my mother
in law blames me for everything. Right, she wants to blame me so bad for everything, and
she's making up stories in her head, or at least majority distorting things. I want to
tell her to mind her own effing business. And what she's doing is hurting our children.
So he asked what to do well, first off, every single time he wants to tell her that but
he suffocates it, that since that's him submitting to his own thoughts, that is weak behavior,
what you must do is you must start to speak your mind. And here's why most nice guys are
liars. You see what they have is they have this conception in their head, they have they
have they're predisposed to think that if they're nice. If they're low on the scale
of offensiveness, what's going to happen is more people are going to like them, when in
actuality, they're a total liar. They put on a smile when they actually hate the person,
they put on a smile when that other person's wronged them. And just in that case that I
just showed you. He goes with the flow, he acts cordial, he does things that he thinks
will get the mother in law's approval, when in actuality he wants to go Hey, EFF off.
And what that makes him Is it makes him a liar. Because each and every day, he's suffocating
what he actually wants to say he's lying to himself. Which leads me to my next point,
most nice guys are manipulative. You see, if you're honest, you're upfront and you're
authentic, with what you have to say. At least you're honest, if you censor that if you put
a buffer in between your mind and what you actually want to say you're now actually manipulating
the other person to get a specific outcome, whether that outcome is positive or negative.
The fact of the matter is you're bending the situation to not only go with the flow, but
to ensure that you don't reap any sort of negative behavior or backlash from that other
person. Which leads me to my next point, most nice guys are fake. If you live in this fake
cookie cutter fantasy, if you live in this fake Pillsbury Doughboy fantasy that you can
just pick at, right, you're soft, you're malleable, depending on your surroundings, you're bending
to that instead of the surroundings bending to you. This is when you start to take on
more of a depressed negative attitude. This is weak masculinity, this is weak in your
character. And this is ultimately weak behavior. Now, nice because they have to be, which is
going to bleed into point number two, you see they have not developed themselves in
the right areas to become tough, so that way they can potentially deal with the backlash.
So what do I want to conclude point number one, I want to conclude point number one by
telling you to tell the truth. No matter how negative The truth is, no matter how scary
the truth may be, what is true remains true. And anything other than that is automatically
a lie. Now you have to live with this mindset. If the man in front of you is twice your size,
if the woman in front of you is a three or if the woman in front of you is a 10. You
see this is how you lead with congruent authentic behavior. You don't bend and break to your
surroundings, the surroundings get to bend and break to potentially the way you're going
to move it or at least attempt to. This is how you gain strength within yourself. And
this goes so much deeper than just speaking. In order to do this, you're going to have
to get tough. Point number two get tough. k tough on every way, shape and form. If you
look in the mirror and you don't necessarily like what you see, go to the gym. If you're
high in body fat and you look You look malleable, you look weak,
then read a book or two on nutrition and learn how to dial down those body fat levels. Or
you can even go back into my channel, you can watch the first 250 videos I've ever created.
All of those videos are specifically step by step on guided nutrition, to help you master
your body, you have to do whatever is going to make you tough, maybe that's going to be
standing up to a bully verbally, right, maybe that's going to be standing up to your mom
or to your dad, or even telling somebody that, hey, I don't want to do something. Regardless,
you have to get tough. And oftentimes, the best way to get tough is by looking the part
being the part and feeling the part, which means it's going to actually take some work.
Typically, most men who refuse to speak their mind, it's because they're weak on the interior.
But oftentimes, if they're weak on the interior, it's because they have not done any work,
they have not actually made themselves a man of value on the exterior, everything goes
hand in hand, the body carries the mind and the mind carries the body, which is why both
have to be congruent. So I want to come up with this first and foremost, nice is just
a weakness. Right, it's a lack there of a lack there of grit, a lack there of doing
the work, or lack thereof, propelling yourself forward in ways that you know, will make you
a tougher individual. So do the work. Because you have to be fundamentally strong on every
area that stems from the body that stems from the mind that stems from the spirit.
Right, that stems from the rationale. So that way you can look somebody's dead in the eyes,
when they cross you when they're evil to you when they're malevolent. Or when somebody
has just done you wrong in any way, shape, or form. And you need to verbally stand up
for yourself. This is so key. And make no mistake, as you do this, you're now going
to risk offending. But guess what, what is unexpected is still attractive. Think about
that for a second, if you say something even to a woman you're interested in, and it catches
her totally off guard. Right? It's maybe not necessarily what 99% of men would do. Even
though it's unexpected, there's a very high likelihood that it's still attractive. And
because you were willing to do things in a socially calibrated order that still lets
you display some sort of strength or calibration within yourself, that's going to be attractive
on a universal level. Okay, that's when men actually listen to what you have to say. And
that's when women actually genuinely want to be by you and with you, their safety and
security and a man that's willing to go to those lengths no matter what anybody thinks.
And that's just the fact. So number three, you must serve doing what actually scares
you. And I explained this as a slow desensitization, okay, for a lot of men, it might be even really,
really scary to walk up to a stranger in the mall and say, Hey, can I get directions to
Xyz store? That might be a hard thing for them to do, do it anyways. Because if even
that's tough for you, you got to understand how many other things in life are going to
be hard. And you have to understand that it's supposed to be tough to survive. See, this
is the issue right now is we live in a place that's so easy to survive, and never before
has it been this easy. When you have housing, you have heating, you have cooling, you have
a fridge, you have grocery store, you have way to just sign a few papers and get a job
and get some income and you have a way to just live and have a lifestyle, you have to
understand how easy it is never before in time is it this easy to live. Living is supposed
to be tough. You got to understand that day to day for hundreds, even 1000s of years,
like the aspect of survival was not necessarily guaranteed each day. And it's still like that,
but it's integrating into your spirit and your morale, which means you need a slow dense
desensitization of things that scare you. And obviously, these have to be things that
are legal things that aren't going to get you into trouble. But do what scares you.
And what this is doing is this is you and your body, you and your mind taking a manageable
risk. Like hey, guess what, maybe it's too big of a risk for me right now. And I'm too
fearful to go bungee jumping. But what I can do is I can attempt to do a front flip on
this trampoline and just know what it's like to be in the air for a few seconds. That's
how you manage risk. And day by day, week by week, month by month, that risk gets just
a little bit less and less and less to the point that you actually now come from a standpoint
of strength. So what am I getting at at the bottom, you must understand that women value
safety, so you must be strong. But safety does not necessarily mean that you're weak
and you take the safe route. Safety when when it comes to terms of attractiveness means
that you're willing to offend and because of that she views you as a strong man. And
this leads her to believe that you are a safe valuable option to actually stick with be
with or want to get to know fellas I genuinely hope that this video served And if it did
serve you, and maybe you want to take the next step to work in one to one with me, you
have two opportunities. First and foremost, you're maybe in the boat where it's hard for
you to speak or to attract women. Maybe it's hard for you to approach women, you don't
necessarily know the right way to communicate with them and you're a single man struggling,
here's what I would like you to do. I want you to go down below, I want you to click
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