- If you find yourself constantly thinking
about someone who isn't available,
you feel like you're emotionally stuck
on an unavailable guy,
what can you do to get him out of your system,
out of your mind, out of your heart
so that you can really move forward?
Well, today I'm gonna share with you a technique
that is going to work miracles.
You are going to love this. Check it out!
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Hey there, this is Mat Boggs,
and I'm the founder of the Love and Relationships Division
here at the Brave Thinking Institute,
where our mission is empowering people
to create and live lives they love,
and that includes your love life.
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Now, if you've ever been in that place,
or maybe you are now, where your heart is connected
to somebody that isn't emotionally available,
they're not available for a relationship with you,
that unrequited love, that is a really tough place to be,
because there's a part of you that knows that
if you're really gonna create
the relationship that you want,
you've gotta move forward,
but there's another part of you
that's still in love with that person
and wants that relationship to work out.
And so how do you stop thinking about that person?
How do you rid them from your heart energy?
How do you shed that energy from them
so that you can really move forward?
So I wanna talk to the part of you that knows
that you're ready to move forward,
not the part of you that hopes
that one day you can rekindle that relationship.
If you think that's a good partner
and you wanna rekindle that relationship,
I've got other videos for you
on this channel that can serve you.
But what I wanna talk about is
if you're in the place
where you're actually really are ready to move on,
you wanna create something new,
and yet your mind is still thinking about that ex.
And so here is the principle.
A client of mine recently asked me,
"Mat, how do I stop thinking about the ex?"
And here's the catch, you can't.
You can't make yourself stop thinking about someone else.
What you can do is start thinking about something different.
Check this out.
If I ask you right now, do not think about a pink elephant.
Don't do it! Don't think about a pink elephant.
Do not think about a giant, beautiful pink elephant
with that long trunk and those big legs,
and that little tail that comes out,
and those big floppy ears.
Don't think about the pink elephant.
Don't think about pink tusks
that are coming out from the elephant.
What are you thinking about?
Well, of course, in your mind,
you're seeing that pink elephant.
You see, our subconscious mind cannot
not think about something.
So if you tell yourself, I don't wanna think about him,
what your subconscious mind does is give you images of him.
It gives you images of those relationships.
So what you wanna do is
instead replace what you were thinking
about with something new,
but here's the energetic catch to this,
here's the energetic advanced move.
You see, you still have feelings for him,
but it's not a good relationship.
So what you do instead of squashing those feelings,
or instead of trying to reduce those feelings,
or feel guilty for those feelings
or ashamed of those feelings,
there's an old aikido technique
where you don't resist the energy, you redirect the energy.
And so imagine, when you want to think about him,
imagine that energy swooping out in his direction
and like a boomerang, swooping out and coming back
and coming forward into your life,
and instead you're imagining all the amazing qualities
that you loved about this person,
all the amazing attributes that you have
and you're sending them forward,
and then you're stacking the gap.
See, there's a reason why you're not with this person.
He didn't have every quality that you wanted.
He didn't have, he wasn't willing to reciprocate the love.
He wasn't willing to reciprocate the emotions
or the commitment, or whatever was required.
So those are gaps.
So as you swoop the energy forward into your life
and to a new possibility,
stack onto that the added attributes that were missing,
the commitment, the energy, the consistency,
the love, the communication, whatever it is that's missing,
into some new possibility
and put yourself in an imagined scene.
You don't have to imagine exactly what the guy looks like.
Just feel his energy,
and it can be some big, beautiful,
bright scene that you would love, a romantic scene,
maybe you and him on a date,
you and him on a vacation together,
you and him on a lazy Sunday morning together,
but some place that feels really good to you
and you can feel his energy,
you can feel the connection between the two of you,
you can feel the chemistry that you have,
you can feel the deep love that you share for one another
and feel it, and allow yourself
to really expand that energy.
So you're actually utilizing the energy
that you had for that past relationship,
swooping it forward into a new possibility,
and instead of thinking about that past relationship,
imagine some new future reality
with you and this brilliant, beautiful new relationship
that you're drawing into your life.
I can't express to you how powerful this move is.
Because here's the alternative
is if you think about your ex,
you feel bad about thinking about your ex,
you feel ashamed about not being able to overcome that,
all of that energy compounds and locks you into that ex.
It actually burns into your mind,
burns into your heart, and locks the two of you together.
Instead, utilize that energy,
move it forward, imagine something different,
put that imagine in your brain,
burn that imagine into your brain and your heart,
and you will transform.
I've had so many clients use this.
In fact, one recently who was hung up
on an ex joined my Manifest Your Man program,
learned this technique,
used that energy to create something new,
and she was like: Holy moly, Mat,
I have been hung up on this ex for over a year.
I'm doing this process.
I'm doing everything that you're teaching,
and I met this new man in my life,
and I know you had always said the best is yet to come,
and there's always something better out there,
and there was a part of me that believed that,
but there was another part of me that was like,
"No way, this other person I had so much chemistry,
so much connection.
It was just impossible to meet someone better."
And yet, this guy is even better.
We connect on so many levels.
We're so passionate. We have so much chemistry.
Thank you for this technique.
Thank you for helping me stay connected to that possibility.
So I wanna share that with you.
Try this out, put it to the test,
put it to work for you,
and you will see amazing results.
My question for you is,
what do you do if you find yourself thinking constantly
about an unavailable guy?
What have you done to disconnect
and allow yourself to move forward?
Go ahead and post those strategies, those ideas,
in the comment section below.
I appreciate you. Thank you for watching.
Here is to your amazing love story,
and I'll see you soon.
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