- So who is weirder men or women?
Well, I think that us guys and say
that you women definitely weirder,
and I think you women might just say that us guys
might just be the strangest creatures to ever exist.
And that is especially true
if you're wondering whether or not we're into you,
because us guys can do some really crazy stuff
when we're starting to fall for our girl
and we do even weirder things
when we're really not into a woman.
So in today's video, I'm going to open up your eyes
about some of our weird behavior
so that you can stop wasting your time on the wrong guys
and put your emotional energy
in the right places, keep watching.
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So let's jump into this five weird signs
that he's not into you.
Number one, is that he'll text you all the time
but he won't actually want to see you.
There's this weird psychological phenomenon
that started happening ever since
we started carrying phones everywhere we went,
where people would text other people
and keep the conversation going with very little intentions
of seeing that person in real life.
Maybe it's a guy you met online
or maybe you met him at a party somewhere
and you got his number and you're exchanging
and you text and you conversate all the time
but there's absolutely no plan to see each other
in real life.
In my love accelerator coaching program,
we call these guys orbiters.
They will orbit around you and continue
that conversation with you,
but they will never actually ask you out.
This is definitely a sign, not into you.
Number two, is that he's not bothered at all
by you flirting with other men.
Now I'm not implying that you should intentionally
try to go out there and flirt with other guys
to make him jealous.
Even though you probably will, you sexy minx,
but if you do find yourself casually bantering
with maybe one of the most handsome guys at the party
and the guy that you're talking to across the room
doesn't even bat an eye or isn't even concerned at all
well, maybe there's a problem there.
Now, both men and women feel jealousy
but there's some evidence that shows
that men tend to feel more jealousy
when it comes to sexual infidelity.
So if he doesn't care what you do
or who you're going out with,
and certainly if you're hooking up with other people,
definitely not into you.
Number three is that he doesn't share his world with you.
If you don't know anything about this guy,
his friends, his coworkers, his family, where he lives,
then chances are he's trying
to purposely hide his world from you.
Be very careful if you've been talking to a guy
for certainly more than two or three months
and you don't know any of this information about him,
because it's very possible that his world
that you don't know about might include another woman
or who knows another man, I don't know.
The reality is when a guy is into you,
he wants to up his world to you.
He wants to share his life with you
and start exploring how it is that you work together
and combine your lives
and if he's not into you,
he's going to hide it at all costs.
Number four, is that he treats you just like a buddy.
Does he burp or maybe even fart in front of you?
Does it feel like he's just a friend,
but there's no romantic chemistry?
Does he only call you when he's hanging out
with a big group of people
and he knows he's not gonna have to have
a lot of one on one time with you?
Do you feel absolutely no romantic undercurrent
within the relationship?
Then he is not into you.
I just talked to one of our clients in my coaching program
and she's gone out with a guy 20 times
and he hasn't tried to kiss her at all.
It's at this point that we have to assume
he's just not into you, sorry.
And finally number five is that he'll come in strong,
he'll pull you in
and then once he has you he'll pull away.
This is what I call emotional energy vampires.
They suck the emotional energy from you
and they'll push and pull and they'll go hot
and they're cold
and ultimately they will leave you
wasting time and your life maybe two, three years
and will never commit to you.
Don't waste your time on guys who are just playing games.
Now, when you're dealing with a guy
who has kind of this weird behavior,
I'm talking about in this video,
there's a couple of things you can do.
One is bad and two are good, all right?
You can start getting weird yourself
and use passive aggressive behavior
to see if he gets the hint,
that would be the wrong thing to do.
Or if you have been actually dating this guy
for any period of time, over two months,
sit down with him,
have a real adult conversation with him and see
where's his head at.
That would be one good thing to do.
Or the final thing that you can always do
if a guy is just not that into you,
you could say that four letter magical words
say with me, it is next and move on
and find the next guy who will actually give you
his emotional energy in a very real way.
Whatever you do,
don't go on pretending that this behavior isn't weird.
Don't lie to yourself.
Get real with the behavior that's going on
and make a real decision in your love life.
Be intentional, be smart
and if you want some help in your love life,
make sure you head on over to lovestrategies.com
where you can find resources that will help you through
every single stage of finding love and keeping love.
Thank you so much for watching
and I'll speak to you, you sexy single lady next week.
All right, bye bye.