Hey guys,
so I'm sure you have a long list
of reasons why men should stay single
but here are the three biggies.
So, as much as I know
you do deserve to find love
sometimes staying single
is the best option for you
either for now or forever.
If you've been
rejected, hurt,
or heartbroken by a woman
yes, you are in the right place.
And if you've spent enough time
in the pickup artist community
and gotten good at getting women
but feel empty inside
you are also in the right place.
Staying single doesn't have to be forever
but sometimes it should be.
Let's look at when you should stay single temporarily
whether or not you're getting some action
and when staying single forever
might be the best choice for you.
You need to stop thinking about what women want
and start thinking and focusing
on what you really want and need
so you can get on with your life.
Welcome to just the tip.
Okay, so first let's look at
when to stay single temporarily.
Sometimes whether you want to stay celibate or not
it's a good idea to take a break
from pursuing women
for the purpose of a relationship.
In fact, sometimes you need to.
Number one, self-improvement.
Sometimes you need to focus on self-improvement
and not worry about what
women are doing out in the world
and whether or not you should be with one right now.
In fact, sometimes staying single
can be the best option for you
maybe temporarily whether you're younger or older.
You may want to focus on
building or perhaps rebuilding your kingdom
after a heartbreak or divorce
or a lot of rejection.
and you might even need to practice monk mode
more on that in a minute.
How do you know
if you should stay single
and focus on self-development?
Here's the key,
if you feel
like you don't have enough to offer
the kind of woman you want
then you need to pull back
and start focusing on building those areas
to improve yourself.
Even if you're actually wrong about those things
you may actually have
what it takes to get the kind of woman you want,
but if you don't believe that
then it's not going to happen.
If you think you can or you think you can't you're right,
and sometimes you are right.
Sometimes what you have to offer
isn't going to be good enough
for the kind of woman you want.
If you want an Ashley who's way up here
and has a lot of options
then you need to be able to
elevate yourself into her top options
if that's who you want,
that's just the nature of it.
Just like you, if you have lots of options
are you going to choose someone who's below your standard?
Probably not neither is Ashley.
And it could take months or even years
to improve yourself to where you think you need to be
to where you feel you need to be
to attract your Ashley.
Some of the things you might want to focus on are
finishing posted,
moving out on your own,
getting a solid job,
paying off debt,
losing 30 pounds of flab,
gaining 20 pounds of muscle.
Hint, don't neglect your calves.
Developing confidence,
building a social circle,
rebuilding what divorce stole from you,
more on that in a minute.
So, if you're not where you know you need to be
to get the kind of woman
your standards dictate you should have
or that you want to have
then you need to start focusing on the things that you know
within yourself will help get you there.
You'll be less likely to settle
just to settle down
or catch feelings
for someone you thought was just a casual
fling until you get to your Ashley,
but really she's a throwback,
which kind of brings us to monk mode.
Two, detox sexual addiction
uh-oh, monk mode.
Some men who spent a lot of time
in the pickup artist community
and really developed their skills
get addicted to
the thrill of landing a target.
And they may be very good at landing some action,
but they may not have had to develop
the skills to develop emotional intimacy,
which is what a long-term relationship requires.
And then they wonder why
the only women they attract
are the ***
that also have emotional intimacy issues
or perhaps are emotionally damaged,
then they start thinking
all women are cheaters with no integrity.
Or hypergamous and want to level up and will level up.
And then sometimes even they end up settling just to settle down
with someone who's easy to get
but doesn't meet their relationship standards
and then they end up in toxic relationships,
which only confirm terms their biases about all women.
In fact, some pickup artists can become
the loneliest men out there
because they think wrongly
that there's no woman that can actually satisfy their needs,
their true emotional relationship needs.
If you're addicted
to the chase, the capture, and the close
but can't get past that
or end up in toxic relationships
you may want to take a break and choose
to stay single and celibate
for now temporarily,
which brings us to the third
of the three big reasons
why men should choose to stay single for now
and then we'll look at why you might want to stay single forever.
Number three, recover from heartache.
Whether you've never gotten any action
or you've gotten a ton of action with
bad news bears women
you've probably experienced
heartbreak at some point in time.
Staying single for now
can be your best option
if you're recovering from a toxic relationship,
breakup or death of a partner.
You're choosing to stay single for now
so that you don't make a mistake
by choosing someone out of
desperateness or loneliness.
And this isn't the time to date
it's time to work on healing
and rebuilding your confidence and vitality.
Again, this is a time when you want to focus on repairing
what needs improvement.
But there are other times
when staying single forever
is the best option for you
let's look at those now.
MGTOW and misogyny.
Men going their own way
it probably goes without saying
but I'll say it.
If you hate women don't date them,
you won't be happy, they won't be happy,
you won't attract a good one
and if you attract any of them
they'll be toxic and it'll only further
your bias against all women.
You should note not all men
who identify with
or like the philosophy of
men going their own way are misogynist
that is a fallacy.
Because of fourth wave feminism
few men nowadays want to date never mind marry
masculine dominant overbearing women sure.
Some men do appreciate an independent woman
who isn't a drain on their pocketbook.
But like misogyny I'm talking about
women who look down on men
just for being born men
that's what I mean by fourth wave feminism.
And social media does make it difficult for good men
because even average women
are flaunting their wares
like their God's gift.
They think they have unlimited options
because of all the simping and Chad's fake Chads
sliding into their DMS
and if you want to know what simping looks like keep watching.
Now, some men who identify
with the philosophy of men going their own way
do hook up with women but they're just
anti-relationship, anti-marriage
and others prefer monk mode no sex at all
and that's okay.
Again, regardless if you want to be happy in life
you have to fix what needs repair.
I want to caution you to be careful
of some of the online forms that are out there
that discourage you from bettering your life
because they think you're only doing it for women.
No, do it for you.
You can swear off women for the rest of your life
still and make improvements in your life for you.
They are not looking out for your best interests,
they want to keep you in their negative
angry position
so you don't even have a chance out in the world.
Because somewhere deep inside
they know if you do improve yourself
that women are going to be attracted to you
and that might be a temptation.
But regardless
if the juice ain't worth the squeeze for you
then staying single is a good option for you,
whether you're hooking up or staying celibate.
And this brings us to number five and then
more on simping.
Number five, religious or spiritual beliefs.
Obviously, well, maybe not obviously
but if you're a pastor priest or actual monk
well then stopping intimate relationships
with women is probably part of your program.
Fair enough, enough said on that one.
Overall only you can decide
if you should choose to stay single for now or forever.
And I invite you
that whatever that choice is for you
you make peace with it
and stop simping.
Simping hurts all men and women.
It puts women on a pedestal
and inflates their egos
turning them into spoiled princesses
who won't even stay loyal to Chad.
And if you're not sure if you are simping
then you need to watch my video
on simping and it'll teach you
if you're simping on social media, online, or in real life.
Watch that now.
Thanks for being here, God bless.